Claystoff

Was in a relationship for nearly a year with my now ex-girlfriend. Relationship was fine, we just needed time apart (aka we both knew we had to break up but neither of us really wanted to). So we did, and things got a little messy and yea. Now, a few problems abound from this. We are in the same group of 20 or so friends so we have to see each other rather frequently. There's not much problem with that, I can be civil, even to the guy she brought to a friend's party. However, everytime I bring a girl to one of these gatherings, I get flamed, not just by her, but by some of the friends that are closer to her than me. This I cannot understand, and have confronted multiple times, but it does not stop. I really don't want our friends picking sides on this or dividing our group, but this might be too late. For the record, I did not even know her when I was with these friends which I had before her. More I and her cousin brought her into the group. Her cousin and I were good friends at one point, but we're quite bitter now. This morning, her older brother, who works in the same area as I do (same parking lot) and I crossed paths. This was the coldest stare I have ever seen in my life, as it was also the coldest stare I was giving that I had ever given. Not a word was exchanged. I don't know what created this hostility, we seemed to get along fine in the past, but this was just intense. Glad I had a meeting to get to or something would have probably come of it. Is there anyway to find out what exactly is causing all this hostility and how to resolve it? Obviously, we need to co-exist, seeing as her cousin/best friend is dating my best friend, we don't have a choice. We've both now blocked and deleted each other from contact lists and such, and been advised not to call each other, but what the hell am I to do?

Yea I guess this is the right forum. Seems close, if not, kindly move it for me. Anyways, here's the situation. Met a girl at university (Waterloo) some distance away. I hate school, but she helped me stick it through the second semester. I applied a bunch of places for jobs, and got on in Ottawa. School finished a couple weeks ago, and I as well as her moved here. Her family lives here, so she is living with them and I am in an apartment. Then we broke up about 2 days after moving here. I know no one in this city except my co-workers who are all years older than me. Literally, I know a bunch of married 30 year olds and this girl. I don't have any problems with her, we're kinda in that lingering friend thing. I'm over her, that's fine. I'd like her to be a friend, namely cause of my problem. I know no one here. No one. I'm not shy, persay, but I'm much better if I have someone I know just standing there so I can meet other people. I'm not particularly looking for a girlfriend right now, just friends, and I really don't know how or where to meet people. Like I said, I am by myself. MY friends are some 500 KMs. Don't blame the ex, career-wise, this was and is the best opportunity, however, socially it is suicide. If anyone can give places an 18 year old male can find some friends, lemme know. I'll be fine once school starts up again in September (staying here for school, I changed majors and unis) it's the summer I need to get through though.

Sometimes, that is easier said than done. In my situation, I just finished school and moved to a new town for a job. At university, I met this girl, we got involved. A year or so has passed, and the school year finished. I got a job offer in this new town, which happens to be where she is from, so I accepted. We got here, and over the course of a month, faded apart. I know only her in this town, and am too poor to be able to go out and do anything that costs money at all. I'm not asking for you to give me guidance, I'm just saying you really have to evaluate each case on its own. For mine, I have no hard feelings towards her, I just want her to be a friend and help me get established here.

I'd like to think he'd know if he is sleeping with a virgin beforehand due to conversation.

Thank you RayKay. We always use a condom so it is not ejaculate. Next time I think we'll move away from KY Jelly and try something else like an oil-based lube, maybe that's the issue. Not that I need to justify myself but the reason for anal is a combination of exploration and as a release during the monthly run. It was her idea to try it and she and I both enjoy it minus the aftermath. Thanks for the ideas, if you have any others, thanks in advance.

Most guys like teasing. I know I do. Again, every guy is different, so I'll just give some of what is commonly appreciated. There's all the acts of foreplay. Blowjobs, teabagging, nipple play, finering (yes, you can finger a guy). Some guys also like pleasuring you and get turned on by that. Not many guys, myself included, dislike performing anal on a girl. Honestly, it feels a lot different and if you want a change, that could be it. You asked about toys? Um, handcuffs are a simple one. Finger vibrators are another simple toy. I don't know how into the anal you are, but at that point, there are beads and plugs.

My girlfriend and I have been together a while. We've tried things sexually, and moved to anal. Everything during the act goes fine, but afterwards she experiences diarrhea like symptoms. This does not occur right after, but rather starts in some hours and lasts roughly a day. I've done some research into this and one of the problems I've heard was saliva causes this. I somewhat doubt that, however I accept it as a possibility. We have used lube, but everytime saliva has also been involved during the fingering process before penetration. I'm looking for reasons as to why this diarrhea-like effect occurs, and how to prevent it so we can both enjoy anal sex without any unwanted after effects. Thanks.