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Here are my searches link removed AND link removed Look at the other results, there are many of them that are negitive. All I'm saying is from the results, it's much more used from what I can tell.

Funny, I've never heard a woman called that, no one I asked has either. Not saying you're wrong but I did a search on google for more information. Quick Google Search: Minute-man +orgasm (so to not get the minute-men of the colonial war) - 2,370,000 results Google Search: frigid woman +orgasm hits. 87,100 results And so I read one of the FIRST few reslts on frigid woman and got this: I think it's looked as more of a male problem. If a woman can't get off her guy is doing something wrong. But if I guy can't get off it's his fault. That is the view that society seems to have, not saying any of it is right. As for the rest of your comment, I assume you're talking to someone else about that... but I will say one last thing. In my opinion, sex is almost 90% emotional and 10% physical. If either side is not getting off or just enjoying sex, there is a bigger issue at hand. It is all about enjoying something together that is special between only the couple. The act of enjoying each other and sharing that intimacy helped by the physical stimulation is what makes a really extraordinary orgasm.

Here is a link to the durgs for men... link removed I've also read before they have had drugs out there, but the problem with men is they tend to forget to take it... or didn't care enough to remember. P.S. Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy. -- Henry Kissinger

Ok, while you had a very good point, it got lost in most of your rant. First, it's very unfair that men are labeled with titles such as "minute-man", made fun of on TV, in jokes etc... But I don't know of a single joke or title about a women who can't reach orgasm. That is a double standard there. However, that are infact, very few drugs on the market for women and their sex drive. They are there, but from what you and I've seen, it's 1/50th of the ones for men. I would guess that might be because traditionally women's sexual side hasn't been embraced. That is society, not just women, who are to blame there. There are side effects to birth control, sometimes they even reduce sex drive and sensitivity. So the very thing women take to have sex could make them not want it as much. I think there are double standards on both sides. Why is it still mostly seen as the women's responsiblity to take birth control? Why do men get tormented if they can't perform? Hopefully your point isn't going to be lost in the fact you're ranting and generalizing women. P.S. I'm a man.

Good question, maybe I'll think about that after I'm finished pondering about my clone question.

Well, what if she was busy at work? Or wanted to go out with her friends? That way I'd always have one around to enjoy. But lets say for arguments sake, that memories are just electrical pathways in the brain, and that we have developed a way to reproduce those pathways and thereforeeee reproduce memories and personality? So what we really have is two complete copies?

Um... lets just say hyperthetically speaking... ;-)

Hi all, I was wondering if you thought it was wrong to have a sexual relationship with a clone of your GF? I mean since they are the same person, DNA speaking, it's not really cheating is it? And it's not like I'm thinking of someone else because it's her, just another version of her... So what do you all think? Is it wrong? Would you do it?

Bostich, Look at your messages... You hacked into his account and he is mad. Well yes he is mad, you invaded his space and privacy. And then you say "But do you think it gets to a point where its been too long, like the person is holding onto anger in an unhealthy way?" You're just trying to escape the guilt of doing something wrong and blame him in the process. This is YOUR insecurity and YOUR mistake. Let him come to terms with it. Look at it from his point of view, you didn't trust him enough to keep from snooping on him. How would you feel if he checked your phone bill to see the numbers of people you talk to? Usually when someone does snooping like this, there are serious issues in the relationship BESIDES the action. And the relationship is not as good as people would like to think it was. Last point is this. If you won't give someone to prove they are trustworthy, then they will often begin to not care since they have nothing to let down.

Okay, I've been doing NC for 1 month, 1 day, and I'm sick and tired of thinking about her and missing what we had. I know we had all those bad problems. I know that she wasn't getting any better. But I can't seem to get over her. Been going to a counselor for 1 1/2 months now, not helping much. Read books, tons of messages on these forums, and still keep going back down low. I broke it off with her... and she hasn't called. I think that if she did that would make me feel a little better. And yes, I know I have a co-dependancy problem that I'm still trying to solve. But no matter what I do I can't stop thinking about her. How she was a good person under all the problems she and I had. Simple fact is I had a connection with her that I've never hard with anyone in my entire life. (family included) So what else can I do here? I'm driving myself nuts trying to stick with this NC and get over her. But so much of me doesn't want to let go. Help please!

You know, most people do this until they start to realize that the problem isn't all the other bad people in the world, it's you. Before you get all upset with what I just said, think about it for a bit. You attract and are attracted to people who are like you. Most often what happens is you are lacking something and looking to someone else to complete it. For example, myself, I have had problems with self esteem. I thought the best I could do is take people who had problems and fix them. WRONG answer and each time I wound up with what I went after. A loser who just brought me down. Other friends I have do something else... They have problems with anger so they find some submissive guy who takes it. Then they get mad that he doesn't make any choices for himself. Or that he won't take a stand on things. The problem isn't the other person, it's that they went after someone because of their problems. To break the pattern we have to fix ourselves FIRST. Then when you are happy and a safe person you will attract and be attracted to good people. Start with your support network and make good friends. Go from there. Good luck.

Man, if my ex called me and told me that, I don't think I could tell her no. That's what I wanted her to do, go get help with her problems. Admit she did some wrong, and of course change. I totally understand what you're saying about not wanting them back after they have hurt you. But the thing is this... People can change, but it usually takes a lot of pain to do it. For me, I had been hurt enough that it made me break up with her. It made me see how I needed help for myself. So I started going to counseling. I got involved back with all my old friends. It did change me... Now I know I want to be projecting my feelings on to her, but if she really did change too then we could be happy. I think you told her the right thing, I just don't think I'm strong enough to tell my ex that if she said the same thing to me. I'm in week 3 (almost 1/2) of NC now. She sent me a card for thanksgiving but I didn't reply. Congrats on staying strong, I hope we all can be that way when our time comes too.

Thanks for the support... Did you mean to say contact her??? I assume you ment not contact her.

I don't want to meet someone new right now. I know that as much as I'm hurting it wouldn't be fair to someone else. Plus, I'm not sure who I am anymore. I want to be secure in that before I start looking for someone new. So I've kept myself away from the dating scene. That just makes it harder in a way too. Yesterday, last night most of all, was very hard for me. I missed her so much and couldn't get her off my mind. Woke up thinking about her again. But seeing as how she hasn't tried to fix her end of things, nor really contact me she doesn't care. Or she moved on. I need to do the same once I can find the strength.

10 months. We did everything together and it's so hard to enjoy anything without her. I had a connection with her that I've never had with anyone else before. (been married even) I keep trying to convince myself that it's totally over and that I will move on. But then I keep thinking to myself maybe she will change and get some help... just maybe if...