katiekate1982

15 for me. I believe it was Milwaukee's Best beer (The Beast!!) How terrible.

Hello.... Well I commend you for eating right and exercising both of which are very important for living a healthier life. As far as shaving your stomach/back, I personally wouldn't do it. It will come back thicker and darker, just not a wise choice. You could check out other options like laser hair removal, possibly waxing, etc. Good luck!!!

Thank you all for your replies. I'm sure everything will turn out the way it should. He does seem very happy with me and he opens doors holds my hand and is very polite. Not in a cheesy way or in a let me get in your pants way, he is very genuine, and that is what I like the most. When it comes to love I should relax, it isn't a race. If him and I are meant to be we will. Thanks again!!

My boyfriend and I just started dating its been almost 2 months, and we've gotten really close to each other. I'm 23 and he is 33. He hasn't had that many relationships, and the ones he has had haven't lasted that long. He said the woman he has dated would "flake" out, Say they liked him one day and the next they didn't. So I think he is afraid of getting hurt. I have a lot of feelings for him and he said he does for me, but i've been hurt before and am very cautious about getting hurt again. Well anyway last night we went out for a couple of drinks and I told him that I thought I was falling in love with him, he looked at me and smiled, he looked very happy and said he likes me very much. Today we hung out all day I told him I meant what I said last night, but I feel stupid, he asked why, and he told me I shouldn't feel stupid at all he likes me very much and is happy with me. My questions are.... Do you think I've said the "I love you" too soon? Is it bad that he didn't say it back? I like him very much and I know he likes me, but I am used to a guy saing it 1st to me or saying it back when I say it. I had to tell him I have such strong feelings for him I couldn't not say it, and I felt relieved after I told him. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any thoughts/ comments are more then welcome. Thank you!!!

We have spent time together, although he says he is a busy guy, but the way I think, if you want something you will make time. Actually I do most of the calling. He did tell me he isn't sure if he wants a relationship. I think he is afraid of getting hurt, but at the same time I cannot put my own feelings on the line for him right now. He has mentioned that he is the type of person who like to just let things happen and not rush them. Should I just try not to contact him, be nice to him at work (keep it simple), and let things work themselves out? He knows how I feel about him. I don't want to keep chasing him, he can start to chase me!! I don't want to play games, i'm too good for that!! Thanks for listening.

I guess i'm old-fashioned in a way. I want him to court me. At the same time I want him, and of course having sex with him is nice. I hope I haven't ruined anything by sleeping with him. It is already too late for my feelings i've already fallen for him pretty hard. How do I know if he feels the same way, without asking him? I will, but what signs should I look for?

Thank you for your response. We are having sex, it started by accident one night and has happened a couple more times since then. It seems like i'm the aggressor with that, but i'm sure he doesn't mind. Although he has told me, he would just love to lay and cuddle with me and I do feel the same. We both have feelings for each other and I don't believe it is just because of the sex issue.

Hello Everyone!! Its been a long time since i've been here. Well I hope everyone has been doing okay!! I met a guy who seems great, good looking, intelligent, hard working, and into sports. Him and I both like eack other and are trying to get to know each other better. We work together, I just started working with him, and that does make it a little difficult. He seems like a GOOD guy, but he does seem guarded with his feelings as am I. He has been hurt in the past, as have I. We want to take things slow, but both of us are nervous and unsure of what will happen, we both like each other alot and there is a chemistry, but we don't know exactly what are next move should be with the relationship thing. We aren't labeled as "boyfriend, girlfriend" yet. I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to take things slow, and how to start off a relationship, well start off a GOOD relationship? We are messing around and do hang out and enjoy each others company. I don't want to mess this up, well the potential of "US". How should I approach him in a non confronting way, but so he understands more of my feelings for him?? Any advice is greatly appreciated!! Thank you all!!

Hey Esboogie!! I'm sorry you are feeling like this right now. TRY not to call it more then likely won't make you feel any better afterwards. Believe me I know it sucks, but if you ever want to be back with him, play hard to get. I'm sure once you don't call him, he'll wonder whats going on and probably call you. I've read a few of your last posts, and I feel horrible for your situation, but it will get better. I personally try not to have any contact with my ex of 2 months, VERY hard at times, he usually tries to call me and sometimes I return the call. I sent him a " Happy Easter" email the other day and basically it said just that. He already called back and left me a message saying to call him when I had a chance. I know its my own fault for emailing him in the 1st place, but I was trying to be friendly and that is the type of person I am. I just wish he would have emailed me back saying the same instead of calling, cause I know I will feel guilty if I don't call. ERRRRR! I'm sorry I was going on about me. You have to worry about you and try not to stress about this guy, you seem like a very nice person who deserves much better. Maybe my little story will make you feel a little better. Well anyway, take care of yourself and stay strong, DON'T CALL HIM!!!! Take care, Katie

Hey Es!! I must agree with some of the others this isn't healthy and is a bit childish, but i'm sure you know that now, and what is done is done. Move on and don't play any more of these games!! Just don't stoop to his level, not matter how much it affects you. TRY to be the bigger person. Don't let him take away you dignity and respect for yourself!! Hang in there!! Katie

Hello Esboogie!! I'm sorry you are feeling soo much pain right now, but it WILL get better!! I'm going through a similliar situation myself. I'm sure you know you have NO control over someones free-will. I've read a few of your posts and this man seems like a jerk, who doesn't deserve you!! I don't mean to sound harsh here, but YOU need to worry about yourself right now and MOVE ON with your own life. I know its hard, but I'm sure you can do it, don't make any contact with him and if he tries to contact you, ignore his attempts, that is the only way to heal right now. I'm sure once you make yourself happy with you, and are content with things. He will come back, they always do, and hopefully by that time you are healed up enough to tell him, SORRY, but you had your chance. Then maybe he will think about things, but don't count on it. Also you said he may be with someone else? If that is the case, he isn't sitting there worrying about you, he is having a good time with that other person! I'm sorry I know this sounds mean, but sometimes people are selfish and do horrible things at the other persons expense. It is now up to you to do things that make YOUR life better and more satisfying for yourself. I hope this helps!! If you need someone to talk to you can p.m. me any time. Also if you want you can read my story, sometimes that helps get your mind off of yours. (Sorry I don't know how to insert yet...LOL) Take Care and stay STRONG!!! Katie

Hello, I'm sorry that you are feeling soo down right now, IT WILL get better, trust me!! I'm also depressed although mine is situational. I just saw my doc and he prescribed Lexapro for me. I haven't noticed a change really, but I also just started, but I do know you are suppossed to take them as prescribed and really shouldn't miss ANY doses, cause that can cause more harm then good. Since you are feeling the way you are call you doc and get in right away OR call you pharmacy and talk to them about what you should do in the mean time. I also know that there is NO magic pill to cure your depression by itself, YOU have to work on yourself too. I know right now it is EXTREMELY tough, but try to find things you enjoy or that you once enjoyed. Also TRY to surround yourself around POSITIVE people and make good choices that might make your situation a little better. I hope this helps!! Feel free to p.m. me any time you need a friend or to chat!! Take care, Katie

Hi, Well my ex and I broke up 2 months ago, he was the dumper, he cheated. We now live in different states now. We didn't talk after the break up, only about getting bills settled cause we had lived together, he was always very rude to me. Then about a week ago he called, "just to see how I was doing". It was all very confusing for me, he gave me some very mixed signals and then when I showed a little bit of interest he seemed to become distant. Tonight I talked to him and said I CANNOT talk to him anymore until, he decides what he really wants ( about us). Honestly If I were you I wouldn't hope for anything, if it is meant to be it will happen. Personally I'm doing much worse now then when we initially broke up, guys play games sometimes you have to be careful. Remember you are more important than some silly guy, even if you do love him, you have to love YOURSELF more!! I should really take my own advice....LOL. Well anyway stay strong and TRY not to get your hopes up or put your life on hold for him.

Hey Everyone!! Well I just talked to my ex, him and I said we would talk today and we did, this time I called him. I asked him if he thought about anything he said yes, and I said okay what did you think about? He said I don't know. I went on for a little bit about things and how I would like things to turn out ( us together), and it seemed as if he were still distant. So I told him I can't take this anymore, I just don't want to play these games. He then said I don't want to lose you, as a friend. I said how do you think you would be a good friend when you weren't such a good boyfriend and then I asked him why. He said I don't know, we had something special and I don't want to lose that. I then asked him if when he had a chance he could mail me some of my boxes, he said maybe saturday, when he gets more money. I asked him to do 2 things, 1.) mail me my boxes. 2.) See someone to talk to ( so he can get his emotions settled and things worked out for himself), He paused and said okay. I then asked him if he could not call me until his mind was made up ( about us). I was nice but to the point. Who knows sometimes people hear only what they want to hear. I just couldn't go on talking to him @ my expense, I think it was making him feel better, and I was sacraficing my feelings for him. It was extremely unfair for me. I hope I can get through this, I know I have to remain strong. Its hard for me I still do have feelings for him, but I have to decide who is more important and right now that person is ME!! If something is meant to happen it will, but I can't put MY life on hold to see if that is even possible. Does anyone have any advice for me on how to get through this, again? I guess I should have known better than to want to go back to the fire that burned me in the 1st place. This has set me back in my progress. Well thanks to everyone for reading and listening to me!! I hope I can get through this and get him off my mind!!

Hi everyone, It feels like i've been posting a lot lately!! Well anyway my ex recently started calling me again. A little recap I moved to FL. with him, I am now back in WI. where we are both from he is still in FL. He was cheating thats why I left. So needless to say we didn't reak up on "Good terms". The breakup was about 2 months ago, we have had VERY minimal contact since then it consisted of him calling me to get bills settled, things like that, and he was never very civil to me when he would call. Well to my surprise He called about a week ago, left a message, I didn't call back then a few days later, he called and left another message. I didn't want to be rude so I called him back, and to my surprise he was very nice, we chatted about all different things. He had also stated that he missed me and I agreed. He also mentioned that he and the woman he cheated on me with were no longer together. Well needless to say this phone call left me VERY confused and a helpless feeling, it also seemed as if he didn't know what he wanted, but I could tell something was bothering him. I didn't talk to him for about a week and then yesterday (Monday) He called again, this time sounding upset about something. He said he was upset because he heard I cheated on him, which isn't true. I told him this is crazy and I don't want to play games anymore. He said he was sorry and that he believed me. He called me back later last night, cause he wanted to talk, well I was the one who did most of the talking. I then was frank with him and asked him what he wanted from me!! He said well I just wanted to talk and I said well I can't handle that unless there is a chance for us in the future possibly. I again asked him what he wanted from me and he said for us to be friends. I paused. He said does that make you mad, I said yes, just because you called and created all these old emotions again and he said I'm sorry I don't want to see you sad. Then he progressed to say, But i'm not ruling out the possibility of us ever being together. He has left me very confused with all of these mixed signals. I told him he needeed to get help to sort out his emotions and he said I know. I do still love him and would like to possibly TRY to start things up again, but I don't know how to approach the situation without seeming desperate. I don't want to play games either. I'm suppossed to call him tonight, I guess to try and figure things out, so we will see. Why is he acting this way? One minute he acts as if he wants to be with me and the next he is acting so distant. My question is how do I get some type of closure or how do I tell him how I really feel and find out what he really wants? Thank you!! Any comments are welcome. I just feel that some things are worth fighting for!! Katie