Hello:
I'm glad I found this forum. I moved to a new city where I didn't know anyone and started dating a man who I really thought could be the one. We had many adventures together in the 4 months that we dated. He even introduced me to his family on Christmas. Then, he became distant and started pulling away. Then, he goes on vacation and doesn't call. When I called him upon his return, he told me he wanted to break up. At first I thought that since it had only been four months, I'd get over it. But the thought of not being with him anymore made me miss him and I went crazy. He came back for a few days to help me pick up the pieces out of guilt. That gave me a false hope that in time he would want to get back together. I finally called him and begged him to give us another chance and he refused, saying he never felt it for me and never would. I am so bewildered and confused. The times we spent together indicated a special connection that wasn't just about sex. I have been not eating or sleeping. He indicated that he didn't want to be in touch for awhile. I have been reading these posts and I understand that I have to take care of myself and move on. But I feel desperate. I want to believe that somewhere in the future, he will re-enter my life. Am I wrong to hope. I know that the only way is no contact. I will not be in touch for him. But I want your advise...has anyone ever had someone shut them down so completely by sayin, "No, I don't feel it for you then had that person come back into their lives wanting to rekindle the flame? I know I should take his "no" at face value and move on. Still, there is some part of me that sees him walking back into my life in the future. Am I wrong to hope? Thanks for listening.
