Empathy

Ha ha! Great topic. I've been getting a good laugh out of the replies everyone has left. I needed a good laugh. I can't think of any pick up lines at the moment. If I ever think of any you will be the first to know.

I understand what you mean about choosing education but that's really hard to do. This is probably bad, but the thing about me is when I get into a relationship with someone my whole world tends to revolve around that person. If they're unhappy, so am I, (I'm VERY empathetic, which explains the name) if I upset that person I feel absolutely HORRIBLE, etc... So it's safe to say that in losing this person my world has come crashing down. It's hard to focus on everyday life when your world is in chaos. By the way, I'm glad my post helped you.

Thank you so much for the reply. But the problem is, I would drop the classes if I could. I still live at home with my parents and they require that I take at least 12 hours so I can stay on their insurance. Plus my dad is not understanding about these things at all. He mocks my pain. He makes fun of me for it and tells me to suck it up. If I dropped my classes I would have to deal with him on top of all of this. I'm stuck with going to school and I can't even drop one class. I know that it might be best if I could but in truth, it's not just my dad, neither of my parents think that a break up is worth me putting my education on hold. But the pain I feel right now is telling me it's definitely worth it. If I could just take a break for one semester It would probably be best but I'm stuck.

It's only been a couple of weeks since my boyfriend and I broke up. It's still extremely painful. I think about him every minute of the day and as if that's not enough, he haunts my dreams as well. I can't escape the memory of him! The worst thing is, I just started my 3rd semester in college a couple of weeks ago. I take night classes and I've already missed 3 classes! One night class is equivalent to 3 day classes. I've been so depressed that I just can't make myself get up and go sometimes. I can't study. Everytime I try to read the words just go through my eyes and out my ears b/c I can't control my thoughts of him. I can't focus in class because my thoughts of him are echoing in my head. I already feel like I've failed in this relationship. The last thing I need is for my pain to cause failure in my education. I try so hard to focus but I can't. My thoughts of him over power my ability to think about anything else. Somebody please tell me what to do. My future is at stake here. By the way, that "a word to the wise" post isn't helping me at the moment. It did at first... Just letting you know in case you can't tell.

I worship you! lol. That was definitely EXCELLENT advice. I was just crying my eyes out 10 minutes ago over my recent break up. Then I read this and it gave me hope (at least for the moment.) I'm sure that 5 minutes from now I'll be torn apart inside but I'll do my best to remind myself of your words. Thank you so much. If you have anything else to say at all let us know.

Here's the story. My boyfriend and I had been together for a year and almost 9 months. We just broke up last week. But I'm having a hard time understanding why. My now ex-boyfriend is in the army. He went into the army when we had been together for 6 months. We'd been doing the long distance thing for a good while and things were rocky. He often talked about us getting married so I could move and live with him. It was an off and on thing. There was a long time where we were having a lot of problems. He just wasn't as verbally affectionate as he could have been, etc. And that really hurt me. When ever I talked to him about it he seemed as if he didn't care. Or he would get mad and fed up with me if I cried. He was just so cold. Then I went to see him and when I left he changed completely. He actually called me crying on the phone the day after I left because he missed me so much. He started talking about marriage again and he seemed very serious. He was determined to have me. Things were perfect! Then on June 25th he came home to surprise me and his family. His dad passed away that same day before they even got to see each other. For a couple of days after that he held on to me and was very close to me and still said that he wanted to get married. Then suddenly, the next thing I know he's telling me we argue too much, when we really didn't! And he was saying that he didn't think we needed to be together. Well, I kind of talked him into staying with me. So, we stayed together for a little while after that. He was so cold and uncaring and all I wanted to do was be there for him. Then I called him last week and told him that we needed to break up b/c I knew that's what he wanted. I talked to him a few days ago and told him the only reason why I did it was b/c I wanted him to be happy. I asked him if it was what he wanted and he said yes. I just don't understand how he could go from being so crazy about me to virtually hating me. What did his father's death do to him? This hurts me because even though I officially broke up with him I was actually the one being dumped. He just couldn't do the dirty work and waited for me to do it. I loved/love him so very much and I'm finding it so hard to carry on. I'm trying not to cry as I'm typing this. I would have given my life for him. Can someone please tell me what could be going on in his mind right now. He won't even talk to me. He's avoiding my phone calls completely and the only reason I need to talk to him is because there are some things that need to be taken care of. Try as I might, I can't get him to pick up the phone. Please tell me how to deal with this. It's so difficult when it's so sudden.