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  1. insomnia
    I'm 5'4" and it seems like women are attracted to me until they find that out. I have met many online and they see my pics and we talk and things are cool but when they find out the height they are disappointed and things aren't the same. And women in person either don't take me seriously when I try to meet them or are interested in my taller friends. Sucks......I give up.
  2. insomnia
    ALSO most of the men on her are talking about women who LEFT US for someone else. So ego has nothing to do with it. My pride tells me not to go loving someone who don't love you...not to chase someone who left you....not to talk to someone who don't talk back. It has nothing to do with "male ego" .....we were promised love and made to feel god and then our loved one leaves for "greener pastures"....why would they want us back if they left us for something they felt was better?
  3. insomnia
    Well so many people talk about the NO CONTACT rule...so I have bben using that to help me heal and also to not make her feel like I can't live without her. BUT though I have given her space by not calling. I have e-mailed her couple times and text messaged her. SHE is the one who doesn't respond. A mutual friend told me she didn't want to try to start a friendship right now cuz it was too soon after the break-up. Maybe that's true. but I wrote her a LONG e-mail the other day about how I am not asking to be "best friends" again but would like us to keep in touch and stop all this awkwardness. She never replied. So the ball in in her court now...I aint trying to be a desperate fool and beg her to come back after she left me and our dreams to be with another..... thing is this is a weird situation because she left me for a woman. So she's living a whole new lifestyle that I couldn't give her and I'll really just have to wait and see what she wants in life....we ARE talking about a 21 year old here. So if you read alot of the break-up forums on this site you will see it's not so easy as to just try to contact the person and maybe they will love you again.
  4. insomnia
    nah you were just giving advice for a normal situation....just happens my situation wasn'y normal.
  5. insomnia
    Just to add....my ex didn't break up with me cuz of any of my insecurities...she actually thoughtg I was quite secure. She broke up with me for another woman....yup. And she was 20. Maybe youth was the issue I dunno.
  6. insomnia
    Anyone living in NYC know where good places or activities where u can meet single 25+ people? Those that live here know it aint the most friendliest town.
  7. insomnia
    she didn't
  8. insomnia
    Well 20 is better than 30
  9. insomnia
    Well the reall reason she broke up with me was she is Bi and for the first time fell in love with a woman. So yeah I guess she does need this time to find herself. But I also asked cuz I seem to always feel more comfortable when I date younger women...in their early 20's but they always seem to last for about a few months and then they want out....we hardly ever argue and I always tell them to talk to me if something bothers them cuz communiction is important. But they always say "everything is fine" and I believe them...then one day poof! A week later they have someone new. Thing is during the realtionship I'm always told "your a wonderful man" or" You are the best thing that ever happened to me" or " I want this for good"...then it changes just out th eblue Maybe it's me.....maybe I'm not bf material..maybe it's the distance(most were long distance relationships)...I dunno. Any women out there looking for a nice 30 yr old man? ha ha.
  10. insomnia
    Thanks all... Mochaleet, you sound like a good woman and I hope u find what you are looking for. Oh and for some that asked.... Im 5' 4"
  11. insomnia
    As for the height thing well I have hear about it everyday....I playede sports in HS and College and I never really had an issue with it until I moved to NYC. Since I have been here I have been thinking about my height because I have been getting alot ALOT of women tell me that height is an issue....in fact I just had a girl tell me last Friday (jokingly) "if I was a man and your height I'd be crying"....I guess I just meet alot of shallow women out here but hey...they have their preferences and I have mine...we all do. Face it ...does the short guy REALLY get looked at in a club full of hundreds of people? Sometimes but I bet he's bought drinks and flashes money (at least where I am the money is key regardless of height) Well I am just dealing with my break-up day by day and upset that I will be spending my 30th without someone special...but I'll be ok... Thanks all for the advice and "yelling at me"... I guess that's what this place is for.
  12. insomnia
    Thanks for the advice all...I was just still hurting from my break-up when I first posted this... As for those who suggest I date women with kids....well...I myself grew up with a single mother and I hated her boyfriends as they didn't care about me. My best times growing up when it was just me and her. I have dated women with children and found myself getting attached to the kid....BUT the problems are 1) I myself am not ready to be a potential step-father nor want to deal with "baby-daddies" 2) When you are with someone with a child and u get attached and things don't work out with the mother then the kid wonders what happened? 3) I want to have someone with the same freedom I have to travel and go out and experience things before I settle down....I don't want to deal with looking for baby-sitters...etc etc. (I know not all single mothers are "freedom-less" but again this is my experience) I have NO PROBLEM with single women with kids....I believe they are the strongest women out there....I just know I AM not good for THEM and I take the childs feelings into consideration. Now YES if I do meet the woman of my dreams and she has a child then....of course I will go for it but until then preferences come from past experiences...including my own.
  13. insomnia
    But what if your ex leaves you for someone of the same sex? Like my ex left me to experience her bi-sexual side and now has a grilfriend....shoudl I believe her when she says I'm the only man for her? I dunno if she left me to explore or if she wasn't happy. I want to treat it like she left me for a man? Cuz it is a different type of situation. Still doing NC though
  14. insomnia
    Problem is my ex's new girl doesn't want her talking to me so I am losing her as a friend as well....I want to call or text her...actually I did text her and she doesn't respond. I hope she calls me on my b-day in two weeks.
  15. insomnia
    SOnjam....I tried that and my ex met a woman and started having feelings for her....became confused and decided to be with her and broke up with me....eventhough we were happy and in love...no arguments. She said her feelings were growing for her and that she didn't want to hurt me. At first she said it was a temporary break but then changed it to permenant. One day she says she is in love with me and the next she says she isn't anymore. A week after I saw her and made love to her for the last time" she started a relatiosnhip with her girl. I know she doesn't want to go "full lesbian"...she is Bi...and she is enjoying her time with the first woman she was ever with.....she says I'm the only man for her but should I believe that? Should I give up on her ever coming back? Did she end it cuz she wants to be with something different or did she break-up because she just didn't wanna be with me.
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