Carnatic

my suggestion for better cardio-vascular fitness would be to do a lot more walking rather than doing a bit more running. If you start walking to work/school/uni/town wherever you usually go by car/bus then you will start to feel a lot more healthier.

Does he know enough of your mates/your current bf that he could makes things difficult if you did avoid him. If not then maybe it would be worth being straight and to the point. Tell him that you don't think this 'being friends' is working, and that maybe it would be best that you didn't see any more of each other. This might involve meeting him though and just being strong and telling him to his face. If you can't let him know you're avoiding him, then you could tell him that your current boyfriend doesn't like the idea of you hanging around with your exs. I know this has many flaws, not least as it would make your boyfriend look like a wanker, but It's all I can think of right now. Best of luck and let us know how it goes.

I've recently met a girl through a friend and we've been on a couple of informal dates. However she lives down at University and I am back home for the summer. It seemed to be going well, even though I sometimes worried about things like, she only ever texted me if I texted her first. My mates just told me to stop worrying, after all when we first met she said I was good looking, funny, nice, genuine etc. Then, I came down here for a week to move in to my house, also hoping to meet her, but she kept saying she couldn't meet me as she was having a very busy week. I texted her a fair bit (but don't think I went over the top) asking when she would be free as I wanted to take her out for a day. Then, yesterday I bumped into her. She said she'd been meainng to talk to me, and said she thought I'd been too pushy, pressuring her into going out with me when she was stressed about other things. Then she said she had read my internet site after one of my mates pointed her mate in it's direction. I had written about her on it, nothing bad, only that I had met this girl I liked, and then once about how I was worried that girls only fell for bastards. She said she didn't like being written about in that way. She also seemed quite wary of me, keeping a few feet away from me as we walked and generally giving the impression that she wanted me to go away. I know I've done wrong, have I completely blown it? Is it possible that despite what she said when we first met, she never really liked me? Is there any way I can make it up to her without seeming creepy or overbearing?

could be, ravens_folly. I think that the reason I have gotten further with this girl than before is tht she just seems right. Years of rejection made be cynical and sarcastic around girls, someting I knew put them off me but since I met this girl i haven't been that way around her. Since we're so far apart I'm worried about toning down the attention I give her since it is limited to a flurry of text messages every few days, usually which I initiaite. Thanks for your advice though, i know it's tough what with not knowing me. I think I have to break down her mistrust of men though as I hear she has had lots of bad relationships in the past. Thanks

When he said he owed it to himself to get the girl he'd been after it sounded to me like maybe he wasn't that enthusiastic about her but is having difficulty letting go after chasing her for 4 years so he feels he has to go after her now, from how you make it sound he could well get over er before too long. with any luck he'll come round.

Hey. I am a 21 year old male student and have recently been introduced to a girl through one of my mate's girlfriends. Well after seeing a photo of me she asked him to pass on her number. Since then we've met up a twice when i've been down there, but I am home for the summer and she's still living down there. Although I've only seen her on those occasions and have been texting her I can say that she is an amazing girl, gorgeous, kind, sweet and quite cool. For me this feels like a once in a lifetime opportunity and I don't want to blow it. We're still just getting to know eachother, but in the past few days I've been concerned that she maybe losing interest in me a bit. I'm worried that I could let this opportunity slip and want to know how to keep her interested. We still text regularly and will be going down to Uni for a whole week on the 19th. I'm good looking, funny, romantic, thoughtful, intelligent and quite confident, but I've never had much luck with girls in the past, most aren't interested/would never even have considered me in that way. I don't know why but I think I just lack that certain sex appeal. I don't come accross as what i would term 'boyfriend material'. Does anyone have any advice for me for next time I see the girl as I really want to keep her interested so we can develop something. yours Carnatic