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Ok let me just say Im 19 and never had a first date. For different reasons, my views were basically "didnt have to date until time came to pop the cherry". then I was 17 and chose somebody special to do the job and then didnt want to see him again. Now, 2 years into the game, I miss innocense. peace.

Same question to all guys out there..

Ok this is s*. im almost dumped. I phoned him..... he does trust me with that guy. Its not even that what p* him off that much. Things were building up from before. Damn. Its complicated. Basically because im a depressed person im very hard to deal with. I get moody too much and subconsciously sabotage the relationship. Its all the things we dealt with from before. my moody mood all the time, and he says its hard for him and the relaitonship isnt working. Im almost dumped. Im crying my eyes out. I want to cut or overdose. But i think ill manage. got my ciggies for now. He sounded reluctant and he was with his friends, drinking. Whatever. still sad and depressed and on the verge of suicide. x

Exactly, thats the way to do it. "come here" motion!! very precise. x

Oh f* i cant take this anymore. will i be humiliating myself too much if i call him now>>> i cant take it anymore., my guts are spurting out of my mouth

You make a good point, woobiegirl. You know sitting here im starting to think he's feeling wrong or guilty about something HE has done. The deal is, he is a very self-controlling guy. He NEVER spurts out yelling or any extreme behaviour like last night. When we were on the phone while he was driving away, he sounded extremely hysterical and was practically whining on the phone+some anger tone. Im so so so worried. Dammit why is this happening?? Im trying to think back Bottom line, ladies, I believe he is feeling guilty about something. No other reason to behave as he did. He knows very well that I have too many male friends-he actually knows half of them at least! This is why I believe there is something more to his behaviour last night. But what..

Cecelius, what do you mean "lie" in the phrase "If your b/f won't let it lie, then he isn't worth your time/"?? DO you mean like, let it go? x

G stop- an area inside the vagina on the front wall that is extremely sensitive to deep pressure. when properly stimulated, the g-spot appears to trigger orgasm. Its about half to two-thirds of the way into the vagina. A powerfully erotic sensation can be created when it is pressed firmly by finger or penis. Hence the doggy position hits the spot; as well as when in missionary, you pin her legs up your shoulders. plenty of other positions hit the spot as well, so you have to experiment and watch for her reactions. More like, listen and watch her facial expressions. Have fun! x

wow, woobiegirl, thank you so much for a fresh look on the situation. You reassure me a great deal, but I still feel like a piece of trash cus he dont trust me means he dont respect me. Maybe im taking it too seriously. All I know is at the moment my stressing out has killed a day of my life: i didnt turn up for work-which is my first day today; i stayed in bed all day; smoked 2 packets of ciggies and in general, cancelled all my things i had to do today. I feel so bad, I think the stress is getting into my physical body now too. I feel like throwing up and the same time i wanna eat non stop. and my stomach is out of place too. I dont know whats gonna be happening to me later, but of course I will keep you updated on the situation. Thanks so much for your time and advice. Greatly appreciated. Love to all. x

I was stubborn and willing to ask for help till early this year. I got stuck up in a corner: either I deal with my s* or f* up my college studies-it was just coming up to exams sessions. Well... what can i say.... I know that nothing helped me as much as psychotherapy (counselling i think its called more often in the united states, correct?) and prozac. Maybe you should get involved in some kind of social groups like definitely they must have psychological training classes in your area? I mean you know, classes where they teach how to discover yourself and deal with your emotions and feelings and thoughts. Have you thought bout that? I think you should seek a therapist. Otherwise you keep being stuck. Love to you. x

Hey thanks so veyr much for your advice guys. It really helps me clear the situation. I think I was as schocked as he was, when I saw his a* driving off while I was waving im to stop. All I know is that my friend feels he messed up my life, just an hour as he was back in it. Then again, you guys make veyr good points about this situation. Yes I did put myself in his shoes and it didnt feel great. Yes indeed I have trust in him when he goes out: one of the reasons he has no right to accuse me of cheating !!?? exactly: it aint like I rushed my friend off before he could see us. And to answer the question, No this guy is a friend, not more: actually its more like a family friend: my parents know his aunt and I know her children and her nephews. (which he happens to be) And once again, NO: I never cheated on any boyfriend. Well, for now, the situation is: I havent heard from him the whole day and I just pray that he is safe and sound. I wish he at least dropped me a text to confirm that. oumph.

*Dont you know scars are considered decorative in certain cultures? I think he needs to see a therapist, because his issue is more psychological and perhaps the trauma from the accident remains. You heal your body by healing your mind first. Love to all. x

Last night my guy went out clubbing with his boys first time since we been together because we always went out me and him. This time I told him he can have his space and just go with the boys. So he did. We agreed he will call me after he's finished so he can sleep over. I was peacefully sleeping when my phone rings at 3am. It was my guy friend I havent spoken to in 1 year. He came back from studying abroad and wanted to catch up. We met outside my house shortly. At 5am I get a text from my boyfriend saying he's coming around my place. I didnt text him back, assuming he will be here in a minute. Then I see him streamingly driving away. I phoned him: he was p*d off, whining and screaming "i dont know what you are doing you're not with me, i dont know who you are anymore, what i saw explains alot". Apparently he saw me and my friend sitting outside and assumed this is the reason I wake up every night(its a habit) and stay up and then when he wakes up im in my clothes(also a habit). I explained myself very clearly on the phone but he kept whining. EVen said he feels like crashing somewhere. everything i said was the truth for i had nothing to hide or be umcomfortable with but He rejected all my explanations. We havent spoken since 5am now. I think I lost him. Guys, ladies, please, I need your advice on what to do. I dont want to lose him for something like this. SHould i let him think about it and decide if he trusts me or if he wants to end it? Or should I go running after him proving im innocent? All advice very appreciated. x

Sure, Scout. I like your nick too Yes totally positive: I learnt from it alot and i am grateful to this f* for training me that way and instructing me. Indirectly, of course. I know i despise him all my life and at the same time its a love so strong I dont think i will let go anytime soon. Then again... isnt love the that obsessive dependency feeling?.. Oh yes. Peace

U mean u do anything but intercourse itself, right? Well, the brand that i use is called pharmatex in the EU, the active ingredient is benzalkonium chloride. its sold in any pharmacy, u dnt need prescriptions of anyffin. they in between the condoms, pregnancy tests and contraceptive pills section of the pharmacy. Listen, honey, your little men have to travel aaaaall the way to the fallopian tubes to make her pregnant. for that, you have COME INSIDE HER. anything else you do cannot possibly do the fertilization job. i mean, afterall, didnt u say u abstise from intercourse?