Wasted_generation

hello, guys. it's been a while since i've posted in here... well, i have a new problem, not the same as before though. i guess this falls under online dating... i met this great girl online, through a friend a long time ago... we recently just started talking again (nothing personal between us or anything, we just kinda didn't talk for a while)... and we REALLY like eachother. she's a beautiful, petite asian girl with a great personality. hopefully she's coming to visit me soon... but i'm worried... you see, it's easy for me to be me online... and in person with people i know and don't need to make an impression on... she says i'm her perfect guy, and i believe her, the way she treats me is so different than others, she doesn't judge me for what music i listen to, or for what i've done in the past, or what i plan on doing with my life. she just sees me as the goofy fun-loving guy i am. and the reason i am worried is because i truly don't know how to sustain a reltationship because (i'm guessing) of the fact that nobody in my family are really... rolemodels for good relationships. i love her, and i've said it in the past, but those were just crushes, i was caught up in the moment. i don't want to lose her like i have other people... i'm not caught up in my past, i'm definitely over all of it, believe me. haha, i have a great outlook on life, but i just hope i can keep her happy. any advice or support? she lives in Australia, i live in Guam, so we don't share the same friends, nor the same taste in music and things are quite different over there... it's hard to find a common ground besides eachother, and it's great, but hard; in that it's hard to start a conversation other than about one-another... i don't know what i'm asking, really... i guess i just need some words from others who have gone through it before. haha, please don't get the idea that i'm sad, or depressed... just a little worried. haha, my life is great right now, i love her... just some minor issues within myself that need to be addressed. thanks for listening, guys.

well... im back, same girl, different troubles. the problem is that she said she wanted patience.... and i gave that to her, but now she's saying that she's tired of it.... hse's trying to make me mad on purpose. now the problem is i AM mad, and i made her really mad.... WHAT DOES SHE WANT?

yeah, it is made from recent events... and i just cant let her go.. its too hard. so that would explain the poems, lol. thanks, i am so glad you guys like it though!

IS THIS LOVE? we connected via internet, we talked for hours on end. we told how much we like one another, it seemed there was no end Is this love? I hope so. then we finally met, it was good as it could get a beautiful night it seemed so right is this love? i hope so. now it seems she's gone, and i just cant go on thoughts of her go on and on is this love? i hope so. i love her, but will she ever love me? is this the way it'll always be? is this love? i hope so. we have the freedom of choice, and if God has a plan for every man why wont God let us choose the plan? i love her, maybe she doesnt love me, because it seems she's always to busy maybe its the way it will always be.. is this love? for me, it always will be. ---------------------------------------- I HOPE SO. if i love her, will she love me? i hope so. i accapted her for what she is has she really accepted me? i hope so. since i trust her, does she trust me? i hope so. is there anything i can do to get her to see the real me? i hope so. will she ever love me a fraction of how much i love her? it doesnt matter, i will never give up on her, but i DO hope so.

should i watch for... making an effort to talk to me... that sorta stuff? because when we're online, she'll make an effort to talk to me, although she has tons of homework, she types to me when she can... and we email eachother... idk, maybe she's testing me... because i know she's afraid of commitment (but thats not the reason yet, i havent really asked her out at all) so maybe she's trying to see if i am worthy of her love? idk... im the same way with trust, but i gained trust for her...i trust her now. idk, maybe its because of the age gap... she's 17, im 15... but i've gotten over it, maybe she's still getting used to the idea. all i know is that if she's the one for me, i want to get ahold of her before she leaves for california for college, and some other college jock takes her... because i am graduating a couple years after her... she'll be practically out of college by the time i go into tech school... and i really love her... i just dont want to lose her. when i talk to her... its totally cliche... she makes me wanna be a better man, i am inclined to do better, i dont think of anyone else but her while i am talking to her.. i'd do anything for her... anything, and anything to go back to a couple weeks ago to that one night we ACTAULLY spent together... its way deeper than lust.... i know that for sure...

okay... for those of you that have read my previous post, you know whats going on... a few days ago, she said she's falling in love with me... i dont know whether to believe her or not, i trust her, but idk now... i love her, alot... but im just confused on what she wants... first she's to busy, then we get together for the night we spent together, then she's to busy, then she's falling in love with me... and guess what, now she's too busy... and the way she talks to me, idk if its because of stress, or what... but t seems like she's just pissed off at the world... the tone she uses at least... please help, i dont want to mess up again, she could be the one, but i think she's afraid to find out or something... i am sorry i am not very good with words, but yeah... its... bringing me to my knees, i just dont know what to do or say to her anymore. and we havent seen or talked to eachother much lately... is there a mixed signal de-coder ring? please help, if she's the one for me, i cant let her slip through my fingers like my other family members have done in previous relationships... help.

well. i now have closure, we have talked about it, and i knw how she feels about me, and she knows how i feel about here. i love closure, but what's next? for the first timein 9 years, i am 'Me' again, she helped me overcome my scarred past without either of us knowing it. no we are not together, as much as i would like that to be... but i know it wont happen. thank you for your input everybody. greatly appriciated. i didnt know where to go, i cam here, and you guys openly responded, thanks. (you know who you are)

idk... i just cant handle not speaking to her, or seeing her... its just too hard. i know that deep down she likes me, but i have come to the conclusion that she may be afraid of either commitment, or falling in love (ya know, the whole thing about falling in love, and not being able to help it...)... its just too hard. i dont want to let her go... when i try not to think of her, i find myself looking at pics of her.... when i am finally NOT thinking of her, i all of the sudden think of our first kiss... idk... nobody's ever accpted me the way she has... she makes me feel like someone cares. i am a better person around her... and while i am talking to her. its just too much... there's always something to remind me of her. even though i am a mature man, i cant help but cry when i think of what we could have... this is deeper than a physical crave... way deeper than infatuation... and it is true, i can tell you that for sure. but she wont accept the way i feel. she accepts everything else except the fact i love her so much. please do not criticize me, i just need help...

thank you, i will do this, and get back to you on it. thanks once again, guys.

that makes sense, i guess, but she is pushing me away, and seems angry, and i REALLY dont want this to happen... i know she doesnt have alot of free time, but i am willing to wait, and be patient, but she still insists on not going any further. i know she likes me, and she knows i like her... how do i keep things together, or should i let her have her space for a while?

okay, here we go... there is this girl, i REALLY love her, and she says she loves me... recently we met at a school function of hers (after meeting on the internet) and we kissed, and cuddled in the moonlight, it was a very nice night, we both had a good time. the thing is... i KNOW she likes me... but now she's saying she doesnt have time,and it was just a fling. she says she wants to remain friends, and stuff... i just feel like she's trying to push me away... i just dont get it... i know women can be that way, but what isshe trying to say? somebody help me please!

ok, nick, to me and other girls who've told me, its because you're not what we're looking for...you're not the boyfriends type, why? because how you act, you act so silly, and girls want a serious boy, a boy, or man to help them with they're books when they're heading to class, basically they don't think that you, your self, your image, your kind of personality, the way you act, is what a girl is looking for, well for sure the kind of girls you like here, and girls also go for looks, but its not the only thing, its just one of things they're looking for in a guy, ok, here are what girls are looking in a guy: Personality, Body Image, If They're Cute Or Not, How They Would Treat Them, How Loyal They Are, and How They Handle Women, basically girls have try-outs for boys/men if they mess up on what they expect then they dump them, unless the guys dumps them...but that's another story! cause you see how it worked out with me and frederick? yup, its tough to win a girls heart, but I'm proud of those boys who really proved themselves to the girls, that they can be a better man just by trying, but again alot of boys don't even want to try, but hey, I don't blame them, its they're choice, its like this: 'If you work hard enough then you'll get your reward......' " that is what this girl that i like said to me, is this true? i really like her, and we have alot in common, and i really want to go out with her, she is basically my dream chick should i?

well i looked up the body language thing, and now i just need to watch for the signs. no another issue... i am always generous with my money, with everyone, but she does not seem to like it. when we go and hang out at the mall and stuff, i pay for her movie ticket, etc. and i offer to buy her things, she does not like this. maybe she thinks i am trying to tell everyone that i have money, and they dont, idk, that is not wha ti try to convey. should i stop the spending? also, does anyone know any ways to "win" a tomboy?

i am 15, she's 13. we AGREED to be close friends, i didnt say it, it was a mutual idea, think before you say

waht i want to know is, how do i know if i am the one she truly likes? she is a bit younger than me (2 years) so it may just be a phase, i dont know,,\ but i just wanna know how to find out.

hey, it seems i only post here when i have trouble, lol! anyways, i have trouble. there's a girl that i recently started liking, but i do not want a gf until i am 16, and she doesnt until she's 15, so we agreed to be "close friends". the thing is, now that we have agreed, she has started talking about other guys, and i do not know if she really likes me any more, plz help!

hey, everyone.... i need help, really bad, this girl that i like.... i told her how i felt too soon, and the thing is... i know that she feels alot the same way i do, but i dont think she was ready to hear that from me, and i spooked her, i need help, really bad, i feel bad about doing this, and i want to make it right... someone help

hey, everyone.... i need help, really bad, the girl that i like.... i told her how i felt too soon, and the thing is... i know that she feels alot the same way i do, but i dont think she was ready to hear that from me, and i spooked her, i need help, really bad, i feel bad about doing this, and i want to make it right... someone help

well, i did spend some time with her face-to-face, but her friend was there, and we didnt talk much... i am thinking about asking her out on a date with just me, and her, at the mall or something... any dating tips? (i know to be genleman-like, and i am, VERY)

well, we didnt MEET on the internet... but it is WAY easier to talk on the internet... but thanks

hey, i think i am making lame conversation with this girl, any tips? part II... the thing is... i know her online, and we talk online alot, but it is hard when we actually see each other... this is how it goes down... the reasons i think she likes me: 1. all her friends know about me although i dont know any of them 2. we have alot in common 3. we flirt online alot the reasons i dont think she likes me: 1. she didnt see interested in the things i was talking about (and it wasnt always me, me, me) 2. she talked with the friend that she brought along more than me 3. there is not 3, i just need a number three I NEED CONVERSATIONAL TIPS!!! HELLLP!!!! and she will do almost anything for me online... she told me her bra size, when i was kidding...

thanks, that helps

i have read many thing about kissing on this site, and it is all very helpful. finally my gf sdays she is ready to kiss, what do women like when they kiss??? how do i know when the time is right??? HELP!!!! is it truue that "you will know what to do when it happens and/or you will know the right moment"???? someone help, thanks _____________________________________________________________ Just a lost teenager caught in the middle, confused, yes, stupid, no

one way to go, if you are too shy is to send her a "Romantic" email. or just send ing an email asking her out, and (hopefully) it won't be weird at school (or work). if it does get weird, and she thinks you are a freak, it is not worth it to ask her out. _____________________________________________________________ I hope this info has helped, Nicholas J. Sedlacek