Dawn222

My first thought as soon as I read your posting was that it sounds like he isn't confident enough to give you pleasure. Maybe he has never gone down on a girl before? Maybe he has been told he doesn't do a very good job when going downtown....I dunno, but I don't think he is being honest with you about the whole "too many in the past" story. I mean, he has sex with you doesn't he? I think you should talk about this openly before you do anything like dump the guy. If he still doesn't understand then you could try playing the same game he is but I dunno if games are worth it.....may just make things worse. Good Luck! p.s. Make sure you are not bragging about all the great sex and stuff you have had in the past....not that I am saying you are but it may help if you boost his self confidence by letting him know how much he pleases you.....it might just give him the confidence he needs to head south!

Although I could be possible that I don't know what I am talking about, it sounds to me that he is a very independent person who is involved with many hobbies. Doesn't mean he isn't interested in you. If he took the time to call just to say hi, I think that is a good sign. See how things go, you could always ask him how he sees your guys relationship. What ever you do, I don't think you should complain about how much time he spends on other things and not with you. Be positive!

Why do you think you felt the way you did when you saw her? Would it of helped if you were holding hands with a supermodel at the time? I say this because I have been there. We all want to let our ex's know that we are doing better without them and life couldn't be better. I kinda think that if this was the case, then you would of been fine with seeing your ex. Just something to think about. I am no expert but maybe once you feel better about yourself and your life then next time you see her you won't feel like such a monkey.

I totally know how you feel. But men have trouble dealing with expressing feelings and talking about womens problems. It seems as though they rather just clam up and not say anything for the fear that they may say something wrong to upset you even more. The fact that he listens and may say things like "don't worry so much" or what seems to be that he just doesn't care about you, probably isn't the case. He may just not be the right one to be looking to for support. That is why girfriends are so important. Women know how to support and don't feel uncomfortable with problems. Men don't talk or express how they feel when they have problems, they go off and be by themselves to sort it out. Then they are okay again. One thing to remember is that men and women deal with problems differently. definitely let him know how you feel, but it may help minimize the hurt you are feeling if you understand that it isn't easy for men. I still get hurt when my guy does this to me, but it just helps to know that it is not because he doesn't love you or doesn't care about you, it may just be because he doesn't have the skills to discuss and give you the support you need. Lots of luck.

I am a wife and I have recently gone through the scare of my life. My husband wasn't sure if he loved me anymore and wasn't sure what he wanted. If this is truley how you feel, and know for sure that you no longer want to be with her and are not in love with her then, As a wife, and my recent experience, I think you need to tell your wife immediately. She deserves to know. Stop wasting her time, she deserves to be happy as much as you do and all this is doing is delaying the hurt and pain that you both are going to go through eventually. More for her because you have already been dealing with these feelings and it sounds like this is going to come as a shock to her. You probably don't want to hurt her, and hate the thought of all the tension and fighting and crying that is about to come. But it has to be done. Hey, maybe you will find out that she feels the same way about you. Who knows what the outcome will be, but you have to be truthfull and honest about your feelings, not only is it not fair to her but it is definitely not healthy to be living the way you are now and dealing with these feelings. If you are not sure, then I recommend you go to a councelor and discuss how you feel. Maybe she can help you sort things out before you say something you will regret....Good luck and I will be waiting to hear how things went. p.s. It isn't going to be easy, but you both need to be happy. Life is too short.

I recently posted the "he doesn't love me like he used to" and I was upset because I wasn't getting enough attention by my husband anymore. I have talked with him and he admits that he has been selfish and is sorry for being so distant. Thing is, It didn't help. I guess I was hoping to feel all lovey and stuff again but I am kind of ticked that he treated me like this in the first place. Things have been going through my head like" Maybe he isn't my Mr. Right? Is there such thing as Mr or Mrs Right? Are you only meant for one person? How do you know if it is the right person?[/color]These questions I used to know. Atleast I thought so, now I don't know what I think. What love is, what marriage is etc....I am so confused. Any advice or thoughts are much appreciated as I have been thinking non stop and I just want to relax and enjoy life.[/b]