Ex-girlfriend made contact after 20 years and the most horrible thing happened!

Over 20 years ago, I had a girlfriend in university. 20 years ago, I left the country with the hope that I would be coming back. Real life turned out to be not exactly what I imagined it to be before I left. Few years later, she got married and have kids. I also got married twice and have a kid.

One day, I received a friend request from the ex-girlfriend. Notifications were off, so I didn’t see it. A couple of hours later, my pregnant wife would lose my 5-month old baby by miscarriage.

I was shocked when I found out about the friend request's date and time. What is going on?! Is this all just a coincidence or is there something sinister about it?! I feel that I have hurt her and I am getting punished after more than 2 decades

This is not a cause and effect incident. It is called a coincidence. Sorry about the loss of your baby. chi

It is a very unfortunate co-incidence, nothing else.

Not sure what is sinister about this, but the bigger question is: Are you going to accept the friend request?

Huh????????????

This is not a cause and effect incident. It is called a coincidence. Sorry about the loss of your baby. chi

Thanks Chi. I like to see it that way. But it's very strange!

Found out that the request was cancelled. Checked her profile and found out that she was grieving the death of her father.

Messaged her my condolences. Didn't tell her what happened to me yet.

I don't think I would accept her friend request on social media. Many other ways to comfort her than having her as Facebook friend!

Many other ways to comfort her than having her as Facebook friend!

Will you inform your wife about this?

Please block her. YOu will be tempted out of grief to turn to your ex instead of your wife. Stop this now. You lived without her 20 years. do not make her your shoulder to cry on. your WIFE needs you, not the ex from 20 years ago who lost her dad