Where do I begin...

I will start with i am currently 5 months pregnant and very confued and stressed. My fiance and i have a 14 month old son already together and have been engaged since april.

All of the stress started about 2 months ago my friend sent me a text saying that I needed to talk to my fiancé..I finally got her to tell me what she was talking about...my fiance was trying to get her sister to let him come over while her husband was at work. She was 8 months pregnant at the time.. he told her that I do not give him what he needs, and that he is into pregnant women. She turned him down and asked her sister to let me know. (I was away at the time in our former city packing up the last few things to move to a town we both grew up in where he started his new job, not having to be away from his familyanymore like at his previous job).

it took him 2 full days of denying it but then he finally admitted to it, stating he didn't know why he did it, he's not even attracted to her and he felt like he needed attention and someone he knew would turn him down.

I remained in our former city and somewhat forgave him. As he didn't fully commit to cheating. Until I went on my Facebook account and saw a woman's name on my blocked list... I went on his account and saw the same woman on his blocked settings as well.....I asked him... he then broke down saying I deserve better I was a good person he is horrible and that it was the biggest mistake... I saw she was from a town he had been working in the previous month. I got him to tell me everything, he slept with her. Twice. He met her on tinder, an account he made for himself when our son and I were not visiting him. She was about 6 months pregnant, 10years older then him, unsure of who the father is, and apparently does this kind of thing a lot.

I didn't fully speak to him for about 2 weeks, we did talk about our son and still attended his first birthday party together which was extremely hard as both of our familes knew what was going on. During the 2 weeks we were apart he tried to sleep with 2-3 women from the town we were planning to move to, he also responded to 3 Craigslist ads attempting to sleep with prostitutes.

He apologized a lot. He missed his family he said, he admitted to having a problem.

We have been together 4 years. The proposal was beautiful I really felt like he loved me so much. The second baby was his idea he pushed for it so the kids would be close in age like him and his brother. Of course I agreed! We already have a beautiful son who is more amazing then I can explain. Everything felt wonderful. Then 2 months after the proposal he does this. He is a great partner and a great father despite these decisions. Although he has done things in the past before our son came, I always chose to forgive him. Why? Because I love him, we were young, maybe to not see him move on, maybe a lot of reasons.

Now, 2 months later. He has gotten rid of his smartphone and gotten a very old flip phone that he can't have access to tinder, facebook, porn, craigslist. He is going to counselling. He is trying he says. I have moved my son and myself in with him where we were planning to move. I dont want to parent alone...I don't want my kids in a broken family But.. I feel like I am in a glass case that keeps getting tighter each day and nearly impossible to breathe anymore. I worry, I fear, I take blame, I look so negatively to myself that I can't even take a photo with my son because of my looks. I cry uncontrollably.

One day I want to work it out with him, the next day i dont... I do love him.

there is a lot I can work on too I can go to counselling as well... I can work on letting him see my body again and not feeLing so ashamed of my "mom body".

But I have so many questions.

I wonder if he is really into pregnant women, he claims he's not it was just a coincidence. I feel like he only wanted me to have baby number 2 because if his weird fetish.

I feel a lot of mixed feelings and I just need someone's advice that's not a friend, family member....

please if you have the time to reply thank you so much.

He has cheated on you & you have taken him back, so there were no consequences for his actions.

He knows he can do anything & get away with it.

Just because he has an old phone doesn't mean he cant cheat. If someone wants to they will find a way.

I think you need to start counselling yourself to find out why you would put up with this treatment. Also I would get checked for STDs, especially as you are pregnant, seeing as he has slept with other women.

Leave him and move on. You deserve so much more than to be someone's fetish. You should be in a relationship you are happy and content in. You will be so unhappy if you keep doing what you are doing and justify it with "but I love him". Picture a doormat. This guy trampling all over it and wiping his feet all the time, because this is what you are to him.

You really deserve better I think you should leave him.

FIrst you need to decide if he is worth a 2nd chance, personally I would give it to him mostly due to children.

Then both of you need to go to marriage counseling and invest some time/money into it. He needs to show you with action that he is serious about this relationship going forward.

Everyone deserves a 2nd chance, but not 3rd!

Normally, I'd say dump him. However, since he seems to be making a sincere and real effort to fix himself, I'd say give that a chance. If he goes back to his old ways - dump him.

Btw, your children do not need to grow up with a father who is running around cheating on his mother. That is not a good example for the children and extremely damaging to them and their future relationships. You owe them better than that.

Also, if he continues in his ways, he is not only a terrible father, but would be a horrible husband too. Think of all the diseases he may bring home to you. You would literally be playing Russian Roulette with your life and health any time you have sex with your own husband.

Basically, if the therapy doesn't work or he drops out and goes back to same old.....you need to have a plan to leave him immediately. No and's or but's and no umpteenth chances.

You say he is a great father. He will still be their father even if you guys aren't together and if he is really that great he will still be in their lives regardless of what happens. It's a tough call to make. I can't imagine raising a newborn and a child under 2 by myself. I don't think the odds are great that he won't do it again but the decision is up to you. I think you should put a lot of thought into where you want to draw the line & say enough is enough, if it comes to that. I also think you should start getting some regular STD testing because I really don't think he's going to stop with the track record he has going.

I'm sorry, but you're really foolish. How many times does this guy have to betray you?

I hope that you have gotten tested and use condoms regularly.

If you don't care about yourself, then think about how all of this chaos is affecting your kid.

It is really sad that you expect so little for yourself .