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    Multivitamin
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    Makes me sad when I see other people

    These days I feel sad and depressed when i see Couples who are happy, or even pics of couples...makes me feel alone...ive always been alone and its just getting to me now....

    Even when I overhear my friends talking to their boyfriends on the phone, i get all moody....even though on the surface im composed and cheerful.

    I mean im happy for them..but it affects me. Why cant I have that kind of happiness too?

    how can i stop feeling like this and just be normal?

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    This sounds weird, but do you love and like yourself? Are you happy with who you are? That is the big clencher when entering a relationship. You gotta have all three of those elements in order to be happy with a relationship. I am learning that slowly but surely.

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    I agree with Elecktra on loving yourself.
    It sounds as though you aren't happy with you.
    You are wanting & wishing for to have a relationship that brings you happiness. When really the happiness comes from within.
    When you love yourself & are happy with yourself...You won't be so bothered by other peoples happiness, plus you are more likly to enter into a healthy happy relationship.

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    I think it's very normal to feel hurt when it seems everyone else around you has someone special. Just try not to feel guilty when you have those feelings. And try to find something to get your mind off it as soon as it hits.

    You wouldn't believe how many threads I've read in the last few years from people who have the same feeling.

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    I feel this way too. It bothers me so much that, for example, if I am on a train and I see a couple snuggling, I move to another car. It gives me migraines and especially during the holiday season, it brings me down physically. The only thing we can do about it is find someone. There is no other remedy, even if you love yourself to the fullest. They have what we want and they unintentionally shove it in our faces. I just shut myself off to it and get away as quickly as possible.

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    You're definitely not alone in having feelings like this. I too have to avert my eyes and think about something else whenever I find myself around couples making public displays of affection. I couldn't even bring myself to be the best man at my best friend's wedding, or even attend the wedding for that matter, primarily because I felt like I would become physically ill at the wedding from the awareness that I'll never have any of that in my own life.

    The only advice I can give you is to not allow yourself to dwell on it. Find something else to distract yourself.

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    well... its easy to be somewhat jealous and get a lil moody when you see other couples happy and snuggling, showiing PDA, etc.

    we all would love to be at that fase. but lemme tell u what i do when i feel a slight teensy bit of jealousy coming up: when i look at them it makes me happy, b/c even tho it isnt me, it reminds me that love really still does happen and it WILL be me like that someday again.
    i specially feel happy when it happens to a friend of mine, knowing they have also gone thru heartache or something painfull, and then seeing that they DID make it and are happy again. they give me hope/positive outlook.
    also... if you do find someone special again, i am sure you would want others to be happy for you so show some spirit... dont feel bad b/c you dont have someone special at the moment.
    be happy on your own, love yourself and someday you too will be with your special someone... love comes again, lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Multivitamin [Register to see the link]
    These days I feel sad and depressed when i see Couples who are happy, or even pics of couples...makes me feel alone...ive always been alone and its just getting to me now....

    Even when I overhear my friends talking to their boyfriends on the phone, i get all moody....even though on the surface im composed and cheerful.

    I mean im happy for them..but it affects me. Why cant I have that kind of happiness too?

    how can i stop feeling like this and just be normal?
    I suggest routinely kicking these people in the shins when you see them. It will make you feel better.

    If that's too aggressive for your taste, then just join them (since you can't beat them). It helps to arm yourself with "World's Cutest Couple" stickers everywhere you go so you that you may approach the offending couple and tag them. Just lay a sticker on their shirt and coat much like a graffiti artist might tag the side of a bus with his avatar, and then tell them that they've been nominated. Now, you can share in their glory. Bliss and joy by proxy.

    In truth, you can be this person too. You just have to choose that path. There are a lot of people that would love to receive a lot of love from you. You just have to learn to give it without fear.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jettison [Register to see the link]
    I suggest routinely kicking these people in the shins when you see them. It will make you feel better.

    If that's too aggressive for your taste, then just join them (since you can't beat them). It helps to arm yourself with "World's Cutest Couple" stickers everywhere you go so you that you may approach the offending couple and tag them. Just lay a sticker on their shirt and coat much like a graffiti artist might tag the side of a bus with his avatar, and then tell them that they've been nominated. Now, you can share in their glory. Bliss and joy by proxy.
    good one LMAO nicely planned out.

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    Look at it this way, there are some people who are in unhappy relationships and when they see someone happy and single, they feel envious of their freedom and independence. The grass is always greener.

    The point is, it's not a relationship with someone that creates happiness, that's just a bonus you get when you're happy enough with yourself that you have enough to share with another.

    The only relationship that can create happiness for you is the one that you have with yourself, single or no.

    If you're ready and open to the idea of a relationship, it will happen for you, don't worry.
    Last edited by jul-els; 07-25-2007 at 06:57 PM. Reason: need to add

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