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  1. Yep I'm totally worried about people stealing work...So I dont' post anything on the internet.
  2. "but i feel like he should pretty much be kissing my butt if he wants me to know that he truly wants me, and he has pretty much been doing the same old same old....if not less than how he use to treat me. he doesn't see it, but i do.....help i have no clue how to get over this, and how to get through to him how badly this all hurt." This worries me. Darling, he apologized only when he got caught, basically because he got caught. He is showing no remorse or desire to change. I'm sorry for what you must be feeling, I really don't think you should get over this. He doesn't understand you or your feelings (he should after a 1.5) and is showing you NO respect or faithfulness. This is a sign of what to expect for future behavior. You are a smart, understanding caring girl....You deserve better. I totally agree with the below statement by rms8.
  3. Hi guys, I don't know if any of you will see this. But I just wanted to say. This last week has improved SOOO much. I hope it lasts. I've been gone a lot more, i had to witness in a court case which meant 2 days at the court hours. So that has given the guys time lots of time to hang out. And my son has been clinging to him & he SEES it. I can see in his face how happy he is, and it makes me soo happy that he finally is seeing it. This morning, after we dropped my boy off at the sitter, he turned to me & said, did you get 2 hugs??? I said nope, just the one. His face lit up, with the biggest smile and he said.."I did" It was so cute. He's feeling specail like he should.
  4. I think you misunderstood me. It has nothing to do with competition amongst the species or finding someone 'better' (because better, is a matter of opinion, what some love, others hate) I simply meant - accept people the way they are. If she began dating him as a musician, than accept that, don't ask him to be something else. and tell him to grow up. that's wrong. If she wants something else in her man that find a man that is that...dont' change someone. And as far as me being like this quote. "FOR WOMEN, THE MAN IS THE MEANS, THE END IS ALWAYS THE CHILD" - NIETZSCHE I'm not. I've been on my own since I was 17. I've been a single mom for 4 years supporting me & my child. I work 2 jobs. And for the last 9 months (and 6 more) I've been supporting my bf while he's in school. So No, the man is not the means to me. I'm not sure why you said that. or if I understood it correctly.?? Oh well. Oh and by the way...If you don't understand something, don't call it sh!t.
  5. For my last relationship with my babies dad..It was the 'we'll be together forever'. Never spoke of breaking up till the end, when things got REALLY bad. When it didnt' work. I had HUGE problems dealing with it. Now every relationship..I'm a realist. I'm honest with myself & them. Until I'm married, there is always the chance it won't be forever, so I don't talk like it is. I may make plan for the future, but i will also make comments stating otherwise. as you both do. I'm engaged now, I still do make comments occasionaly, less now though. But until I'm married I know there is a chance. So i don't convince myself or others of anything otherwise. Maybe it's messed up??I hope not though But To me it just seems healthy & wise.
  6. have you two done counselling together?? I think she could use some and you could both benefit from it. She sounds unhappy, It seems like she is expecting you to make her happy, and now she's realizing you can't. And she's blaming you for it, rather than realizing happiness comes from within (it's not carried by a person).. physical apperance shouldn't matter that much. I think it was something she could put the blame on, since you fixed the last thing she requested. It's easier for her to blame you rather than looking inwards to see how she lost herself & to help find her self again. Anything can be done, but you can't fix it alone. She needs to be willing. And that's were I think marriage counsolling would be a good plan. I'm sorry for the hurt & pain you must be feeling ((hugs)) I wish you happiness
  7. Personally, for him to stay with this girl...would be a stupid move. This is Warning sign. She doesn't respect, understand or support his passion & dream. HUGE warning sing to me. If she can so easily say this after 3 month, so early in the relationship, she will say far more later in it. crushing his dream & cutting him down...wow! if she doesn't like him the way he is, why is she with him? He's got to find a women that will encourge & support his dream & passion...or at the least, understand it.
  8. well the intervention does sound good. But you would have to get dad & brother to agree. I'd ask them, maybe confronting her all together might be easier for them. if they don't agree...I 'd try taping her so she can see & hear herself, as others do. Otherwise, buy ear plugs that's hard, it's a negative pill constantly screaming at you. I wish you luck & happiness.
  9. I agree. I wouldn't worry too much, unless thier are other weird signs. If it really bothers you & you find it disgusting. Maybe you could buy him HIS OWN tooth brush, just like hers.
  10. First of all..I am so happy your knife was dull. (that was a God thing) you obviously were not meant to die. Take that seriously There is a reason you are still here. (: Please don't hurt yourself. I know you're hurting on the inside but please work to fix that, don't direct to the outside. Second. What happened when she hit her head, was an accident. You KNOW you did NOT mean to hurt her. You were playful together & accidents happen. I've hurt my finacee while playing too...I felt so terrible. I really did. But stuff happeneds. You didn't intend to do it & you didn't know she was hit her head. This was out of your control. you couldn't have seen it comeing. Forgive yourself. Thridly. Set aside time for her daily. If she is feeling neglected, work to change that, start today. Don't say you can change, Show her you can change. She may not 'feel' in love with you right now. But the thing is you were in love before & could be again..If you both put in the work & effort to fall in love with eachother again. Do little things to show it, cuddles, card, hugs, make her a meal....i know right now she seems to have made her mind, but its still worth a try..take her out for supper & have fun with eachother. And Continue the couselling if she's willing. I'm sorry things are hard right now. ((hugs))
  11. Yeah, I think until you're engaged or married - actually made the commitment to be together forever. I think it's healthy & wise to be realistic. Does it bother you when you have the talks? How often do you guys speak of it?
  12. Honestly, I think it's healthy to face reality...that MAYBE you won't be together forever. And it's good not to put all your eggs in one basket (ie. depending on the other & moving ONLY for the other) that being said, there is the 'if you say it enough you start believing it' So provideing it's not your everyday discussion. I think it's totally healthy & wise to be realistic. And plan for the worst, be ready for it if it comes, cause it's always possible..... but hope for & work towards the best, being if you do stay together forever I totally think what you guys are doing, is good. It's far better than the other extreem. The we will be together forever talk, than the shock & devestation kicks in when it doesn't happen. I wish you both happiness***
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