lonewolf1991 Posted February 25, 2020 Share Posted February 25, 2020 We split 10 month ago officially after 8 long years and a 4 year old baby girl. She ended it because I was unfaithful. To many lies from me, I needed to grow up tbh. I hit rock bottom, and built myself back up. I feel like I’m a man after that experience. We just got back from a day out with the daughter. We don’t do this often but when Our days off during the week merge, I’ll always see if she would like to take our girl out. Well, it was fantastic. Everything felt natural, and that’s because I’m over the breakup for the most of it. I made her belly laugh, and snort. Not seen that for a long time. And also some physical contact. I carried her over obstacles, we collided into each other down slides and ended up on top of each other a few times. I’d call this flirting, at least from my side. And it felt good. Like, she wanted me to chase her sometimes. Felt like being kids again it was so refreshing. Trouble is...she’s in a committed relationship. Has been for around 8 month now. She loves him, and I believe her. And I know they talk marriage and kids and moving on together, all that normal stuff. The guy is cool, and is very involved with my daughter now. Which I’m happy about now. She made a joke on the way home. He walked to her house (doesn’t drive) and it’s like at 30 minute walk at least in pouring rain and snow. Very committed I said. She said it’s a little excessive of him. First time I’ve ever really heard her mock him even if it was gentle. I joked back about how he’s storming to her house now, knowing we’ve all been together for the day and thinking frantically about how he can get one up on me when he’s got time with her tonight. She laughed, like real hard. I feel like attraction is building between us, that’s what I believe this is. Possibly because I’ve let go now. And it took so long to get over the breakup. I will add...I do love this girl. She’s important to me and I will always take care of her. Seeing us together having fun brings back fond memories, we haven’t laughed together like that for years. It was nice to be apart of it. For the record. I’m moving on with my life, as is she. I actually am enjoying my life now. I’ve changed so much. What do people think is going on here? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaybeThen Posted February 25, 2020 Share Posted February 25, 2020 What do people think is going on here? Two old friends catching up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted February 25, 2020 Share Posted February 25, 2020 Excellent co-parenting.What do people think is going on here? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maew Posted February 25, 2020 Share Posted February 25, 2020 What do people think is going on here? That you still have a thing for her and are hoping that she still has a thing for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loyal Posted February 25, 2020 Share Posted February 25, 2020 It's awesome that you can do this for your child. Just remember that you two tried to have a relationship and things didn't end well. If she is in another relationship, you need to respect that and give her that space. But I totally agree that you and she can and should be friends for the sake of your child. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonewolf1991 Posted February 26, 2020 Author Share Posted February 26, 2020 So being playful is not a sign of flirting and attraction in this instance? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SherrySher Posted February 26, 2020 Share Posted February 26, 2020 I would say no, it's not a sign of attraction, but rather a sign of a woman who's happy with her partner and is co-parenting with you and getting along with you but not behaving in the way you're hoping. Consider her a friend and that's the best you can hope for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted February 26, 2020 Share Posted February 26, 2020 So being playful is not a sign of flirting and attraction in this instance? Eh, not enough to assume she wants you back, no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted February 26, 2020 Share Posted February 26, 2020 So being playful is not a sign of flirting and attraction in this instance? What if she was flirting? That would mean she is at least thinking about cheating on the guy she's in a relationship with. Do you just not care about that as long as you think you can get her back? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loyal Posted February 26, 2020 Share Posted February 26, 2020 So being playful is not a sign of flirting and attraction in this instance? It didn't work the first time. It is probably more a sign of comfort with you than anything else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonewolf1991 Posted February 26, 2020 Author Share Posted February 26, 2020 What if she was flirting? That would mean she is at least thinking about cheating on the guy she's in a relationship with. Do you just not care about that as long as you think you can get her back? She would never cheat it’s not in her nature. Given the opportunity, I would decline. Some flirting is harmless, I’m just looking for a sign. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonewolf1991 Posted February 26, 2020 Author Share Posted February 26, 2020 Is it so far fetched to think this new relationship I’m building naturally with here couldn’t lead to something else ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonewolf1991 Posted February 26, 2020 Author Share Posted February 26, 2020 That you still have a thing for her and are hoping that she still has a thing for you. s it so far fetched to think this new relationship I’m building naturally with here couldn’t lead to something else ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonewolf1991 Posted February 26, 2020 Author Share Posted February 26, 2020 It's awesome that you can do this for your child. Just remember that you two tried to have a relationship and things didn't end well. If she is in another relationship, you need to respect that and give her that space. But I totally agree that you and she can and should be friends for the sake of your child. I’m happy to be friends. And I know I’d be committed to her if we ever mutually wanted a re run. We are both living our own lives now with tons of space between us and I posted because I felt we had shared happiness that day and it felt like old times but better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonewolf1991 Posted February 26, 2020 Author Share Posted February 26, 2020 Eh, not enough to assume she wants you back, no. Thanks for the input but this isn’t what I asked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaybeThen Posted February 27, 2020 Share Posted February 27, 2020 You sound like the type of guy who, when a woman is doing her job at work and smiles and greets you, a customer, you assume she’s got the hots for you and then you return to ask her out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonewolf1991 Posted February 28, 2020 Author Share Posted February 28, 2020 You sound like the type of guy who, when a woman is doing her job at work and smiles and greets you, a customer, you assume she’s got the hots for you and then you return to ask her out. Completely different situation is it not? Not sure why you’re replies are so negative. asif I’m talking about a stranger that crossed eyes with me once. Don’t put me in a box I’ve never heard anything so judgemental. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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