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1.) No if you are truly in love with a person then they will be in your heart always. You can learn to live without them but they will still live some where inside of you. 2.) No, If you want to find your way back to that person you will regardless of what is meant to be. 3.) Depends on how they felt about you in the first place. Depends on how the relationship ended. They may think of you well and they may wish you were dead. 4.) NO

I don't think your too picky! When you feel the spark, then you feel the spark! Sometimes it come right away and other times it grows out of friendship. Take your time and enjoy meeting new people. Most likely the girl that lights your fire will be one you have chosen yourself!

I got the last part of your post. That must have been what the other woman had said. NICE! The ball really is in your court. If you find it in your heart to let it go then let it go completely. You can't live your life always looking over your shoulder, you know? Life is too short and you need to focus your energy on your children and not spending your time questioning what he is doing, where he is doing it, and who he is doing it with. If it still hurts this bad after a year there is a good possibility it won't work because you can't let it go. But hey try to remember this, the best thing a man can do for his children is treat their mother well.

WOW! Do you have any dream analysis books? I have some and I read a few of the results that sort of match your situation. It says that you could be dreaming this based on the person your cheating with. I guess it depends on if you know the guy your cheating with or not. If you do then it depends on how the sex is in your dream. For example in this book it talks about your situation and the woman describes how warm and safe she feels during sex with this guy. It says maybe that is what she secretly seeks in her relationship. Just a thought!

Please do a search on enotalone for "why do men look at porn?" I hope my reply on that message board will help you.

Why don't you try going back to school! You need to educate not medicate yourself! Acknowledging that you are being a crappy mom is the first step. Now do something about it! You only have your kids for 18 years and then they are off to do their own thing. If you think about it that is not a long time considering the human life span. You need to do some serious soul searching. Why are you lonely? Do you just want attention? Do you just want sex? What is it? By the way, you made these choices not your kids. You asked for them to be here not the other way around. Don't take what you have for granted! Maybe you should tell your (dh) best friend/like a brother what is going on with you and maybe he can help you out since that's what friends/brothers do.

You did the right thing! Life is too short to put up with all of that drama. Sounds like you need to hang out with people who have the same values as you do. I am a strong believer in Karma. Good Luck!

Screw the studies! And screw the cop out of oh that's just men! Look I believe it is a respect issue. I just found porn on my husbands computer after 6 years of being together. I didn't like the fact that I didn't know. I asked him about it and he flat out didn't tell the truth. Hell we could have looked at it together. Some of that stuff is funny to laugh about. We didn't share this he kept it hidden. That is the scary part. He is living by the motto of what she doesn't know won't hurt her and I tell the truth based on technicalities. Example: Are you looking at porn sites? No Reality: I'm looking at porn pop ups, not porn sites! It's about deception, why not just say hey this is what I do and I don't make it a big part of my life but this is it! At least that gives the other person a chance to say yes I accept this or No, I don't want this in my life. You know? And it is a total mind screw! You question their honesty, you question your respect for them, and then you start to wonder about yourself! Am I too fat? Am I getting to old? What is wrong with me? It just sucks! Then you go back and forth! No this is his deal not mine. How do you think men would feel if they found porn on their significant others computers? First they might think wow she is cool. However, they would begin to wonder the same things! Then they would begin to worry if they were going to be left for another woman. Geez!