kittysaysmeow

No. Not really. I just found out yesterday that he added me on his msn again (we mutually blocked each other). I was just curious one day and was checking to see who had me on their list...and then I saw his email. I was really floored. My stomach dropped. So, of course, I added him back to see what he wanted. But his icon didn't show up so he must have deleted my msn just not blocked it. So...he basically added me and deleted me (this must have happened this week since last week his name wasn't there). I want to be in a place in which I won't care if he adds me again or if I see him out in public. It's been such a slow process. It's seriously driving me nuts.

I think what you're doing is great. If I could tell myself something at 16 that I know now it would be to not grow up too fast. Sex...guys...you'll be dealing with all that stuff later on anyway. And it gets old fast! haha.

It sounds like you're going to anyway. I would strongly advise against emailing. I'm not sure if it's against your college rules but I know that at my University it is definitely frowned upon. This could cause a lot of problems at his work...do you really want to feel guilty about that? It sounds like he's just being nice. I say forget about it and move on.

I don't think couples need to be best friends at all. In fact, they shouldn't be. Best friends are supposed to be someone outside of your personal life that you can talk to. It doesn't sound like he's having an affair.

I also think it's important to realize that it's against school policy. Lets say he asked you out. You guys go on a date...etc etc etc. He could get fired or at the very least get into trouble. Let it go. It wouldn't be a good idea.

I have to disagree with you. Cheating is cheating and I don't think there are varying degrees of it. What's the difference between sex and making out? Seriously...I would consider kissing more intimate than sex any day.

Is this a paid internship? If so, I would try to find something while still working there. That way you're not financially insecure while trying to find a new internship. I say go for it. Try to find something new. This way you'll know what you want to do with your future career. *btw, congrats on graduating next year! Yay! I graduated University last spring at it was seriously one of the happiest days of my life.

I agree that cheating is never a good sign. I personally wouldn't cheat on my SO and then continue on with the relationship (I will never cheat again). That said, I don't think I would tell them about the cheating when I break up with them either. I agree that cheating is selfish, but I think it's even more selfish to to break up with someone then tell them that you cheated. Not only are you hurting them by breaking up but now you're also trying to make yourself feel better because you feel guilty? If you cheat you should feel bad, not make your SO feel worst.

That is just her opinion. There no right or wrong here even though you might think otherwise.

I guess it really depends on the person! I've been cheated on and I can truly say that I wish I didn't know. Just break up with me without telling me about the cheating! I don't ever want to cheat again...I've learned my lesson. But if I had to break up with my ex all over again I don't think I would have told him. I sometimes find people that tell the truth about cheating selfish. It's like you want to other person to take away your guilt or something. So not only did you cheat on them but you're also trying to make yourself feel better by hurting them more.

I met my current bf online. We live together and are happy. So, I don't think it's desperate at all. The reason I started doing it was because (like RayKay) I was tired of meeting people through friends...blind dates...yuck! I also was never into the whole bar thing. Dating online gives you the opportunity to actually "talk" to someone before going out to coffee. But, like in real life, you'll find some duds. That said, I have some great stories about online dating (you would not believe what some guys will do or say!) and I enjoy making my friends laugh! I say try it but be careful. Always meet in a public place and always take your own car. Oh! Also make sure you tell a friend where you're going. You can never be too careful.

Hope75 - I agree with you as well. I'm more or less on the fence about the whole topic. I have a friend that says she would never tell if she cheated because it's selfish. According to her, it would only hurt your SO. In my situation (happened years ago), I was breaking up with him because I cheated and didn't want to continue on with the relationship. Part of me thinks it would have been easier on him had I not said anything about the cheating.

I agree with you Dark.Angel. Any other POVs?

I've heard so many different answers to this question. I remember reading in Cosmo that you shouldn't if you want to continue the relationship. I dunno. Everyone says to tell but should you really? (I cheated once on my ex and told him. I caused so much pain...I've always wondered if I did the right thing).

Just a general question... Would you tell your SO if you cheated on him/her? * And no, I'm not asking because I cheated. I just had this convo with some gfs and I'd like to see what other people think.