Rylies Mommy

Very Good Outlook!

Yea I guess you all are right.. I think even though I am a new comer that I will take on some actons to keep the place cleaner like spraying and washing everything. I worked at a days care a year and half before adn we had sick kids eveey once in awhile but nothing too badand it didnt spread too much and we always bathed toys in clorox and water when it got like this and it helped trmendously. so I think i will go and stick it out for as much as my poor body can handy and try to get past the sick and yuck and nastiness of it all...

Well I just started a day care job on tuesday and i took my 10 month old thursday for the first time. Today we had to take her to the ER and she has a stomack virus and is throwing up and all. I am having second thought now. I jsut found out I am pregnant and i dont think i can put Rylie back in there knowing that she will get sick again... Its not fair for her and it jsut doesnt seem right cause she has never been sick before and after one day she has a virus? but i wanted a job where i could be with her and I tryed the home jobs and I couldnt manage that. But I need a job to bring in money but I dont want to be without my baby. I need help please.... I dont knwo what to do? and well lol i ma at a loss

lol you'll do just fine.... heck.... I am scared too I have a 10 month old and my husband has been wanting another one for the past 3 months... and well in the middle of the night i guess was the only time i would consent and here I am jsut found out I am pregnant.... even though its my second I am teirrified. questions flying morning sickness killing i wish you luck

yea I am 21 and when I found out i was pregnant I flipped. I cryed a lot. I was scared. And truth be told you have hard times ahead. People you thought would stick around ditch. You no longer "fit in" unless you have friends that are right where you are too and in thats case good for you. But its hard. You have to grow up so fast . But its worth is my daughter is 10 months now and is amazing. My husband and I got married and then a week later I was pregnant so its been a huge whirlwind . You have to learn about being married and being a parent and its very difficult. to know each others raising ideas. Communication will be a strong and very important thing in both of your lives and you need to communicate. My cousin is 14 with a baby. She has been through a lot and her to be husband left her for another girl she is raising her little one alone and yes its hard for her... but she loves her baby. Its in a womans genes I think to automatically love our kids. You'll do just fine... with love, maggie

Recovering is completely totally right in more ways then one. You have to forgive youself. I am still fresh from being a screw up so its going to take me a little more time to forgive myself but my husband and I are seaking counseling and I believe we will find a way to work throughit. And you can end the affair..... I , who never says no to any thing and am a sucker for everything ssaid no more.... Not exactly but I told him I had told my husband however he came to my house a few nights later and as hard as it was to not fall back int the comfort of his arms I pushed away and told him i couldnt do this any more... And it still being fresh on my mind still aches inside. But I smile every day knowing I am the one that stood up and took him by surprise by having a back bone and saying no. And its true seeing the shock on their face from you gaining a back bone is priceless. Get a back bone. Stand Up and say what you are doing is wrong. To me to your husband and hello your kids.!!!!!!! Mine only lasted 2 months but I never felt more pain than ever before link removed

I am pregnant.... Its for sure now. And the reason I am most sure that its not my husbands is because my husband and I used a condom the last time. The reason a condom wasnt used the time with the other guy is we were so drunk and to be honest I dont rememebr much of anything. Now... antibarbie, I thanky ou for your words and you are right.. I have come to the ecision to not tell the other guy at all. It would be ebst I think and am going to try and just move on... as far as my husband and I are concerned its "our' baby and our daughter will be a big sister. Now...monday we will know if we are good for the counseling to go. And then we will get there... we are going to have to really go through counseling for all of us. Thanx for your support

wow when I first started reading it I was all "get into it" but ailec is way right its not the kids place at all... its completley not fair and you should just try your best to stay out of it

Well. Many of you know me from the topic "i made a mistake and I'm strong enough to be open" Thank you all for your suppot and its really gotten me through a lot of everything. Thank you guys. But on to my problem: So you know my mistake...well its led to another.... Come wednesday I will know for a fact.. but I am almost possitive I am pregnant. and I am almost possitive its not my husbands. And whats scary is my husband is completely calm about it. If I am pregnant he said "you call the other guy and let him know and we will see what he says" But well to be honest I really dont knwo what the guy will say... we were pretty close just friends too and he loves the kids he has now.... well the lil girl that he knows for a fact that its his any way. But I am kinda worried about him wanting to be apart of this kids life.... I know he should be but I dont knwo it seems weird. My husband is fine with it actually he said we will get a DNA test and sue for child custody but I am so not a fighter. I dont want to do that ya know. Just seems wrong the kid has... well come to think of it he really isnt the good father figure (this other guy) so maybe i should fight im to sign over his rights? or hell i really dont know.... could some one help me? or jsut talk with me any thing my sn on AIM is : o2o2o5dmk and my yahoo is xxfaeriefrenzyxx i dont know... jsut please...

We havent started yet. we are still trying to find a place amd to the church counseling Idea... we have a church but they are ummm what could you call them..... they hld grudges... and i dont trust them they have never given me a reason to through these past 9 years. But its my husbands home. and he is actually helping to rebuild the church and get rid of the people that have broken it. Ans the churches in new boston... I am so afraid of being put down I really am And I know that it might be the best thing for me but if we remain going to that church peple may look at me different and every one will avoid me ya know? And thank you all again for being so supportive... but I have another problem... I need help with... PLease read my next post that will be called "its be again with an additional problem"

I agree. She has no reason to be mad and I would probabbly inform the other girl jsut to be on the safe side to go ahead and block her name.

we have and are... but we also have a 9 month old too... we are going about it as fast as we can

Thank you.... I am surprised at the "non judging" No offence. but you have no idea how much your words of encouragment mean to you... I feel now that a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders and I think you all so much for being so helpful....and no we havent found a counselor yet we have to wait for the right kinda funds. I am usually ashamed about reaching out for help money wise but this is a necessity... I love my husband more than life and what i did was wrong and I want to do everything I can to fix what I broke... thank you all again

Wow I almost hate to say anything... I messed up and had an affair. Stupid and drunk and my husband and I were having serious communication problems and i went to a friend. I have however ended it with him told my husband and we are rebuilding and going to start counseling soon. I was lost confused and not being able to communicate with ym husband was killing me. But we are starting a new plate and going to start counseling soon. People mess up. I messed up. I know that now. The other guy never pushed me though. This has all happened recently and its hard. My husband has forgiven me but now i have to find away to forgive myself adn I dont think thats going to happen for awhile. I still feel i need the punishment and that is a score i can only settle with myself and couseling may or may not help. So many people say once a cheater always a cheater but you cant put people in those tables its not fair. I messed up. I know this and I am taking my responsability for it and I know I will be judged. I am not expecting people to embrace what I have done but I believe if you share your story then that too also helps the rebuilding process. I would love any feedback whether it be criticizing or not and I am sure to get some because every one judges. I do howver ask that before you call me names or pathetic that you try to get to know me and understand my situation. I am open and willing to discuss things further and any questions I will try to answer with the best of my ability. My love to you all and your courage to come forth and be open about your mistakes.