tretneo
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Ok so this is the death of this thread Steph didn't respond when I called and left a message earlier this week, nor to a myspace message earlier... She didn't call today regarding our plans... so that's that.... I am not too worried about it... it just didn't happen thanks for reading and responding guys... Rob
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4ever, I have done this for a long time... usually on my arms, shoulders and upper back... usually it starts as like a white head or something and I will just over time pick at it over and over again... It is something that I often don't realize I am doing so it is difficult to stop it. I think it might be an OCD type behavior like the other poster said. And as you say it seems to be worse when I am nervous, anxious or depressed about something Rob
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Sister-in-Law caught me masterbating...
tretneo replied to nakedbob20002000's topic in Sex and Romance
My question is, does your wife have any idea that you masterbate? Either way it would be best for you to tell her ASAP but I am wondering how she will take it if she doesn't know you do that... do you think she will take it kind of personally? as in she isn't enough for you? I am not trying to scare you, but I am just thinking out loud and trying to maybe prepare you for her possible reaction.... If she already knows you do that, then it's all good. But she may think you don't. Rob -
hey thanks for the reply. It is very hard to be in the dark so to speak... The mixed signs is what is really getting me... I see good signs and then I see some that could be bad signs.... but it is hard to tell based on them what she wants / feels.... Time will tell right? Like you say go with the flow... Keep me updated on your situation.... I hope it all goes like you would like it to Rob
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Thanks again frisco.... talk about good guys.... You should probably be sitting at the head of that table.... I'll let ya know how things develop Rob
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thanks again for taking a look at this situation and providing your opinion man... I hate feeling unsure about things... especially when it comes to relationships or possible relationships... It's something I was discussing with Healinghands yesterday... I have a serious fear of rejection caused by some childhood events that causes me to have a real hard time with certain aspects of dating/relationships. Because of this I have a real hard time with not knowing where I stand... So the waiting game is torture.... But then if things work out of course it is rewarding and to be honest when it doesn't work out it isn't the end of the world.... but knowing that doesn't seem to make me any more comfortable in these types of situations... I agree with you that this could go 50/50.... I see and feel some signs from her that tell me she is interested.... but then I see some things that stick out as possible warning signs.... Healinghands could be right about me overanalyzing everything and overthinking.... I am going to try and relax man... I will be seeing her this Friday and we'll see how that goes.... Thanks again man, you are a big help Rob
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I struggle with Self Esteem as well... It is hard to take a look at your own actions and see the good in them when you don't have a sense of self worth... Trust me you sound like a great person and I meant it when I said your actions show rare qualities.... I think you have some tough things in the immediate future to deal with but I think they definitely need to be dealt with... Your father sounds like he has a temper and an anger problem.... and those don't go away or fix themselves... It isn't healthy for those around him Again do not blame yourself.. Rob
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one more thing.... you show a very caring personality... with what you did for the community and what you did for your brother... You show selfless giving... that is rare and beautiful.... BE PROUD OF YOURSELF.... Rob
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Goneagain, As a kid.... and I don't mean that as an insult... but at 18 you are still very young.... when people we love, especially family members act that way we tend to look at ourselves to place the blame.... It is very natural that you feel the way you do... But look at the situation... You father as you say has a short temper with you and your brother... There is no excuse for verbal abuse, Period... He has issues with anger and that is not your fault, your brothers fault, or your mothers fault... I imagine your mother feels as helpless as you do in this if he does it to her as well... You are very brave and did the right thing by getting out of the situation as best you could... Verbal abuse can be as traumatic as physical abuse but it leaves different scars... deep ones. I think your father needs some serious help with how he approaches things. If he isn't willing to do that then maybe you need to sit down and have a serious talk with other family members and figure out a way to get away from that abuse. Your father can only be helped if he is willing to admit his problems and want to fix them.. Again it isn't your fault and it isn't your fault... there is no excuse for that kind of behavior... Rob
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ok.... so back to confused lol..... I need mental help I know... So I was kicking back chatting to Healinghands (hugs) on Aim and my cell phone started ringing... It was Steph... I stopped expecting calls from her so it was a surprise... long story short we caught up about stuff from the past week... she was really really sick over the past few days and had that trip out of state over the weekend which she thinks might have been the cause of her being sick... So I asked if she was going to be able to cut out of work earlier to make it to the guns show since she had to miss work for the sick days... she said yeah for sure... so we are still going to the concert... secondly I asked what her schedule looks like for this coming week and she and I both have friday off.. I mentioned thinking about heading out that way anyway so we should hang out... she agreed so next Friday we will be hanging out together... I thanked her for calling and everything and said it was nice to talk to her and she said yeah for sure and that was that... input? I am not getting worked up over this because I am confused by her actions and just don't know what she is thinking... Rob btw this thread won't die lol... sorry
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awww, Healinghands.... I could use a hug.... where are you??
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Hey thanks bro.... We'll see how that goes... not holding my breath though lol...
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Haha well I don't know about me giving advice... I am just using what all you guys tell me.... I can say that I am disappointed obviously.... I am not happy about the way this has all turned out but what can you do right? I am hopeful that what you say about the future will actually happen... We'll see how it goes... I will just continue being myself and doing what I think is right... with a little help from my friends of course Rob
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Well this will pretty much wrap this thread up.... I sent Steph a text... something along the lines of "been thinking about you and hoping you are feeling better. If you need anything please ask" to which I got a response about an hour later of "I am ok thanks" So basically I am done... I give up completely on trying with her. I know if I was to get a text like that from her or someone I was into or cared to date I would be extremely touched and happy and say more than just that as a response.. I could be wrong but I doubt it... If I am proven wrong later than so be it. I am pretty sure based on responses from a lot of you in this thread already that you will agree with my call here. Thanks for the help with this one guys I appreciate it. Rob
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lol... ok I will make sure to stay away from that tune.... It was depressing for sure. Rob