smackie9

Been there....your answer is to leave him. That's it.

So you stay with him and are left with this PTSD to deal with? Uh no hun, you can't keep living in fear or waste money on a therapist. The key to happiness is to walk away from it and him that goes with it. You know he still thinks it but doesn't say it...why is it YOUR problem? He's the problem.

How about just ending the relationship. It's totally ran it's course and TBH there's really nothing there for you. I get it people seem to hang on because of time invested...but your loss is more when you stay, because there's missed opportunity to find someone who really is a better fit for you.

Sorry autistic or not he's a jerk and you have to stop being this guy's doormat. He will never change or stop being this way to you...you are over doing it, and he taken advantage of your kindness and effort. Girl you need to go out and find your self worth...plenty of nice decent guys out there to date that would treat you like a queen. You need to dump this guy. Seems scary at first but I guarantee you, you will feel like a big weight is lifted off of you so you can breath again...mind, body and soul.

So you were see two girls at the same time, they find out about each other, then the one you want doesn't trust you and you feel you are owed in some way with the effort you put into putting your heart felt words out to her and yet it's not working. From a woman's perspective I don't blame her one bit for being hesitant. All you can do is wait if she is worth waiting for. If you really care for someone you sacrifice something of yourself to them without complaint. And that is being respectful of her request to think things over. If she doesn't want to see you anymore, you gracefully accept the outcome and move on. Plenty of other girls to date in your future.

You should trust what he says because it makes sense...people grow apart because people change as they get older. There are never any guarantees in life...always a gamble. Dating is a crapshoot. Just date him and see where it goes. The whole point of starting out is to enjoy one another's company and have fun. If things don't work out, so what. Life will go on.

There are no mixed signals. She sound like she's a busy lady and doesn't have time for calling/texting...but she can work her schedule to see you. You need to ask her out on dates, and base your assessment during the dates. So far so good, so just keep asking her out.

Honest communication with him is your answer. If he's just that, too busy, and doesn't really have the time, then you two have different expectations/ incompatible. Have to talk this out and discover if there can be changes and if not, then a decision has to be made.

Obviously you have it all wrong...he's insecure and jealous. Get out now.

Well if there ain't no ring on her finger, she's fair game. Ask her out. It's up to her after that, if she's willing or not. You are not forcing her into anything.

You have many options here. I'm sure you can decide which one would be suitable. It doesn't have to be this event, it can be anything like going to see a movie or whatever.

However you set this up, don't start makin the moves on her yet. It's a first date/hangout...doesn't mean it's for romantic reasons...you could be friends zoned and you don't even know it. So just enjoy the date/hangout, talk, maybe go out for a snack afterwards. Feel things out. Parents: Either explain to her it's a family thing and she's more than welcome to come along or like Wiseman stated get separate tickets if that is an option.

Depends on your future expectations....for example if you are thinking marriage with children it's a no brainer to sent this gentleman off. But if you are just looking for a companion, casual relationship then it shouldn't be an problem. Just take note, in your 50's you will be probably taking care of an elderly man.

What to do or your next step will be up to you. Maybe have some communication with her and time to think before you decide.

You loved him so much you knew this was best for him. His new sexual development needs exploration and the freedom to do it without guilt. You just freed yourself from the pain and anxiety. For sure you shouldn’t be someone you are not just to be in that relationship. This was a very mature decision. You may have feelings of guilt and uncertainty which is truly normal, but in a few months you will feel relief and look forward to your new future. You will adjust. Maybe you yourself should seek out a few counselling sessions to unload your grief. Must be hard to not be able to talk to your friends and family about it. Most schools to offer free counselling, maybe start there. Best of luck and take care.