How Can I Move On After a Breakup?

Dear eNotAlone: My boyfriend and I had such a perfect relationship. I thought it was meant to last forever. We were together for two amazing years and then out of the blue, he suddenly broke it off with no explanation. He just said he didn't love me anymore and I felt like my world crashed around me. It still feels like he's everywhere, yet he's not. Everywhere I go, it's like a reminder of him. Everywhere we used to go, every memory I have of us, everything reminds me of him, and it's so hard to get over it. It was such a special relationship and I don't know how to let go. I know it's in my best interest, but it's hard. How can I move on?

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Letting go of someone you love is never easy but it is possible. The first step is to accept that the relationship has ended and no matter how painful it is, it is healthiest to move on. You may feel like you are living in a fog and there is no hope, but it takes time to process any kind of loss and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Remind yourself to take things one day at a time and keep your focus on the present moment and not what may have been.

Start by taking time for yourself. Find hobbies or activities that make you feel good. Spend time with people who care about you and make you feel good. Exercise, take nature walks or start a new creative project. Do things that make you feel alive and connected.

Look for the positive aspects in your current situation. Being alone can have benefits and can be a great opportunity to reevaluating yourself and your life goals. Get to know yourself better, you might be surprised at how much you can learn.

It may sound simple, but talking to friends and family can also be beneficial. They can provide support and offer new perspectives which can be especially helpful if there are doubts and lingering questions after a breakup. Journaling, meditation and other mindfulness practices can bring clarity.

Most importantly, give yourself grace. No one expects you to get over a broken heart overnight; take it slow and be gentle with yourself. Instead of focusing on how you were hurt, try to remember the love and joy you shared during the relationship. Allow yourself to feel the pain, then let healing come in.