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    Is Masturbution really that Bad !!!

    hay Guys, I start Masturbuting wen I was just 14, and the times I was doing it very secretly and avoiding not to let anyone know, (it is worth mentioning that I was told by my parents and schoolmates that Masturbution is very bad habit and is very harmful for a person's sexual life) which really had an effect on me. with my too much efforts I couldnt stop this and consequently I was thinking and assuring myself that as I am masturbuting so I will never have a pleasuring and satisfying sex life....Uhuh... but now when it comes to real intercourse I feel like I am expereincing pre-ejaculation, however, I am able to have my penis inside my gf 4-5 times before the ejaculation occurs... wat do u thing Guys if this is Pre-ejaculation or if it is just my sub-conciouse mind telling me that I hav mad myself like this because of starting masturbution too early... hav any of u guys experienced this.....
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    If you do it to yourself too much, it can get in the way of your sex life. There are plenty of women not getting any because their men wank to porn. If you want to know if it is getting in you way, stop doing it. Then you'll find out.

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    Masturbation seems to have nothing to do with your problem, physically.

    As a matter of fact, frequent masturbation can have quite the opposite effect on one's sexual experience: it makes your penis "callous" and used to "rough" handling (sorry about the semi-serious terminology, I am female) and therefore you might need to have much longer intercourse with a woman in order to experience an orgasm.

    For the record: women usually like this.

    Your case seems to be the consequence of a different problem, perhaps anxiety?

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    My bf went to a Catholic school where everyone told him that masturbating was bad.Which is completely untrue cause masturbating is normal and even healthy.However,if you masturbate all the time it could become a problem.I dont really know much about it but my bf told me this: the trick is when you masturbate try to last as much as you can,do not masturbate and come in 2 minutes cause that can lead to premature ejaculation and then when you have sex with someone you'll come too fast.Maybe that's your problem?

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    masturbation

    When you are having sex, and you are starting to come, can't you stop and do some other sexual activities before you start to have sex again. Can't you come fast, then have sex again in a little while?

    Masturbation can come before the sex, so that you are more relaxed when you are starting to enjoy yourself again.


    Self talk: what are you telling yourself when you are masturbating or orgasming? Are you saying like--I am bad, I am evil, I don't deserve this? That is guilt. Try and not hurry to sex so much, that way you can enjoy the company.

    Is the girl kind of controlling?
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    I know but my bf didnt care cause he knew it wasnt true Thank God my sweetie is intelligent

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    My mom always told me about masturbation, "God made your arms long enough to reach!"

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    Hi Ursomeone,

    Okay, there is a good answer that I can give you on this subject. How do I know that it is a good answer? Because, I myself experienced these things and am currently undergoing the effects and trying to fix my body. I am 29 years old.

    Now, for the answer, here it is: Masturbation per se will NOT harm your body. It's a normal biological process where you expel semen which then gets replenished by the body. In my view 'normal' would be masturbating 3 or 4 times a week. If you stick to this routine everything will be fine. Even if you get to the point of masturbating once every single day your body can still handle it! But the optimal frequency would be 3 times max.

    Okay, now to the bad part. I had previously mentioned about what I see as 'normal'. But some times people exceed this limit and masturbate 2 or 3 times in a single day. Now, your body can handle even this situation when you are ejaculating multiple times provided this is not happening on a regular basis. But in the case of a person that wanks more than once a day and sticks to this routine the body in time will struggle to replenish the resources that go away with masturbating. And I must emphasize the fact that the negative effects will not be visible immediately! It will take months and months before you can even see or feel any changes. This is what is called as over-masturbating ie., ejaculating more than once a day and keeping this routine for a very long period of time. I can guarantee that over-masturbation is very harmful. Now you may wonder why would some guy masturbate more than once a day and keep doing it many times a week? Take a good guess... People addicted to pornography is the answer! Why? because is essentially a facilitator for masturbation. When you see porn and wank its a more powerful experience than normal masturbation. Since that pleasure is compelling in nature you would want to see more and more stuff and keep wanking to it. Thats when you cross the normal limits of ejaculating more than once a day! Trust me, porn addicition is exactly similar to drug addiction and is very hard to break. Even before you realise, you would be addicted to the "watching porn and masturbating" combination. Things pretty much spiral down from this point and you would begin to see the after-effects of masturbating way too much. And those effects are -> weak erection, no more spontaneous erection, leg pain, hair loss, back ache, and getting a worn out appearence. Never ever see porn !!!!!! or do anything that will make you masturbate too often. I have suffered and seen it all. The world wouldn't believe if anybody said masturbating is harmful because nobody tells 'why exactly' is masturbating evil. I again want to reiterate the fact that masturbating in itself is not harmful as far as it is within reasonable limits. In the present world what we see are extremes, modern science says masturbate all you want, nothing will harm you and religion says don't masturbate at all. Both are wrong!! Masturbate, but make sure its within limits (3 or 4 times a week and not fueled by drug or pornography).

    I hope this helps.

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    I'm a Catholic too,but there are some things I dont agree on.Like the mastubation thing,you have to agree with me that's nonsense there's nothing wrong with masturbation.They also say women shouldnt take birth control pills,I too think that's not right,I mean,whats wrong with that? women have the right to choose what from of birth control they wanna use.

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    I'm not and won't debate religious belief. I may or may not agree with you. But, whether I do or not, neither of us should be attacked for that belief nor should the Church. End of story.

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