Redemption Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 So. My boyfriend is crazy. In his previous relationships, his girlfriends lied to him and cheated on him. I thought this wouldnt be a problem between us, right? Wrong. He told me he trusted me and was willing to make our relationship work, but inside of his mind apparently he was living the opposite. A few weeks ago, we were on the phone, and i got off to take a shower. Instead of calling him back when i got out of the shower, i just went to sleep. I was woken up at 4 am that morning [ON A SCHOOL NIGHT] by my father, looking for me. My boyfriend called my phone 47 times, left 23 text messages and filled up my voicemail inbox with psycho messages ranging from "im worried" to " * * * ARE YOU DOING I KNOW YOU ARE CHEATING ON ME" type messages. sooooooo we talked about it and i thought it was over, but just today he calls me, yelling saying that he just seen me driving past his job with a guy in my car. Im at home chasing my cat out of the office. I call him from the house number and he STILL DOESNT BELIEVE ME. [this happens twice a week every week, just different scenarios. i go downstairs to watch a dvd, i go to a friends house just to sit around and talk... i talk to my little brother, and somehow im cheating on him.] i broke up with him today but hes making me feel terrible, like i gave up on him. he says im selfish because i said "id rather be alone and happy than with you and going crazy" your opinions please? Link to comment
astaro Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 your not selfish, that guy is completely insane, you did the right thing. Link to comment
EvaGina Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 God I doubt his ex's were that bad... he's paranoid, and he probably imagined all the past transgressions. Link to comment
Scotcha Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Are you sure his ex girlfriends really did cheat on him and lie to him? From the sounds of it.. He has a lot to work on before he can handle a relationship. I agree.. I'd rather be alone and happy too. 1 Link to comment
Batya33 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 If someone told me in the beginning of our relationship he was "willing to make it work" despite these women supposedly cheating on him I would tell him that he needed to do the work on himself first before dating me. I agree with your decision. 1 Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 hes making me feel terrible, like i gave up on him. he says im selfish because i said "id rather be alone and happy than with you and going crazy" Imagine how terrible he'd make you feel if you stayed with him. What he calls selfish, I call a good decision to protect your own sanity. He has too many problems to be involved with someone. Link to comment
Redemption Posted March 7, 2007 Author Share Posted March 7, 2007 God I doubt his ex's were that bad... he's paranoid, and he probably imagined all the past transgressions. true... i tried asking him what his exs did that was so wrong and if they really even cheated on him [because he accuses me so much, he might have made up their infidelities] but it was a different story every time... *sigh* now i wish he would just stop texting me and trying to make me feel bad thank you guys for the quick replies Link to comment
EvaGina Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Turn your phone off if you can... you dont need the stress Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 way to go. now he really thinks you are seeing someone else. haha. no, you did the right thing. f that snot. Link to comment
Locke2121 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Dump him and lock the doors! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 last thing you need is this freak coming over and your dad letting him in. Link to comment
DizzyDoris Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Dump him and lock the doors! And change your phone number too! I think you definitely made the right decision here, he has issues and you dont deserve to be on the recieving end of them. Link to comment
Aleadragonhawk Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Good on you for dropping him. You definitely don't need someone like that in your life! It's going to be tough, but from here, it looks like you made the right decision. Link to comment
Spugly Fuglet Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 can some one post the web site to "how to post a Loser" it has some grate stuff on there about guys like thing, run and never look back. Link to comment
Jayar Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 He is not only an idiot, he is dangerous. Don't ever speak to him again. This WOULD HAVE turned into abuse. Link to comment
mikeca Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Yikes...restraining order material right there Link to comment
macgyver4ever Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 I hope I don't turn into that guy. If I do, please hit me. Link to comment
Aurian Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 can some one post the web site to "how to post a Loser" it has some grate stuff on there about guys like thing, run and never look back. Your wish is my command! link removed Excellent article on losers... 1 Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 lol, there are sites to report bad bf/gfs? haha Link to comment
Redemption Posted March 9, 2007 Author Share Posted March 9, 2007 He is not only an idiot, he is dangerous. Don't ever speak to him again. This WOULD HAVE turned into abuse. everyone keeps saying that, and at first i thought they were just overreacting but i can see it now... the threats dont work on me anymore. and can you believe he is still trying to control me? gah. i just wish he would go away. Link to comment
Redemption Posted March 9, 2007 Author Share Posted March 9, 2007 and i love this article. i wish he would read it... even though i doubt it would help him much... Link to comment
Redemption Posted March 11, 2007 Author Share Posted March 11, 2007 so. i just went to a party to let go of some stress and finally see my friends again and guess who showed up, and wouldnt stop staring at me all night? My ex. Its not like i knew he was going to be there, he goes out of his way to "coincidentally" cross my path... i already told my dad, now im just scared. and tired. of him. god. Link to comment
Aleadragonhawk Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 Don't rule out the idea of getting a restraining order. If you've told him not to contact you and he keeps calling and following you places, it might be the safest thing you can do. Link to comment
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