Daddy Bear Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 Oh good! But do the nice guys want a divoced girl with two kids?I did, but she more or less shot me down. Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 sorry...smokebloke Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 The reason why I was so blown away with his comment was that I eat really well, I go to the gym. And he tells me that he looks at girls with big breasts. He finds it exciting. I'm so humiliated!!! Link to comment
Dako Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 So maybe surgery is in order. Cut him off. Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 The reason why I was so blown away with his comment was that I eat really well, I go to the gym. And he tells me that he looks at girls with big breasts. He finds it exciting. I'm so humiliated!!!You should have said you look at men with big penises. That would teach him not to make comments like that. Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 Well, I DID say to him, "What if I told you I like big _ _ _ _ _ ? How would you feel if I said that? Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 Dako: you really think i should have surgery? Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 I've heard it's really bad for women. Link to comment
lunatic Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 Dako was referring to cutting him out of your life. It sort of reminds me of an gethimoutofmylifedecitmy. Link to comment
Dako Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 Just to cut him off, yeah. Bad joke, sorry. I just don't see the appeal of big breasts, or a reason to hurt your feelings. He's pretty dim if he thinks his boorish comments don't hurt you. Now I need a footfrommouthectomy. Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 LOL!!! Oh okay...I took that really literally! Link to comment
JoeWho Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 You don't need surgery, I'm sure many girls would love to have a b or c cup and most guys are not obsessed with huge fake boobs like your guy seems to be. Your guy is being a pompous , please don't ever consider getting surgery based on your guy's comments. Link to comment
fnlyfrei Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 So maybe surgery is in order. Cut him off. Yeah, well, I had that surgery...and it doesn't really make a difference..I know you were being sarcastic....he will find something else to pick on. I think he is on the complete defensive because his obvious character flaws are being pointed out. Sinking to his level, or trying to make him jealous isn't the answer. Stop talking to the creep. Do it NOW..quit calling him. Abruptly just disappear. Find a way to distract yourself...hang out with friends or relatives....do fun stuff with your kids. Remember what a valuable person you are...even without him...he WILL come crawling back eventually. And over time you will be suprized perhaps...that you do not even want him around. Him and his big, insulting rude mouth. Link to comment
DN Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 It's all very good asking for advice. But you haven't told us what you want. So - if you could wave a magic wand and get what you wanted - what would that be? Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 Oh yeah..that's a good idea. It just HHHUURURRRRRTTTSSSS like HEEEEELLLLL....... Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 If I could waive a magic wand? I would have a really hot guy who is the same religion as I am (this guy was...that was a big reason why I stuck with him! Hard to find!) he would be kind and love kids...want a child/children, be physically conscious (exercise, nutrition), be educated but not necessarily hold a phD, never criticize me, hug me and kiss me when I am hurt, be trust worthy, generous, forgiving, gentle. Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 not want to shack up, either. That's a big one! Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 Oh, and go to MITT in Los Angeles (link removed) it's an excellent training that gives people life skills in general. That reminds me! I need to go staff!! Any other mitt grads out there? Link to comment
DN Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 Yeah, well, let's not go too far - there is no genie in the bottle. Are those things you want in a guy things that you must have for a relationship to work for you? And, if they are, do you think your fiance could provide them for you? Assuming that he really wanted to? Are you able to compromise on any of those things if he cannot provide them all? Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 with the criticizing me...I would only want him to give me constructive feedback of course...not put me down. That was my point. I would want a guy who makes me feel special and cared for (and about), who understands my rape and what it did (or at least tries to understand). Someone who maybe knows what I'm talking about when I describe a sternocleidomastoid or a superior iliac crest. Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 Very good question. Yeah, I could be getting a little carried away. I think he can provide some of these things. I know he doesn't eat real well and that is a big concern for me. i am a total nut about that stuff. I just don't want our kids eating like that. Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 He keeps telling me he will do something and then doesn't. Like mitt. He promised he would go, and it's been 2 years since then. It's obvious he won't. Says he will, then doesn't. It's a trend for him. Link to comment
DN Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 Someone who maybe knows what I'm talking about when I describe a sternocleidomastoid or a superior iliac crest.Is this a joke or are you being serious? If it is a joke I'll sort of chuckle and move on. If you are serious I have to ask if you think that is a realistic expectation. Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 I see where you're going with all of that. I have asked him and he just doesn't communicate real well with me about it. He's a huge avoider. Link to comment
isisastaria Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 No it was more of a joke. But I do like to talk to people about life sciences. I talk to a pediatric surgeon at church and I love to talk about all the interesting things he has come accross in his career. (This guy's old enough to be my dad and is married by the way). It's just a bonus...but yeah...that wasn't a "need" Link to comment
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