What do you want to say to your ex?

[Lava Rocks]

Thank you. Off to better and brighter things now.

[emma34]

YOU NEVER BOUGHT ME A BIRTHDAY PRESENT! Is that too much to ask? A flower or a card would have been wonderful!

 

You were too shallow for me....I really never cared that all your clothes were high end brand names - I also thought u were an idiot every time you purchased a hundred dollar tshirt.

 

thers no way i would have ever married you

 

ya, your hot....i get that you know this....everyone does - but when you chose to go to the gym instead of picking me up from school after not seeing me for 2 weeks - that really hurt my feelings.

 

Thanks for being on the phone with me, and attempting to stick by me during anxiety attacks. But went I sent you that e-mail refercing that site with all the things you could do to really be a help to me during those times, and you never really cared to really read it - that hurt my feelings.

 

Your a fire fighter...ya, thats hot...but i'm still more educated than you

 

one day - I will be a richer than you. Guaranteed.

 

I think you might have cheated on me on one of your 'boy trips' (which by the way are for older midlife crisis guys and bachelors - NOT YOU!)

 

I think it's really nice that your friends by all your stuff...p.s. you are a mooch!

 

your friends pick up hookers....yah....REAL winners ya got there.

 

Your friend Brandon has serious self-esteem issues

 

I think I know too much about your friends

 

I DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS! except for a couple...the only couple in fact....funny

 

One day you will make a great boyfriend to a girl...but only when your friends do it first.

 

Why do you bother telling ppl that ur french if u can't evens speak French?

 

You were really mean to your ex-girlfriend...that doesn't make you a bigger person. P.s. You are also quite mean to me.

 

All i needed was ur love, so you can't blame for being cold towards you, because i didn't have your love.

 

YOU SUCK!

 

I feel bad for your next girlfriend. Tell her to bring a friend - it can be rahter lonely being your girlfriend

[pspecial]

i wish i never met you. you are the worst thing that's ever happened to me.

[brokenbird]

As for your latest choices in women,

 

You're like school in the summer time...

 

NO CLASS

 

Tell her (them) to leave me alone!!!

[ImThatGirl]

That I don't really love him. That I feel addicted to him. That I am scared to not have "someone" to turn to so I hold onto him.

[darkpumpkin]

That your not who I thought you were. That I even did this silly ride a second time around thinking it was me who was all crazy and wrong. I'm not wrong and I'm not crazy. Last thing you said to me.

"I don't have time for your insecurites, I've said how I feel if that's not good enough for you then find someone else".

 

How do you think I'm supposed to take that. You don't have time to explain why girls are writing crap all over your facebook profile! I want someone who wants a future. Who wants someone to be with and build a life with. Not a damn convincece.

[lady00]

You had a great thing. And you pushed it away. You think there is better out there. Maybe you're right. Good luck finding it. I don't think I could ever trust you with my feelings again. And I know it will be a while before I trust another guy. When we started going out, I had just been hurt by someone else. I didn't deserve to get hurt again, especially by someone who acted like he was real and saw me as something valuable. In the end you didn't value me as I valued you and that is sad...for you. You don't wan anything to mess up your boring routine. Good luck going through life like that. When I think of being friends with you...I think okay, I might be okay with that. When I think of getting back together and you asking for me back, I get scared and think of how you pushed me away and hurt me the last time around out of the blue. I know it is safer, more logical for me to stay away from those kinds of thoughts of getting back together. You admitted that I was "perfect" and that I treated you well, but you just didn't feel "that way," whatever that means. I have given up on trying to understand you and why you think you would know whether a relationship would last without investing anything in it. I hope no one ever does the same thing to me. I don't ever want to be surprised like that and made to feel like I am not good enough. I am good enough. Maybe one day you'll regret it and appreciate what you had. By then, I will be with someone who truly appeciates me . You weren't the only one interested in me at the time but I picked you and now I feel like you never appeciated what you had. Well, whatever. It really is truly your loss.

[Aschleigh]

I am just so pissed that the beauty of me in love was squashed by you. Do you think you will ever know such greatness again? It was our chance for paradise. Our chance to live in love and respect, and you cowardly squirmed out of it. We had passion and fun and love.

[Broken83]

I thought you were the only one for me and I loved you. You broke my heart, without an explanation or anything. You tried to justify your actions and put the blame on me... well, I won't sit down and cry about your drama... Good riddance baby. You're the worst thing that happened in my life.

[darkpumpkin]

I'm struggling here thinking I should beg for you back. Thinking that you the one I want. You were never that "into me" in the first place. But you made me believe. You made me believe we could be together forever. I did so many cool things with you. Then you started to play me. Look for other people behind my back. You were the first one from my heart breaking that I thought I could see a future with. You were just a lesson....a horrible lesson that destroyed myself esteem and the happiness I felt inside.

[thelonelydoll]

An email from the ex, my responses in brackets. This email has been eating at me since it got through my filters on April 2.

 

i am alive and in aa now properly , listening and learning.

 

[too bad you didn't listen to me when we were together, instead of lying to me about going to a couple of meetings and claiming it was too "holy-rollerish" for you - I know in reality you never went at all.]

 

going dry is dangerous without propper backup from aa i now begin to realise how vindicated you are in the term psycho .you cant un medicate a mind for the first time in over ten years without dramatic and dangerous consequences. lookup "dry drunk psychosis" on the minesota recovery pages find this and the behaviour i showed is there. paranoia obsession domination aggression.

 

[i don't need to look it up - I lived with it!]

 

it has given me a basis for my membership of aa.

 

[The only requirement for membership in AA is a desire to stop drinking.]

 

you meant the best but as we found out willpower is as good a cure for

alcoholism as it is for cancer.(p73 living sober)

 

[As someone who actually had cancer at your age, I find this kinda insulting.]

 

love isnt enough for such a strong drug.

the effects of which on a mind are incredible especialy mine which hasnt

experienced such a prolonged spell of abstinence in my adult life. i was

unable to function rationaly delving into mania and paranoia which are know effects of the disease, when you are ill you cant see it. im still ill and

will be for a long time the only thing to do is a meeting a day every day.

 

i am not going to appologise as the words of a drunk mean nothing.

 

[in which case, this entire email is b.s.!]

 

i do want to thank you for being the first person to really make a difference to my life. if it wasnt for you i dont know where i would be.

 

[Where were all your so-called friends over the years? Did nobody notice, or did you burn your bridges, or did they simply not care? You once told me your own mother kept a calendar of your "moods" just like I did - did it occur to nobody else to draw a line and get you help?]

 

i know now im at the start of a very long road back to life. i regret the loss of quality in your life it took for me to begin my life was the pain worth it.

 

[No, the pain wasn't worth it for me - guess it was for you, though. Nice one!]

 

i will let you know when i feel i have reached 30 proper sober days.

 

[Please don't contact me until you really are prepared to apologize to me, and take some responsibility for your actions instead of masking it in your new-found AA speak! Right now, if you actually are sober, you're coming to your two week "wall" and probably making life hell for whoever is nearby, wherever you are - good luck to them!]

 

ps. i have my books and online meetings for when im working

 

[if you're looking for a medal, you're not going to get one from me. And I don't know how your various employers can hire a "safety specialist" who's a drunk - you hit your two-week wall out on that oil rig, didn't you, which is why you were off the rig in 11 days when it was meant to be 21....]

[Rosey]

I just can't believe you allowed me to think something more could happen, when I specifically asked you not to contact me because I was still hoping for something. And you did contact me, and you told me that you loved me and that I meant the world to you.... we got back together and you asked me not to leave you. Yet less than two weeks later you told me you couldn't commit to anything.

 

How could you say that you loved me? I just feel so sad. I want you back so badly but I know it couldn't work because I wouldn't trust it.

 

Actually I'm having to work very hard at resisting the urge to tell him this! Must remember the benefits of no contact....

[lady00]

Being away from you is great. I can't wait until you're out of my life for good. And it's not cause you're a bad guy or I don't care. It's because you're a good guy and I do care.

[sandyv]

I wanna tell you Jack, I still love you, but why oh why, are you still breaking my stupid heart..?

[Aschleigh]

I am still angry every time I see your face. It reminds me of a love that you won't let develope or nurture. Finding love isn't easy. You let go so easily. You don't have the depth to have a real relationship. You're fine with your mediocre ones. A f**k buddy who you can drink with is not a girlfriend. But anything more takes some time and attention. You are lazy and weak. And deserve the girl who makes out with other guys in front of you. You had all my love and squaundered it.

[laboheme]

I have been spending quite a bit of time talking to a particular guy and went on a couple of dates with him...and let me tell you, it's really helping me see all your shortcomings. I can have a conversation with him where we actually use reasonably advanced vocabulary. He has a lot of things to say about interesting issues, issues that I barely know anything about, and that makes it so terribly exciting. Those issues aren't limited to sports statistics and gossip, just to let you know. Moreover, he is interested in what I have to say about things above and beyond what I had for dinner last night. It's been such a long time since I've had a conversation like that, because you sure never provided me with that luxury.

 

I'm not going to lie, I don't see myself having a relationship with this guy -- there doesn't seem to be enough chemistry for that -- but he is showing me all the things that you never gave me. And by those things, I mean a functioning brain.

[Shiva 2007]

why the heck heven't you changed your mailing address, after all you have a fckyn po box, then why not use it??? this is not your resting post

[derekjones52]

I dont know if I should even try anymore with you. I have showed you nothing but love and kindness and all it seems is that you enjoy to toy with my heart. Somedays I think of how I deserve to be treated so much better and then other days I think about how great it was to share soo many different experiences in life with you. I wanted to marry you, the day I came to that realization in my mind that it was only you that I wanted was the day you dumped me. You wont give our relationship another chance for reasons I dont know, I hate that you can be so closed off after all that we have been through. Why do I waste my time hoping that you will come back. why cant i just stop caring about you.

[willow2900]

So I found out the other day that you are single again. The girl you practically left me for, if not did leave me for, is now not your girlfriend. I said it was a rebound, I wanted to believe it all this time, but this just proves it.

 

So how do I feel about it? Really blank actually. I don't find myself elated to find you single. I don't find myself wanting to be a part of your life, or you a big part of mine again. I don't feel like I finally have a chance again. I am actually confused slightly by these blank, non-feelings, but I am also happy that I feel them. It means that what I have been thinking for months is truly how I feel. This is some of the best validation I have received in a while. And for that - thank you.

 

You were a big part of my life and I loved you in a way that I have not loved. I gave you all of me 100%. The entire essense of myself. You threw it all away though. You threw any chance of being with me again with your actions. You didn't appreciate me. You weren't there for me. You didn't support me emotionally. I was struggling for so long while we were together, and you didn't care. I gave so much to you and you used it all up without a second thought. Do I still love you? Not like I did. You broke my trust. And some how that fractured my love or you in a way that the pieces won't ever fit back together again.

 

I deserve better than how you treated me. I deserve true love. I deserve support, compassion, empathy, romance, crazy defining, consume yourself with it love. And I will get it buddy. I will get it! I'm going to live my life and watch the good unfold for me. It might take a while for it to come, but it will. Don't pride yourself in the fact that I was so crushed by you for so long. You didn't ruin me. I am strong. I am willing. And I am going to love again. Bigger, stronger, healthier and more honest than I've ever felt before.

[metrogirl]

I was really mad that you ended our relationship although I understand why you did. I miss you and I think about you all the time. You were the love of my life. Perhaps one day, destiny will bring us back together.

[Torn_Then_Reborn]

I would like to say - "Joanna, I love you. I wish you were single" .. I think about you every second I am awake.. And dream about you when I am asleep .

 

I so wish things were different.. Because I was so happy with you.. You are everything I ever wanted.

[edjuvreason]

Suicide Boy: I wish you had not taught me to feel trapped in an exclusive relationship.

 

Asshammer: I wish you had not made me feel obligated to be a plaything and an object for men's pleasure lest you hurt, humiliate, and abuse me.

I wish you had not ignored me, manipulated me, and treated me like a child.

If I ever see you again, I will kill you so that you can never hurt another woman. But then again, you seem to be doing a good enough job of killing yourself with your brand spanking new cocaine addiction.

 

Matthew: I wish you had trusted me and not made me feel as though everything I say is potentially circumspect.

I wish in turn that I had trusted you more, and not felt you had used me, and so perhaps you might have not felt so hurt.

 

Jack: I wish I could have helped you to heal. I wish I could have understood you because you need someone who understands. I wish I could have communicated with you better. But you have no idea how to communicate.

(The next time you have sex with someone, it would be a good idea to talk about it first, and not just go at it while drunk.)

I miss you, because at least with you I knew where I stood.

 

And to my Poet: I wish I hadn't been so naive. I wish I had not let someone else abuse me in order to feel better about receiving your affection. I wish I could have felt comfortable touching and kissing you the way you touched and kissed me.

Most of all I miss holding you, as much as you squirmed and wriggled and talked in your sleep

I am so thankful that you are still there for me, even though I wish wholeheartedly that you loved me the way I love you.

[skyjuice]

Hi

 

Yesterday was your birthday. I thought I would cry, but I didn't.

I could finally say that I am totally over you. I felt great about it.

[brokenbird]

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[sleepy_kisses]

thank you for all the pain you have caused me, you beautiful heartbreaker

i have done nothing but been here for you through so much * * * *ing * * * *

and this is how you repay me? * * * * you.

 

i really just want to scream and cry in his arms until i can no longer breathe.

 

i deserve so much better, but i only want you.

thank you for all these miserable night of tears every night

you have NO idea what i have been through these past 5 years

and you never understood me and you never even tried to anyway

you never gave me the time of day

i'm sick of hearing "sorry, you were the answer all along"

bull * * * *. you never gave a damn.

i can't believe anything you say.

you were my everything, and now i have nothing.

i can't take it anymore

what am i to you?

why were you so untrue?

i want to know what goes on that head of yours

what makes you act like this?

all these years you've seen me fall apart

i should have know it all along from the start

i really hope you're enjoying this

the rain is falling on me, thanks honey pie!