Bibbity Bobbity Boo Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 I'm 33 going on 34 in august and I still live with my parents. At what age would this turn a girl off and her not considering dating a guy if he still lived with his parents. Link to comment
caasiopia68 Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 no offence or anything but thats what you see on tv about comic book nerds... if i was 33 it would be a turn off for me... Link to comment
lonelyandblue Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 to me, around 25 and after, is a turn off. I can understand staying a little after college till you find a job or something, but not longer than that. Link to comment
hayden006 Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Sorry, but Yes... that is a turn off. I am 29 years old and would not want to date anyone leaving with there mom. If you are close to mom and dad you can live near them just not with them best of luck Link to comment
Bibbity Bobbity Boo Posted July 20, 2005 Author Share Posted July 20, 2005 no offence or anything but thats what you see on tv about comic book nerds... if i was 33 it would be a turn off for me... Offense taken! I am not a comic book nerd. For the last 8 years I have been helping my grandfather pay his medical bills for his diabetes and cancer, thereforeeee my finances are strapped. But since I still live with my parents I wanted to know if this turned off the ladies. How would you like it if i assumed you were a comic book nerd?! Link to comment
RayKay Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Really depends on reasoning...sometimes people move back home to take care of parents, go back to school, as a middle ground while they go through a divorce or life change. In some cultures too it is common to live with parents until marriage, or to provide for them during rough times (I know ppl who live with a mother who is going through her own divorce for example, or whose husband just died etc). I see nothing wrong with it in certain circumstances..there are many people now who take care of ailing parents as many people have children at older ages. If however it was just to live cheap and parents still do everything for you, I would be turned off. In your case, you are taking care of your grandfather's bills, and I think that is very commendable. Just be sure to maintain your independence still even while living at home (ie pitch in, do your own laundry, maintain a life outside home, be honest about reasons for being there and so on). Link to comment
hayden006 Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 well, now that I have a better understanding of what you are doing. You taking on all of that is autually a nice thing, and can be a turn on to some women. -- I am sure that it is hard when you meet people and say you live at home... cause when you first hear that it rasie a red flag (this is just in my eyes) In your cause you would have to say I live at home b/c ........ and maybe the girl on the other end will be more open minded. -- Link to comment
LoveOneAnother Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 It would alarm me. This is probably not anything that you want to tell anybody right away. Regarless of your reasons. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Being an older man and living with your parents does have some stigma attached to it. It could depend on your particular situation but upon initially hearing that an older man lives with his parent it does sound bad. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 It would put me on guard, but it wouldn't be an automatic no. I'd have to know more about *why* a guy was living with his parents. If it was like my brother-in-law who decided he really doesn't want the "hassle" of a job/supporting himself/paying bills and would rather spend his time playing online and buying Gundam models....well...thanks, but no thanks. If it was the situation my husband was in when I met him (just divorced, working his butt off and paying 75% of what he made to his ex for alimony and child support)...that's a different story. Obviously it wasn't a "no," since I married the guy. And we're done with his alimony obligation in just a few months!!! YAY!!! Link to comment
darkblue Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Given the reasoning for staying with your parents, I don't believe it's a turn off. Link to comment
Kyoshiro Ogari Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Yes, your reasoning is admirable. If that is the case, I believe you're fine. But it's funny when someone mentioned comic book nerd. A good friend of mine is 35 and lives with his mother... in the basement of the house... with over 7500 comic books and counting! He doesn't fit the criteria for a nerd, but since he is not making a 100% effort to get out there, he's stuck in limbo. But you, you're ok. Link to comment
birdgirl Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 I was going to say the same thing, if you're caring for sick parents, that's reasonable. Or helping with grandpa's bills. I could look past that. But if your mom still does your laundry, or if you have to explain where you go like a child... I don't know. If they still treat you like a kid, that's not cool. Link to comment
arwen Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Considering your circumstances, it really wouldn't be a turn-off but still a concern. On the one hand, it really says something very positive about you (about the bills for your granddad-- for me that would outweigh the consequence of it). On the other hand, having lived on my own since I was 18 years old myself, I'd be afraid of too many differences in lifestyle. Ilse. Link to comment
volution Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 If you can't afford to live on your own other than in another country - what do you do? Kill yourself? Link to comment
Jetta Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 It's a turn off pretty much anytime past highschool, unless the guy is in college and can't afford both housing and tuition. As far as paying the bills for your Grandad that's honorable but still you should be making your own way and then helping him as you can not instead of taking care of your own economic needs. Link to comment
walkingwithaghost Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 I'm 20 and it's a turn off, I say once you're 21 (the age you should be out of school) you must be out of the house. Link to comment
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