Alessandra Loi Posted March 1 Share Posted March 1 Hello there! I'm new on here Let me know if I need to do a presentation I'm Alex, I'm a girl and I'm 21 years old and I want to kindly ask you some relationship advice Three months ago I broke up with my ex boyfriend because of poor communication in the last month of our relationship (that lasted about a year) , but I still loved him a lot and truly think he is my soul mate because of the beautiful connection we have (I don't actually believe in soul mates but you know what I meant) The problem is: since I thought our relationship couldn't be saved, I decided to stupidly look for another guy on a dating app While looking at the guys in the dating app, I didn't truly want to find another boyfriend but still wanted my ex Unfortunately I found a guy on Badoo that I immediately started to find interesting but a few days after talking to him, I had already lost interest and wanted to get back with my ex because I missed him The problem is that I found out that by chatting with that guy my feelings for my ex became less strong Now, after three months, I don't care at all about the guy on the dating app but I still feel like I don't love my ex like I used too and I can't explain how frustrating this is because I used to be madly in love with him I still care about him a lot and want him to be my boyfriend and I would marry him in the future because of how beautiful our relationship was (except for the last month) Currently we are trying to fix our relationship and found our connection again and had fantastic deep conversations, as deep as the ones we used to have when we were together last year The thing is: when I touch his skin it doesn't feel as good as it did and the world seems less colorful and warm (you know the feeling of seeing everything more colorful when you're in love) and I don't like sex with him anymore Taken all of this in consideration, I can't see my future with anybody else but him and I have zero interest in dating someone else Apart from this, we still have a fantastic connection mentally and I still like kissing him and saying "I love you", even if a bit less I don't see him as a friend in the absolute way and I truly want to feel like I used to and marry him Analyzing myself I found out it's not only about our relationship, but it's also about how depressed I feel without the chemicals that were in my brain when I was madly in love I didnt't only lost interesting in sex, but I also see the world grey and sad I hope this is not too confusing Now, do you think I could get my "madly in love" feeling back? Do you think I stopped loving him totally or is it just the limerence phase that is gone? (I know you can't read my mind but I want some opinions based on experiences) Thank you in advance if you will post your opinion or give me your advice Quote Link to comment
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