Alessandra Loi

Our problem with letting go is that we both are 100% we are the right person for the other I already desire him romantically My problem is just that I feel a difference when hugging and kissing. I literally crave for a kiss and get disappointed when I notice it doesn't feel good It's just about that but the trust and care are there. I love him in another sense and it's not as a friend If I hadn't met someone else and had just a bit of interest for few days after breaking up with my ex, we would be happily back together I guess right person, wrong time or just my stupid brain deleting good feelings because of a dude that I cared about for three days

I'll probably do it He's sad about letting me go as well but he will get over it eventually and maybe one day I will too

Of course I would never cheat. And I'm not staying in the relationship just to say I'm in a relationship but because we both were so happy and I stupidly hope we can go back to that with time

Maybe I didn't explain well, sorry... I stopped talking to the guy on the dating app after two or three days and I 100% don't care about him anymore The problem is that by talking to him I started feeling like I don't love my ex anymore It's been 3 months and I still feel that way I still like talking to him but kissing and cuddling is not the same anymore and I'm so depressed... I don't want to hurt him by standing here like a phantom that craves the past I'd want to make him happy again He's not happy either because he knows my feelings changed and I don't see him as a friend at all I just feel like I want to enjoy cuddling him again because it mare us happy and he truly deserves to smile

No, what you said is right I've already talked to him about not trying to fix the relationship to let him go and possibly be happier, but he doesn't want to let me go either We both think we won't find someone as good because our relationship was the best, a part from a short period of time But I do think it would be the best for him

I do give to him, I truly want to make him happy but even if I do that, I feel to bad emotionally I think it's because I fear that I don't love hin anymore and this makes me depressed (and I already am clinically depressed) I want him to be happy with or without me but I struggle to let him go because if I do and then my feelings come back, he might be with someone else and our connection is so strong that we both would probably be unhappy with someone else And I'm not saying this to brag about it but because he said that too

He knows about all of this and of course he doesn't feel good and I don't feel good for not being sure about my feelings It's a real hell for the both of us and I thought about letting him go to allow him to find someone else but I also fear that he could find someone else and never come back to me I just want to feel the same excitement that I had before breaking up with him and come back to him like never happened because I miss him and care a lot about him

Hello there! I'm new on here Let me know if I need to do a presentation I'm Alex, I'm a girl and I'm 21 years old and I want to kindly ask you some relationship advice Three months ago I broke up with my ex boyfriend because of poor communication in the last month of our relationship (that lasted about a year) , but I still loved him a lot and truly think he is my soul mate because of the beautiful connection we have (I don't actually believe in soul mates but you know what I meant) The problem is: since I thought our relationship couldn't be saved, I decided to stupidly look for another guy on a dating app While looking at the guys in the dating app, I didn't truly want to find another boyfriend but still wanted my ex Unfortunately I found a guy on Badoo that I immediately started to find interesting but a few days after talking to him, I had already lost interest and wanted to get back with my ex because I missed him The problem is that I found out that by chatting with that guy my feelings for my ex became less strong Now, after three months, I don't care at all about the guy on the dating app but I still feel like I don't love my ex like I used too and I can't explain how frustrating this is because I used to be madly in love with him I still care about him a lot and want him to be my boyfriend and I would marry him in the future because of how beautiful our relationship was (except for the last month) Currently we are trying to fix our relationship and found our connection again and had fantastic deep conversations, as deep as the ones we used to have when we were together last year The thing is: when I touch his skin it doesn't feel as good as it did and the world seems less colorful and warm (you know the feeling of seeing everything more colorful when you're in love) and I don't like sex with him anymore Taken all of this in consideration, I can't see my future with anybody else but him and I have zero interest in dating someone else Apart from this, we still have a fantastic connection mentally and I still like kissing him and saying "I love you", even if a bit less I don't see him as a friend in the absolute way and I truly want to feel like I used to and marry him Analyzing myself I found out it's not only about our relationship, but it's also about how depressed I feel without the chemicals that were in my brain when I was madly in love I didnt't only lost interesting in sex, but I also see the world grey and sad I hope this is not too confusing Now, do you think I could get my "madly in love" feeling back? Do you think I stopped loving him totally or is it just the limerence phase that is gone? (I know you can't read my mind but I want some opinions based on experiences) Thank you in advance if you will post your opinion or give me your advice