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Kindred extraverts, how do you recharge when all your friends are busy?


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I can feel when I’m turning into a lonely extravert. I’ve been working a lot lately so it’s not like I don’t see any people but not all interactions give me energy. I think I need to actually have a bit of a decent conversation with someone to get charged up. 
 

I’ll stumble into a free day after 2 weeks straight of working and realise I’m alone and lonely and it’s too short notice to bail up any of my friends. There must be something else I can do to meet my need for social interaction. 
 

What do you do when your friends are busy? 

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Have a variety of hobbies.

Some things you can do on your own so have some hobbies you can happily fall into by yourself. 

It’s a skill and valuable if you’re able to occupy yourself without leaning too much on others all the time for social interaction. Find a healthy balance between socializing and feeling complete on your own accomplishing what you need to do. Be comfortable trying new things without having to call on friends.

I think the terms introvert and extrovert are misnomers and most people are a blend of both, depending on different factors. 

 

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9 hours ago, 1a1a said:

 my need for social interaction. 

Don't rely on friends to entertain you last minute. Have a bunch of fun stuff to do and things to catch up on. Groups, clubs, volunteering, classes, courses, whatever. Take a yoga class or similar. There's all sorts of people everywhere.

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11 hours ago, 1a1a said:

I can feel when I’m turning into a lonely extravert. I’ve been working a lot lately so it’s not like I don’t see any people but not all interactions give me energy. I think I need to actually have a bit of a decent conversation with someone to get charged up. 
 

I’ll stumble into a free day after 2 weeks straight of working and realise I’m alone and lonely and it’s too short notice to bail up any of my friends. There must be something else I can do to meet my need for social interaction. 
 

What do you do when your friends are busy? 

Volunteer work where you interact with other people towards a common goal. 

Seems to me this shouldn't be a main purpose of friendship.  To me the main purpose of friendship is not to fulfil a personal need for social interaction but to have a reciprocal relationship where you are a person who desires to give to another person -whether in support, in fun, lighthearted or otherwise and the other person feels the same.

I wouldn't want someone to make a plan to see me if the focus was on the person's need to "recharge" because she labels herself as an extrovert. I know you won't say that of course but it will come across in some way.  Or the person will realize if you're not as willing to accommodate her schedule because you don't happen to "need to recharge". 

When I feel I want social interaction -I am an extrovert although became more introverted after I became a mother - I typically call a friend or I simply wait until the social interaction can happen. I'm not a fan of being the recipient of needy texts or phone calls from friends who are bored/lonely/need a warm body -I've been in that situation with pushy/clingy people and it's no fun.

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