I dont know what to say to this girl

[yesmomno]

I had a crush on a girl at school but never really talked to her, she was really attractive. she messaged me 1st wanting to get to know me. So we have been texting on and off for about 3 months. I asked her out on a date twice, and she sort of refused, hit me with the shrug emoji. So I stopped talking to her a while for some reason. Then we started talking again for about 2 weeks, I asked her to a date and she said someday/ maybe. Keep in mind this talking was just by text, because I was too shy to talk to her Infront of her friends, so I wanted to go on a date with her so I could talk just to her. Now I dont have a crush on her because she was kind of boring. For the past 3/ 4 months  I have no clue what to say to her so I just kind of ignore her. We some times catch each others eyes but its weird and awkward. I dont know if she still likes me. How do I get past this. E

[wealthydior]

I think you don’t need to talk to the girl, go your own way. You no longer have feelings for the girl anyway and you even think she’s boring. Try not to look at her so you don’t make eye contact.

[Batya33]

I don't think she is interested in dating you but how is it that you would talk to her on a date if you can't even talk to her in person to ask her?

[yesmomno]

Damn, thats a good point 😅. I think its just that she is always surrounded by people, so I get nervous and I dont ask in person. But it doesn't really matter anyway since I dont have a crush on her anymore. I just dont want to seem rude for ignoring her.

[Batya33]

7 minutes ago, yesmomno said:

Damn, thats a good point 😅. I think its just that she is always surrounded by people, so I get nervous and I dont ask in person. But it doesn't really matter anyway since I dont have a crush on her anymore. I just dont want to seem rude for ignoring her.

It's not rude. Work on skills of asking a person if they have a minute to talk to you privately.

[lostandhurt]

There is nothing to get past if you think about it.  You had a crush on her and now you don't so she is just a girl you go to school with.  I think you handled it pretty well and didn't allow her to string you along.  You asked her out and she declined, end of story.

 I get that you don't want to be rude and I agree just because she doesn't want to date you that doesn't mean she is the enemy or should be treated differently.  In fact she may have a friend you might be interested in so suck it up and say hi when you see her.  When you are walking by one day say "Hi ________" and keep on walking.  If she engages you in a convo then be polite but cut it short and tell her it was nice talking with her but you need to get going.   Having friends is not a bad thing and since she isn't interested in you romantically and you aren't interested in her in that way any longer it should work out fine.  Actually this is a great way to help you get over your shyness since there is zero to lose.

BTW texting is a horrible way to get to know anyone so she may not be boring in person. Next time and I know this is unheard of these days why don't you actually use your phone to make a voice call and talk to the the girl on the phone.  It may be old fashioned but it works.

 Lost 

[Kwothe28]

Its OK, its probably your first crush. It gets ankward if you have to see that person on daily basis after it doesnt work out, that is normal. Think you had a good idea about it. You talked, she didnt want to date so you stopped talking. You did backpeddled but still. In time you should pick how to react in certain situations. That should include talking in person. After a while you will see that its nothing scary and that its mostly same. It wouldnt be a bad idea to just practice. Not with her, but with anybody. Friends in school, even strangers like cashiers in supermarket. Just a regular stuff, saying "Hi", asking a question, telling something. It will help you in that aspect.

As for the girl, you dont owe her anything, not even friendship. You dont have to say anything, dont be rude, say "Hi" if you bump into her and that is about it.

[Rose Mosse]

Don't ignore her. She hasn't done anything to you and neither is she annoying or harassing you so say hi if you see her and be on your way.

Treat her like you would any other acquaintance. It's better you learn this early and try to be polite to everyone instead of appearing stuck up or rude. It'll do you wonders when you start going to university, working and in other areas of your life. If this was someone you were working with in the future, you'd have to remain professional. Treat it the same way while you're at school and be easygoing, the person no one has an issue with. 

Hang out with your friends in the meantime and chat with the guys/gals you get along most. Let the dust settle with this.

[smackie9]

Do the slow fade. You owe her nothing....just two ships that passed each other in the night. 

[lavender899]

16 hours ago, yesmomno said:

I had a crush on a girl at school but never really talked to her, she was really attractive. she messaged me 1st wanting to get to know me. So we have been texting on and off for about 3 months. I asked her out on a date twice, and she sort of refused, hit me with the shrug emoji. So I stopped talking to her a while for some reason. Then we started talking again for about 2 weeks, I asked her to a date and she said someday/ maybe. Keep in mind this talking was just by text, because I was too shy to talk to her Infront of her friends, so I wanted to go on a date with her so I could talk just to her. Now I dont have a crush on her because she was kind of boring. For the past 3/ 4 months  I have no clue what to say to her so I just kind of ignore her. We some times catch each others eyes but its weird and awkward. I dont know if she still likes me. How do I get past this. E

She's already blown you off about three times. 

If you think she's boring and  don't have  a crush on her what's the big deal. You can both go your separate ways.

[MissCanuck]

21 hours ago, yesmomno said:

I just dont want to seem rude for ignoring her.

But she's ignoring you too, right?

Just leave it in your past. You don't have a crush on her now so it's already done; no need to say anything to her.