LockerBunny Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 Hey guys happy new year! Although it is a new year and I should be feeling wonderful and awesome I'm feeling kinda sad. I've had a really busy year this year with studies and work and I haven't been able to spend much time with friends. I thought this is something they would understand but now I don't know. So I've had a group of friends who in the beginning/ middle of the year would always invite me out to things and I went whenever I could, but most of the time I was just swamped with assignments and working a lot and I just literally could not go. I'm on a big break from studies now and I thought it was gonna be great like they all know I'm free now and I thought they'd want to catch up more especially it being the holiday/summer season here in Australia. Unfortunately that's not what's been happening and I've been sort of left in the dark about a lot of things while I see them out in their Facebook and snapchat stories all going out together and I don't even get an invite. The week before Christmas was my birthday and I didn't really plan anything for it because I knew a lot of my friends had family here for Christmas and 2 of my friends had a wedding right before my birthday so I was letting them do their own thing, but the weekend of my birthday I saw they had all gone on a trip together and didn't say a word to me, even the bride and groom were there and it wasn't even with their visiting families. Some of these friends didn't even wish me a happy birthday when I literally had bought them gifts for theirs! These friends were even posting photos the whole day of my birthday of the wedding which I'm happy that they did, but they were commenting and posting photos on Facebook and didn't even take 2 seconds to write me a happy birthday message. I know it seems silly to be upset about something like that, but it's such a simple thing to do! Most of these friends are not doing much they're hardly working or only studying so they've been able to spend so much time together and I have not. I just feel so down. This time of the year is usally the best time I'm usually out with people for my birthday and new years and having so much fun, but this year it's like I'm being excluded just because I'm trying to get my together, focus on my career and my future and cut back on the drinking and late nights. I'm not sure if there's something else I've done, but I'm really unaware of it. I havent been drinking much when I was seeing them before so I dunno if they think I'm boring now, but I still have put in whatever effort I could with them. It's strange because I was actually starting to feel a bit distant from these friends and like I don't fit with them anymore as I don't enjoy the party lifestyle, but I still care about them and I'm hurt that they so easily have started excluding me. One of the friends in this group is someone in the past who I considered a best friend. I've helped her through so many things that have happened in her life and I just feel so disappointed. I've seen her do this to friends in the past where she just cuts people off and doesn't say a word even though they've been there for her so many times and have supported her through tough things. It's like they do one wrong thing and she cuts them off, even though she's not exactly a saint herself. I guess I'm just wondering at this point if I should bother to try and redeem these friendships, or at least maintain some kind of connection with them, or if I should just forget about it and move on. Should I put more effort in trying to invite them out instead of expecting them to invite me to their plans? Should I focus on people who actually do care and do put the effort in? I think I'm just confused about why this is happening and how to handle this situation :/ but I can say my heart is a little broken and my self esteem right now is a bit shattered Link to comment
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