Lolo97 Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 My partner and I have been together for 3 years and got pregnant last year. We have been going through rocky times that led to me losing trust and him drinking every night during my pregnancy. At month 8 one of those drinking nights turned into him going home with a random woman. The next day, which is the only positive action of this whole thing, he confessed to everything. It’s an incredibly difficult spot deciding to either stay forgive and work to provide our child with a healthy intact family or to act on the hurt and fear of never being able to trust and heal and try and go through it all alone. Link to comment
SarahLancaster Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 Do you think you can forgive him? Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 I'd try and go it alone with his financial support since its his responsibility too. I see no wonderful and healthy relationship ahead with a man that drinks like I suspect he does. Do you have family that will support you through this? Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 My partner and I have been together for 3 years and got pregnant last year. We have been going through rocky times that led to me losing trust and him drinking every night during my pregnancy. At month 8 one of those drinking nights turned into him going home with a random woman. The next day, which is the only positive action of this whole thing, he confessed to everything. It’s an incredibly difficult spot deciding to either stay forgive and work to provide our child with a healthy intact family or to act on the hurt and fear of never being able to trust and heal and try and go through it all alone. It's already unhealthy, OP. You might choose to remain intact but there is no guarantee it will be remotely healthy. Link to comment
Clio Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 It sounds like he is an alcoholic. He is also the kind of guy who is capable of cheating on his pregnant wife. Imo, the odds are sadly against you. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 If you want a future with an alcoholic, liar and cheater, then stay put. I think that it would be best interest of you and the child, to go it alone. Your child should not be subjected to his behavior, it is abusive. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 Please see a counselor for yourself. If you can, move in with family. See an attorney to establish full physical custody of the child for yourself and file for child support. he will not get help if you stay. That's a guarantee. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 Very few people are able to go the long term following infidelity. Keep in mind that trust is the glue that holds a relationship together, therefore without that you basically have nothing. Either way, I'm sorry you're in this situation and hopefully you'll strive to make the right choices. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 You don't have and can't have a "healthy intact family" with an alcoholic womanizer. So do not "stay and hurt" or stay and forgive", those are horrible options for your child and your future. Leave immediately for the sake of yourself, your future and your child. Immediately apply for child support on behalf of your child and only allow supervised visitation. Never let an alcoholic around a child. Be a responsible mother and leave. You are more alone now than ever and will always be as long as you stay with this boozing creep. If you leave him, at least you and your child will have a chance at a normal life and happiness.We have been going through rocky times that led to me losing trust and him drinking every night during my pregnancy. It’s an incredibly difficult spot deciding to either stay forgive and work to provide our child with a healthy intact family or to act on the hurt and fear of never being able to trust and heal and try and go through it all alone. Link to comment
Billie28 Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 An alcoholic womanizer? Wow! The guy did cheat once yes. He admitted it straight away. Does that make him a womanizer? No , it makes him guilty of cheating. OP, did you guys drink regularly until you got pregnant? “We have been going through rocky times that led to me losing trust and him drinking every night during my pregnancy” Can you expand on what was rocky that led you to mistrust him? Link to comment
DestinCouple Posted June 11, 2019 Share Posted June 11, 2019 You can either forgive him and remain with him or meet a man that will treat you well, know what is right, respects you and makes you feel like you are his world. I would go with the second option. I would never ever, even in the most intoxicated state, harm myself and my family. IF I have issues, I would man up and face them with you. That is a real man. Link to comment
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