sherise123 Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 Me and my ex broke up yesterday because I m not ready to move in yet as I have only graduated a month ago and only recently got my job. So I am still trying to settle in and get my feet on the ground. Also the reason I wasn't ready to move in is because our relationship is not strong he blows hot and cold all the time. And I don't know whether he's coming or going half the time. So I think the relationship needed to be strengthened before taking that step but instead he chooses blackmail. We broke up yesterday as he said if we cant move in together right now that he doesn't want to be together. So now he has put a picture of me as his WhatsApp picture and a status saying "I will never forget you" what is the point in this? Answers appreciated. Link to comment
Starlight925 Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 what is the point in this? To get you to think about him and post on message boards such as this. Remove him from your WhatsApp and all other sm, and move on. Link to comment
RedDress Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 Emotional manipulation. He’s hoping to tug at your heart strings, and that you’ll think he’s heartbroken and you’ll start chasing after him and change your mind. Don’t fall for it. An adult would talk to you as an adult and respect your perfectly reasonable reasons for wanting to hold off on moving in. It should not have led to a breakup. This also comes across as manipulation to me. He was trying to get what he wanted and trying to force your hand in the situation by risking the relationship over it. I think you should stay away from this guy. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 Please tell me he's, like, 18. That is extremely immature and cringey on his part. This is just about him trying to get his way. It's not cool. Don't respond to it. Link to comment
Pretzel Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 That is super cringe. What a turn off - his immaturity would really put me off. Your reasons for not wanting to move in yet are very valid. If someone can't respect that then they don't deserve you. Link to comment
sherise123 Posted September 17, 2018 Author Share Posted September 17, 2018 He's nearly 24 which makes it even worse *covers face* Link to comment
sherise123 Posted September 17, 2018 Author Share Posted September 17, 2018 Thank you I really thought I was over thinking it. And I started to think that I had done something wrong and a bad person. Link to comment
milly007 Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 Good for you Sherise for realizing you weren’t ready to move in, and for not giving into his ultimatum. You stood your ground, which is awesome. Any guy who is worth your time would respect your decision and wouldn’t try to manipulate you or give you an ultimatum. He sounds extremely dramatic too with the posting of pictures on WhatsApp. He’s just trying to get your attention. You made the right decision. Don’t let him make you think otherwise. Link to comment
sherise123 Posted September 17, 2018 Author Share Posted September 17, 2018 Thank you milly i really appreciate it. i agree i was thinking to myself if someone really cared about me and loved me I'm sure they wouldn't throw 6 years of a relationship away like that just because things haven't gone their way. Link to comment
j.man Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 I couldn't cringe harder even if I were having a seizure. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 Sorry to hear this. How long have you been dating? You did the right thing. Never hurry to move in or cave under pressure to someone's demands. A rush/pressure to move in, acting hot/cold combined with the passive-aggressive and manipulative messaging app thing are major red flags. It sounds like you dodged a bullet for a controlling, manipulative and possibly abusive personality. You need to go no contact and immediately delete and block him from all messaging and social media. Never let a manipulator check up on you or know your online status. the reason I wasn't ready to move in is because our relationship is not strong he blows hot and cold all the time. And I don't know whether he's coming or going half the time. Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 He's a silly little boy who's sulking and pouting because he hasn't got his own way, and he's now playing the role of Drama Queen. All I can say is Thank **** you didn't actually move in with him! As others have said, you need to block, delete and move on. Link to comment
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