thorough Posted July 9, 2018 Share Posted July 9, 2018 I have gotten closer w/my brother, but there are still quite a few issues. When he comes to visit, he is ALWAYS putting me down for no reason whatsoever. Always questioning my life habits, dreams aspirations etc. Not in a loving helpful type of way, but pretty much tearing me down. Idk what is and the reason cannot be jealousy. He has always been better then me at everything: sports, has a ton friends and has a much higher education. I suffer from serious low self esteem and this really affects me, no one else understands how I feel w/this situation. Does he get some sort of ego boost doing this to me? Btw I never pick on him unless its in retaliation for what he says. Link to comment
DanZee Posted July 9, 2018 Share Posted July 9, 2018 Yeah, some brothers will pick on their sisters, and some people will pick on people if they can get a reaction out of them. I would say that if you stop reacting to whatever he says and look bored at him, he will stop. Or pick on him back. One way to possibly stop being picked on is to simply ask, why do you always pick on me? You know it makes me feel bad. Just keep telling him to stop and ask why is he picking on you. Tell him you won't invite him anymore if he keeps it up. Link to comment
thorough Posted July 9, 2018 Author Share Posted July 9, 2018 Yeah, some brothers will pick on their sisters, and some people will pick on people if they can get a reaction out of them. I would say that if you stop reacting to whatever he says and look bored at him, he will stop. Or pick on him back. One way to possibly stop being picked on is to simply ask, why do you always pick on me? You know it makes me feel bad. Just keep telling him to stop and ask why is he picking on you. Tell him you won't invite him anymore if he keeps it up. One time I started ignoring him in the car when he started tearing me down. He really drove the point home that when we got to our destination, I could barely keep my tears down as I ran to the back where no one could see me. I'll try and ignore him, but idk how that'll work. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 9, 2018 Share Posted July 9, 2018 He is a bully. Have you told him how you feel? Why have you allowed him to treat you like this? Do not allow him to stay with you. It is time to stand up for yourself. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 9, 2018 Share Posted July 9, 2018 Why haven't you shut him out of your life rather than condoning and encouraging his abuse and bullying by tolerating it no less inviting him to visit? Learn to say no and cut him off and cut him out of your life. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted July 9, 2018 Share Posted July 9, 2018 Do you live on your own or with parents? Link to comment
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