Larajuan Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 1 week after my ex broke up with me for supposedly lying to her she texts me today saying how happy she is with her new man. How she slept over his house the other day and how he already met his family. Its hard on me and I don’t know what’s the best way to cope with this. How did she move on so quick? Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 Maybe she was seeing him behind your back so she was already half way out the door. Time to block and delete her from all methods of contacting you. She's just tormenting you because she can. Link to comment
pillowsham12 Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 1 week after my ex broke up with me for supposedly lying to her she texts me today saying how happy she is with her new man. How she slept over his house the other day and how he already met his family. Its hard on me and I don’t know what’s the best way to cope with this. How did she move on so quick? Damn I feel for you my man, but why on earth are you still in contact with her? Go NC and never speak to her again. Link to comment
Larajuan Posted February 8, 2018 Author Share Posted February 8, 2018 She said I did her dirty and to get back at me she went with him Link to comment
Larajuan Posted February 8, 2018 Author Share Posted February 8, 2018 Damn I feel for you my man, but why on earth are you still in contact with her? Go NC and never speak to her again. She is still trying to argue with me but at the same time is throwing salt at me by mentioning her new man. Link to comment
pillowsham12 Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 She is still trying to argue with me but at the same time is throwing salt at me by mentioning her new man. Hey bud we all have messed up at one point in life, but you need to show yourself some self love and respect. Why continue to hurt yourself by communicating with someone that is purposely hurting you. There is no need for you to keep in contact with her. If my ex gf told me that she was happy with her new man, I would block her literally and figuratively out of my life. There is no need to prolong the hurt, its time to move and heal. If she comes back, ask yourself if you really want someone who purposely hurt you back in your life. Strength to you my brotha. Link to comment
Larajuan Posted February 8, 2018 Author Share Posted February 8, 2018 Hey bud we all have messed up at one point in life, but you need to show yourself some self love and respect. Why continue to hurt yourself by communicating with someone that is purposely hurting you. There is no need for you to keep in contact with her. If my ex gf told me that she was happy with her new man, I would block her literally and figuratively out of my life. There is no need to prolong the hurt, its time to move and heal. If she comes back, ask yourself if you really want someone who purposely hurt you back in your life. Strength to you my brotha. I appreciate the advice so much. It just killles me inside knowing I can’t change her mind of everything that happened. Its like she wanted an excuse to breakup with me and leave for that guy Link to comment
pillowsham12 Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 I appreciate the advice so much. It just killles me inside knowing I can’t change her mind of everything that happened. Its like she wanted an excuse to breakup with me and leave for that guy Ask yourself why you would want to be with a person that is purposely hurting you, I think that is the question you should ask yourself. You have to tell yourself that she has changed, she is not the person you met. I feel for you and empathies with you because I am going thru these same emotions myself, it hurts when the person you met is not the person that broke up with you. Although in my case it was self-inflicted and I was a neglectful bf, you have use this pain as fuel to not only grow and be strong but also use this pain to create more self love for yourself. You are a good dude, and have the belief that you are a catch, I know its hard and painful when you want this person back so badly when they couldn't care less if you got run over by a car but as you grow, heal and become stronger, the pain will be less. How you come back from this, and how you fight thru this pain/anger/sadness will define your character and how great of a catch you are to anyone that you come in contact with. Try and be positive and use this pain as your greatest motivator in life and I assure you, you will get a person that values you and loves you whole heartily. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 You start by blocking her. She sounds sadistic! How long was she cheating on you? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 I read a previous thread. This lunatic (your ex) has always been dramatic and ridiculous. You have allowed her to walk all over you. Time and again. Stop being a doormat. I would seriously address what attracted you to this dynamic, as it seems like you like people to treat you poorly. Seek some therapy. Your relationship was abusive and disturbing. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 You are not a victim. You have allowed - and still do - some really bad behavior. Link to comment
Larajuan Posted February 8, 2018 Author Share Posted February 8, 2018 Ask yourself why you would want to be with a person that is purposely hurting you, I think that is the question you should ask yourself. You have to tell yourself that she has changed, she is not the person you met. I feel for you and empathies with you because I am going thru these same emotions myself, it hurts when the person you met is not the person that broke up with you. Although in my case it was self-inflicted and I was a neglectful bf, you have use this pain as fuel to not only grow and be strong but also use this pain to create more self love for yourself. You are a good dude, and have the belief that you are a catch, I know its hard and painful when you want this person back so badly when they couldn't care less if you got run over by a car but as you grow, heal and become stronger, the pain will be less. How you come back from this, and how you fight thru this pain/anger/sadness will define your character and how great of a catch you are to anyone that you come in contact with. Try and be positive and use this pain as your greatest motivator in life and I assure you, you will get a person that values you and loves you whole heartily. I appreciate it so much man. It sucks right now but hopefully with time I’ll laugh at this and say I dodged a bullet Link to comment
Larajuan Posted February 8, 2018 Author Share Posted February 8, 2018 You are not a victim. You have allowed - and still do - some really bad behavior. You are right I just wanted to change her mind but I can’t and I’ve realized that. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 You need to seriously question why you would want to be with someone like this. Go back and read your old posts. Super unhealthy. She treated you like garbage. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 You are not helping yourself at all, OP. She is a bad seed and we told you as much in your other thread. If you insist on remaining in contact with her, you consent to having your heart broken again and again. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 Block, move on, this is not a nice girl. I'm sorry this happened to you, OP. Link to comment
Annia Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 Even if you messed up what she's doing is extremely immature and vicious. Do you really want to be in a relationship with a person like this who deals with things like this? Block and delete and let her speak to a wall. Stop begging and pleading and inflating her ego. Most definitely she was already at least emotionally involved with that guy while you were together. When things mess up with that guy (someone so immature as her is bound to do stupid stuff in relationships) she'll probably try to manipulate you into getting back to her... but I wouldn't wait on that and would show her the door if she does so unless she has changed and matured A LOT. Life's too short to deal with manipulative childish people. Let her go, you dodged a bullet. Link to comment
sputnik123 Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 Hi Larajuan, Wow, I thought my ex was bad, but yours is on another level. Really sorry you are going though this, but as others have said, you have dodged a bullet. You should never contact this person again and it will get easier, with time. All the luck in the world :) Link to comment
DyingInside085 Posted February 9, 2018 Share Posted February 9, 2018 Look people get into rebound relationship ....and...wait you know what.....JUST NC....it to early to explain...i was there..feel ur pain.... Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk Link to comment
DyingInside085 Posted February 9, 2018 Share Posted February 9, 2018 Look people get into rebound relationship ....and...wait you know what.....JUST NC....it to early to explain...i was there..feel ur pain.... Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using TapatalkI had just read most of the replies ......GET THE HELL AWAY FROM THIS ONE AND YOU WILL DODGE A BULLET.... Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk Link to comment
Larajuan Posted February 11, 2018 Author Share Posted February 11, 2018 1 week after my ex broke up with me for supposedly lying to her she texts me today saying how happy she is with her new man. How she slept over his house the other day and how he already met his family. Its hard on me and I don’t know what’s the best way to cope with this. How did she move on so quick? Quick update. I’m doing much better guys, emotionally I’m doing my best to remove this person from my life. The other day she texted me telling me how she wanted me to become friends with her new man and that we were now even. I did not reply and blocked her. She made it seem like it was all my fault but I realized it wasn’t and that’s why I feel like it’s getting easier on me. Link to comment
Larajuan Posted February 11, 2018 Author Share Posted February 11, 2018 Quick update. I’m doing much better guys, emotionally I’m doing my best to remove this person from my life. The other day she texted me telling me how she wanted me to become friends with her new man and that we were now even. I did not reply and blocked her. She made it seem like it was all my fault but I realized it wasn’t and that’s why I feel like it’s getting easier on me. Also thank you very much guys I appreciate all the advice I’ve gotten. This has been hard on me but I’m getting there. Link to comment
sputnik123 Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 Keep in there Larajuan. :) S x Link to comment
SherrySher Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 Good to hear. I hope you heal more and more and can move on from this once and for all. You deserve better. Link to comment
DaisyMayPorter Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 Quick update. I’m doing much better guys, emotionally I’m doing my best to remove this person from my life. The other day she texted me telling me how she wanted me to become friends with her new man and that we were now even. I did not reply and blocked her. She made it seem like it was all my fault but I realized it wasn’t and that’s why I feel like it’s getting easier on me. What the hell does that mean - "that we are now even"? And please don't be friends with her new man. I know nothing about your situation except based on this thread, but give me a break. Link to comment
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