LoveSoDeep Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 A little background...I'm now 40 years old, never been married (or engaged for that matter) and have always wanted marriage and family that's no secret. My baby sister, who is 33 years old, just got engaged. I'll be honest 10 years ago I never would have thought she'd be married before I was but as I got older I came to see that it could happen. It's totally normal for her to be engaged at this point in her life (of course she got engaged after dating this guy for 3 months but that's not the point). If she's happy and this is what she wants, then YAY! I'm so happy for her! I admit I didn't gush and freak out when I got the news because I was so surprised at the timeline (everyone was) but really, I am overjoyed for her. I'm currently in a great relationship. We haven't really talked about engagement or marriage yet (1.5 years in) but I'm thrilled with the relationship I love where we are, I'm 100% comfortable and confident in it. I am so content with what I have that there's really no way I would be hurt by or jealous of what my sister has. And she knows this. She came to visit me the week before she got engaged and met my boyfriend and saw how happy I am, how happy we are. But....everyone is walking on eggshells around me my sister waited a full 2 weeks to even tell me she was engaged with some story about she wanted my brothers and I to be together when she told us (but she told us via group text so I fail to see how our physical geographic location was a factor in that). She hasn't told me anything about the proposal, or her plans. It's been 2 months and she just last week asked me if I would be in her wedding. Every time I talk to her she just seems reserved and weird. And she bought me an unusually large and generous gift for my birthday, which honestly seems like a guilt present. She is always generous but this was too much and I told her more than once she didn't have to buy it or buy all of it, but she did. My mom is acting the same way....sometimes giving me little tidbits of information before I hear them from my sister but not nearly as much as I know she knows. I get it. It's not illogical to be worried that I'm a little jealous or that this makes me sad in some way, but it doesn't...I'm okay. REALLY, I swear. I'm more than okay! I feel like they are avoiding me and that I'm being left out, and that they feel like they are protecting me by acting this way. I don't want them to treat me like a victim of circumstance or some fragile person. I'm not a victim and I don't feel fragile at all...I suppose until I realized they all think this about me. When I realized what was going on why they are acting like this around me, that's when I wanted to cry. I'll see my sister this weekend and meet her new fiance for the first time (my boyfriend will be there too not sure what if any alone time we'll get). How do I put this to rest and get everyone to move on? Link to comment
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