Grouse Posted May 31, 2017 Share Posted May 31, 2017 Hi guys, I don't really know where to start, I guess I should start with the obvious that my girlfriend and I have broken up...It makes me feel sick to my stomach just typing that sentence, we were together for 5 years. My girlfriend has been dealing with a severe depression for the past year, brought on by unresolved issues from her childhood that only really started surfacing a year ago and this is at least according to her the reason why she couldn't stay in this relationship with me. Her reasoning for breaking up with me is that she just can't stand to see how her being depressed is really hard on me as well. She says that she can see it's causing me pain which in turn is worsening her depression and to a certain extent that is true, I mean having a depressed partner tends to be incredibly hard no matter how solid your relationship was before the depression occurred. She says she just wants to be alone and not feel responsible for anyone else but herself at the moment and that she has to work through this on her own. Of course I tried reasoning with her and eventually she said she needed some time to think... The break up talk was all very respectful, I acted very calmly and maturely as this wasn't my first break up. No begging no pleading no nothing. I told her I'd give her time to think and that as per her request I'd let her be. We agreed to give it a week and then catch up and see how we were feeling. So fast forward 7 days later, I sent her a text if we could meet up to have a chat and(yes you guessed it) I got no response. I also tried calling later that day because I was getting a bit worried it is unlike her to just blatantly ignore me like that, however I got no answer. Like I said before this isn't my first break up so I know when to back off and let her come to me. Well that never happened, we're almost two weeks on now and I was literately dying being stuck in limbo like this. So I send her another text today basically saying that I honestly can't take being in Limbo like this anymore, it's tearing me up inside and that I love her very much and if she ever wanted to seek reconciliation that she knows where to find me and how to contact me but that this has got to stop for the sake of me keeping my sanity and that If she was planning on standing by her decision I would have no choice other than respecting it. She responded by saying, Okay.... Are you effing kidding me? that's all you have got to say after ignoring me for two weeks? I didn't respond to that text so after a few hours I get a text from her stating that she wants to come by and pick up her belongings....I was absolutely floored by that text and as I was also very angry I agreed for her to come pick up her things, figured I might as well get it over with. Well she just left with her belongings and she was ice cold, I responded in kind since I refuse to let her see how this all is affecting me.... And now I'm sitting here having just spend two hours crying on my bathroom floor trying to make sense of it all....I'm hurting so very bad right now, I didn't see this whole break up thing coming at all. Just 3 weeks ago we were absolutely fine I mean sure living with a depressed partner is hard and challenging at times but I god honestly thought we as a couple were doing fine, I'm absolutely lost and there are so many things I want to say to her but I wont because I know it doesn't matter anymore and you can't change the way a person feels. But someone please make the hurt stop, I love her so much! (Sorry for any typos guys, English isn't my native language) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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