Nowheretorun Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 I have been in a relationship with my partner for 10 months now. I had an important health appointment to attend (scan to rule out anything serious). I understood he couldnt come with me as he had to collect his child from school. I was ok with this. I did however notice that during the day he made little contact with me until 5 minutes before i was called in. I was angry so did not answer his call. I called him after to say all was ok but i was very brief. He noticed i was off amd he text me asking if i was ok. I explained that i didnt feel very supported and was hurt as when he had a health scare i was very supportive and encouraged him to seek medical advice. I even took him to see a doctor. He seemed to think i was crazy and so i said what i had to say and put the phone down. 2 days later we have spoken briefly but things clearly not the same. By this time i have calmed down but somehow it feels like he is unhappy with me. I decided to snoop on his childs mothers facebook page and realised the day i went for my scan she also posted on facebook that she had that day didcovered she has cancer. I do not know her but understand how awful this must be for her. At the same time i am now understanding that my partner must also be aware and would explain the vacantness in him. He does not know i have checked his ex's facebook. In fact he doesnt even know i know who she is. Its the woman detective in me. I guess this will bring a range of emotions for him. They split up around 18 months ago. My hurt is that he has withdrawn from me without telling me whats up i thought he could tell me anything. Secondly i am mature enough to give him space as im guessing he is working out his emotions and maybe wants to support her but doesnt want to upset me. Or perhaps realised that he still loves her. I really like this man but feel i would be stupid to sit in the background while he supports her. I think id rather let him go and we just be friends. What should I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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