Hasek Posted April 3, 2017 Share Posted April 3, 2017 Looking for some suggestions on what to do/say to one of my closest friends. I am a man and met Sarah at university in 1997 and we have been very close friends ever since. Shortly after Sarah and I met, she introduced me to a childhood friend, Hank, whom she considers almost like a brother since they grew up next door to each other. Hank and I have become quite close friends and play sports together, hit the pub, and the like. Hank married a couple of years ago and his wife does not like Sarah at all (there is no history between Hank and Sarah). They did invite Sarah to their baby shower last year, but now they have decided to no longer include her in any way with their family. Their daughter's first birthday party was last week and when Sarah asked about the location of the party, Hank texted her to say that she, and her mother, are not invited and he has to keep his wife happy. Sarah called me crying and asked me what was going on. I had no idea that this was going to happen. Hank's wife and Sarah have interacted at a few events in the past and it seemed things were fine. Sarah said that she views Hank as family and feels as though she has been kicked to the curb. I tried to talk her down, but she had been dropped by a few male friends and also her father, at the request of their wives in the past and I am sure that this is bringing up those feelings from the past. I am not sure what to do or say. I am quite close to Hank and his wife and feel like every time that I end up at one of their family things it is going to hurt Sarah. I know, ultimately, this is something to be resolved by Hank and Sarah, but I feel awful that this is happening to her. Any suggestions? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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