His Skeleton Posted March 22, 2017 Share Posted March 22, 2017 I am 38 now and he is 40. We've been together 2 years and living together 1 1/2 years. We each have a kid. Mine is 9, his 15. I knew fast that he was the one. He seem to have everything together. Very stable, financially, emotionally, ect. He's well respected among his job and friends. I didn't know him previously but I had a good friend that dated him for over 7 years. I trust her judgement fairly well. I am happy with him and trust him completely. I want to stay and make things work, even get married. There's just one thing that I can't find a way to work through. It's causing me so much anguish still...after over a year of knowing and trying to let it go. He was open with me about most everything about his past and particulary with his child's mother from what I can tell, except one minor detail. After I was given keys to his place and practically staying there 24-7, after we became attached to each other and our little "family" it dawned on me one evening that I had never asked him how old his child's mom was when she had her. He told me 17. I feel like that's a relevant detail to make the full story make more sense. And it did make more sense after learning that. He was 25. Well, I felt like puking and couldn't look at him the same for quite a while. Then, he offered to talk to me about it. I didn't even know what to say so I just let him talk. Big mistake bc he downplayed and glossed over many details that I have since been informed of by his child. Such as 1) she was still 16 when she gave birth (so he stretched the truth by 2 months) 2) she was 15 when they met (and i'll never know when they first had sex) and 3) he was her manager at a restaurant. Of course he says he didn't know and all that jazz, but he knew full well she was in high school and frankly I feel like that makes him a disgusting sleeze bag. I don't think he's into young girls now or anything, but I have to live with the reminder every day of his disgusting past that he withheld from me bc his daughter likes to bring it up constantly about how young her mom is and was. I feel SICK, STILL!!! What can I do?? He seems too ashamed to really talk much about it. He gets mad at me and tells me I have to get over it. Link to comment
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