mwate009 Posted March 3, 2017 Author Share Posted March 3, 2017 Well, I spoke to her on skype tonight. I reached out to her. I got tired of the stand off. It seemed to go well. My sister was in the background making sure I didn't say anything stupid. I was planning on giving an ultimatum but our mutual friend suggested to save it for the next call if I was determined to get an answer. We talked for 20 minutes. I didn't bring up the guy and she did not bring up me bugging the phone. I was prepared to advert it if she did. She got her masters in Russian literature and so if she did I was going to advert by mentioning the Russian author who coined the phrase about not mentioning the elephant in the room. It probably would have amazed her that I would know the story behind it since the author was from the 1800's which was her specialty in school. I guess I can save it for another time. We didn't have any dull silences. My sister thinks it went positively. She thinks it's going to be like starting over instead of just fixing what's broken. She told me about her new job. She told me about her current assignments for the courses shes taking and the grades shes made since we last talked. I told her about the kitchen remolding that the contractors are starting next week. I told her about going to the conference in Orlando last week and how I was on a panel of experts(ironic for me as I have been IT for 9 years but in the Healthcare IT field for only 3 years and I am an expert now) I told her about going to my niece's parents day tomorrow while I am visiting them since my sister has a class at that time and my brother-in-law will be at work. She said to kiss my nieces for her(hopefully that played on her heart strings a little, not that I am trying to manipulate her). I still got the feeling like she is done but she didn't didn't say anything. She said she wouldn't mind if we talked again soon. I don't know what soon means to her. to be frank I don't even know what soon means to me. Maybe my sister is right. Maybe it will take starting over for her to let go of the emotional neglect I put her through. Maybe it will make it easier if she feels like shes starting something new with someone new(a new me). Our mutual friend thinks shes putting me through this to make sure the changes I've made are permanent. So the call really did nothing for me other than throw in a few more perspectives. It didn't get me any closer to my goal or if it did as my sister thinks it did I don't see it. Link to comment
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