windycity123 Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 About six months ago I started talking to the girl from my school when she was abroad. It was going well she expressed she was very interested in me but wanted to take things slow, and we would see what happens once i get to school. I agreed, we both talked to and hooked up with other people. we sent each other letters and stuff it was a good thing. She just got back to campus and things have been going well, we were hanging out taking things slow it seemed to be going not that bad. This weekend though she was being weird i asked her if everything was okay, she said she heard rumors from multiple sources that I had told a bunch of people in my frat that we were dating and i showed them nudes and we shouldn't talk anymore. This is all completely false and tbh i would never do anything like this. Also, 4 people at the start of school approached me in her abroad program saying that she told them we were dating when she was abroad... i didn't mention this to her in our argument. I was very shocked and apologized and really tried to meet in person she said she was mad at me right now and didn't want to talk, but she said she believed everything they said. she was keeping it very cut and dry saying she was mad at me and didn't want to talk about this right now. I messaged her twice to talk in person she didn't respond. I also heard someone brough it up to her and she was like "i feel like he used me", idk whether or not thats true though. it could be a rumor. Its been about 3-4 weeks now, Im in a frat, last weekend I invited her and her friends to our valentines day formal, she was super happy to come and it was chill. When we were there we were talking it was fun we were flirting i pulled her aside and held her hand, looked her in the eyes and told her it wasn't true, she kept saying "stop saying that" over and over again. and then she said "we should move past this" we were both pretty drunk, and i said I wanted to talk still she said the party wasn't the right place and she would like to talk in person at some point. I've seen her out at bars and its been chill. What should i do? this is all a lie and im super frustrated because i never did any of this and i really like this girl. psa she didn't even send me any so its obvious that this is such a bull rumor Link to comment
jennylove Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 Want some advice that you can use for a lifetime? Ok here ya go. If someone wants to leave your life, let them. Show them the door. Link to comment
rosephase Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 About six months ago I started talking to the girl from my school when she was abroad. It was going well she expressed she was very interested in me but wanted to take things slow, and we would see what happens once i get to school. I agreed, we both talked to and hooked up with other people. we sent each other letters and stuff it was a good thing. She just got back to campus and things have been going well, we were hanging out taking things slow it seemed to be going not that bad. This weekend though she was being weird i asked her if everything was okay, she said she heard rumors from multiple sources that I had told a bunch of people in my frat that we were dating and i showed them nudes and we shouldn't talk anymore. This is all completely false and tbh i would never do anything like this. Also, 4 people at the start of school approached me in her abroad program saying that she told them we were dating when she was abroad... i didn't mention this to her in our argument. I was very shocked and apologized and really tried to meet in person she said she was mad at me right now and didn't want to talk, but she said she believed everything they said. she was keeping it very cut and dry saying she was mad at me and didn't want to talk about this right now. I messaged her twice to talk in person she didn't respond. I also heard someone brough it up to her and she was like "i feel like he used me", idk whether or not thats true though. it could be a rumor. Its been about 3-4 weeks now, Im in a frat, last weekend I invited her and her friends to our valentines day formal, she was super happy to come and it was chill. When we were there we were talking it was fun we were flirting i pulled her aside and held her hand, looked her in the eyes and told her it wasn't true, she kept saying "stop saying that" over and over again. and then she said "we should move past this" we were both pretty drunk, and i said I wanted to talk still she said the party wasn't the right place and she would like to talk in person at some point. I've seen her out at bars and its been chill. What should i do? this is all a lie and im super frustrated because i never did any of this and i really like this girl. psa she didn't even send me any so its obvious that this is such a bull rumor She didn't send you nudes... and yet she believes you showed nudes of her to your frat? That doesn't add up. She's angry at you, believes you sowed naked pictures to your friends, but will still go to a formal with you? Dude... I think she is lying to you about something. How could she possibly think you are showing around photos she didn't send? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 Why are you apologizing, and bending over backwards for something that you didn't do? I would be pizzed if someone accused me of something like this. Stop! Did or did she not send you pics? I'm confused on this point. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 So are you or were you ever dating exclusively? It sounds like way too much gossip, hearsay and speculation because you two were never clear on things. Agree don't ruin a party with drunken heavy talk. we both talked to and hooked up with other people. Im in a frat, last weekend I invited her and her friends to our valentines day formal, she was super happy to come and it was chill. i said I wanted to talk still she said the party wasn't the right place. I've seen her out at bars and its been chill. Link to comment
windycity123 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Share Posted February 26, 2017 she never sent me any full pictures, just like one little tease picture. I never told anyone this, it was on snaphat. I never screenshotted it. Its bull. Why would i be telling my friends someone sent me nudes if i never even had them. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 I agree. This makes little sense. This woman sounds like a dreadful prospect. I've seen middle schoolers conduct themselves with more grace, maturity and overall aplomb. And less gossip and drama. Way less. This is how she is behaving in the fresh, easy, halcyon days of the relationship. What's she going to do if you continue together and you hit upon your first real issue? The mind boggles. Link to comment
windycity123 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Share Posted February 26, 2017 she never sent me any full ones, just like one little tease picture. I never told anyone this, it was on snaphat. I never screenshotted it. Its bull. Why would i be telling my friends someone sent me nudes if i never even had them. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 Who/what would you be fighting, in any event? She knows what she sent you + she doesn't believe that you didn't do something.. With items that she never gave you to not do the something with = run far, run fast. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 You keep repeating this, but you are not even dating.she never sent me any full ones, just like one little tease picture. I never told anyone this, it was on snaphat. I never screenshotted it. Its bull. Link to comment
windycity123 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Share Posted February 26, 2017 also i will mention shes been in a similar situation like this with an ex so shes very sensitive about this stuff concerning pictures Link to comment
windycity123 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Share Posted February 26, 2017 You keep repeating this, but you are not even dating. also i will mention shes been in a similar situation like this with an ex so shes very sensitive about this stuff concerning pictures when we were talking she shared that with me Link to comment
windycity123 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Share Posted February 26, 2017 Who/what would you be fighting, in any event? She knows what she sent you + she doesn't believe that you didn't do something.. With items that she never gave you to not do the something with = run far, run fast. i feel like shes hurt she saying that she feels like i used her.... Link to comment
rosephase Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 also i will mention shes been in a similar situation like this with an ex so shes very sensitive about this stuff concerning pictures If she is so sensitive why would she send you a picture? Look, this picture thing is her issue and she clearly isn't healed from her ex or in a place where she can trust you. Leave her alone. Find someone who is both ready and willing to be in a relationship with you. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 i feel like shes hurt she saying that she feels like i used her.... But.. You didn't. You would be the one to know this best, mate. Why dignify her accusations and tantrum? You told her that you did nothing. She's hurt? She's calling you a liar and more. And you're worried that she's hurt. Because she's shared nude photos of herself in the past and it didn't work out so swimmingly? Maybe she should put down the camera, get off snapchat for a bit and do some simple math. But instead, she follows up her past stellar experiences by.. Sending you a slightly smaller, somewhat less nude photo? What else from her past do you have to look forward to being accused of, because if your sympathies lie with her, here, you may as well be prepared. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 Hold tight. You and she aren't even dating? Link to comment
windycity123 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Share Posted February 26, 2017 But.. You didn't. You would be the one to know this best, mate. Why dignify her accusations and tantrum? You told her that you did nothing. She's hurt? She's calling you a liar and more. And you're worried that she's hurt. Because she's shared nude photos of herself in the past and it didn't work out so swimmingly? Maybe she should put down the camera, get off snapchat for a bit and do some simple math. But instead, she follows up her past stellar experiences by.. Sending you a slightly smaller, somewhat less nude photo? What else from her past do you have to look forward to being accused of, because if your sympathies lie with her, here, you may as well be prepared. I agree she's being difficult, but we have a great connection. we both are very smart and have many similar interest, how should i go about getting her back? ive still been talking to other people of course but what plan of strategy should i take to get her back Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 Why does she think you shared stuff with your frat bros.? Maybe it's an excuse to end it?we both talked to and hooked up with other people. we sent each other letters and stuff it was a good thing. Link to comment
windycity123 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Share Posted February 26, 2017 Hold tight. You and she aren't even dating? we were talking for 6 months and agreed to take things slow once she got back to school it was going well for 2 weeks and then this bombshell dropped. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 we were talking for 6 months and agreed to take things slow once she got back to school it was going well for 2 weeks and then this bombshell dropped. I don't think she's difficult, I think she's dreadful. She's calling you a liar and worse. Both you and she know that what she's accusing you of is impossible for you to have actually done. That's not even organized enough to be crazy. You are not dating her. In addition to what would you fight, what would you be fighting for? You have got to have better things to do with your time and energy, don't you? Otherwise, you're fighting only to hitch your wagon to a colossal train wreck. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 Why does she think you shared stuff with your frat bros.? Maybe it's an excuse to end it? That was my first thought. I think she's not interested in hearing what OP has to say simply because she was looking for a way out. The picture drama was an easy excuse, and he obviously can't prove his innocence. Sorry OP, but there's not point fighting for this. If I were you, I would now be ticked off that she thinks you're that disrespectful and devious. Just let her go and don't engage in her shenanigans any further. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 we were talking for 6 months and agreed to take things slow once she got back to school it was going well for 2 weeks and then this bombshell dropped. This is ridiculous. I would question your choices in women, and why you choose to pursue someone who is a liar and dramatic! Link to comment
Lostinlove31 Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Let her go. She is giving excuses. The biggest iszue here is you're hung up on a girl who can't even deal with things and is projecting on you. You are missing opportunities with others and you're not even dating this girl. Go no contact and if you see her be cordial. Link to comment
windycity123 Posted March 13, 2017 Author Share Posted March 13, 2017 thank you, definitely everyone is right. no contact is the best move. I have a date next week with a pretty girl in my pre-law class, thanks all. Link to comment
Dahl Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 thank you, definitely everyone is right. no contact is the best move. I have a date next week with a pretty girl in my pre-law class, thanks all. Good luck! Let us know how it goes! Link to comment
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