nutbrownhare Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 The forthcoming Valentine's Day will be the second one I've spent with my partner. We both agreed at the outset that neither of us was into the commercial "romance", but last year I gave him a card which I'd drawn myself. His birthday is on Feb 13th, I'd had two ideas for a card and couldn't decide between them - so he got both, one on the 13th and one on the 14th. This year, I told him I'd got him a gift, something that is traditionally associated with Valentine's Day but not with hearts and flowers. I told him we'd need to talk about it. He looked both amused and bewildered, and I refused to say more. I've actually bought him a nest box, suitable for small birds. It's true that traditionally they were put out on Feb 14th, by the way. We need to talk about it because there's only one spot in his garden which would be suitable - correct orientation and out of the reach of cats - and he probably doesn't know this. I think I might just let slip that it's something to do with accommodation... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WithLove Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 I think that's a really thoughtful gift! I think maybe you could tell him "I was really thinking about it and I think it'll look great right here!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LilyVanilly Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 I struggle with the Valentines gift as well, simply because we are not romantic people. I found this website that has few ideas I could use but I was hoping someone can suggest more? buzzfeed.com/gorzauni/romance-is-dead-anti-valentines-day-ideas-for-c-2sfg0 BTW i love your gift idea!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 Great idea since he's into birds. A lot better than this: ] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scoe141 Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 Valentine's Day is the most Hallmark driven, forced to make people feel guilty "holiday" there is. I think folks should boycott it and let those companies figure out something else to do with their time. Just my two cents. PS. Great ideas OP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LilyVanilly Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 yeah, totally Scoe141, Valentines are just too commercial. the website I posted above has some non-commercial ideas to celebrate that day. think the author has similar beliefs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaggerJim Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 Great idea since he's into birds. A lot better than this: ] LMAO! Do not do this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 LillyVanilly - that's a lovely link! I also reflected that we do those things anyway, which is really affirming. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LilyVanilly Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 thanks nutbrownhare. I'll be trying the meal as he's loves his grub. i'm looking for some suggestions as well as I feel that I cook his fav dish on his birthday so poor thing might get confused Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 thanks nutbrownhare. I'll be trying the meal as he's loves his grub. i'm looking for some suggestions as well as I feel that I cook his fav dish on his birthday so poor thing might get confused Hahaha...! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LilyVanilly Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 I was hoping someone could give me some ideas....? just no sickly, romantic stuff please Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 Agree those are lousy suggestions. Just get something you know he likes it's really that simple.I struggle with the Valentines gift as well, simply because we are not romantic people. buzzfeed.com/gorzauni/romance-is-dead-anti-valentines-day-ideas-for-c-2sfg0 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lucidious Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 Eat something yummy and do an activity you both like/would be interested in together. ...Hmm I don't even know what I'm doing for valentines think of it til this thread.. probably go to the mall together this weekend and tell bf to pick something he likes/needs lol easy peasy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 I was hoping someone could give me some ideas....? just no sickly, romantic stuff please I damn good seeing to in a pvc outfit . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 Valentine's Day is the most Hallmark driven, forced to make people feel guilty "holiday" there is. I think folks should boycott it and let those companies figure out something else to do with their time. Just my two cents. PS. Great ideas OP. seconded scoe ...and the older I am getting the more tosh I think it is ... but the vulgarity of it all for me lies in the sales and marketing ..and the expectations !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 It is a fab gift NBH ...I would be made up with that .. I spend hours hidden in my garden ( well kinda hidden ) taking pics of all my birds ..watching them come and go , getting bits for their nests ( so ideal time ) and then you see them chasing each other hehe and I must admit my two big wood pigeons really don't care who is watching *cough ... and then the babies are born and if you sit for long enough you will see them all bring their babies to feed .... that's happiness that is . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted February 9, 2017 Author Share Posted February 9, 2017 Yes, I recall watching town pigeons in London, and wondering if the way one of them would spread out his tail feathers and drag them along the ground was part of a mating ritual. Within 30 seconds I was assured, beyond all shadow of reasonable doubt, that it was. Where I live, though, all sorts of birds get up to all sorts of hanky-panky on the low roof of a dance school which backs onto my garden. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notalady Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 I've never been into Valentine's Day. My boyfriend isn't even spending it with me this year, he's going to a concert with his friends (I was invited but didn't want to go) lol... We're going to a free jazz and food truck thing this weekend, so will sit on the grass and eat and listen to jazz, we said we'd count that as our v day celebration, perfect! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 Yes, I recall watching town pigeons in London, and wondering if the way one of them would spread out his tail feathers and drag them along the ground was part of a mating ritual. Within 30 seconds I was assured, beyond all shadow of reasonable doubt, that it was. Where I live, though, all sorts of birds get up to all sorts of hanky-panky on the low roof of a dance school which backs onto my garden. hahah yes there is no shame ... I can be found shaking my head muttering * at least someone is getting some action round here * Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted February 9, 2017 Author Share Posted February 9, 2017 hahah yes there is no shame ... I can be found shaking my head muttering * at least someone is getting some action round here * There isn't a 'Thank' button on the Off Topic forum, but consider yourself thanked! xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 There isn't a 'Thank' button on the Off Topic forum, but consider yourself thanked! xxx hahahaha ok thankyou Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
journeynow Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 Valentine's Day is the most Hallmark driven, forced to make people feel guilty "holiday" there is. Only if you let it! Ours were never about Hallmark cards, but about NOT taking each other or our relationship for granted, a little reflection, a touch of creativity, and a lot of fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted February 9, 2017 Author Share Posted February 9, 2017 Yes, I always draw my own Valentine's cards. And very silly they are, too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mandeelove Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 Valentines day is a no win situation. Lol if ur SO suddenly wines and dines u only that day its kind of fake, but if they miss that day and forget it with not even a cute card, it kind of looks bad too. Cant win. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
journeynow Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 People, don't take it so seriously! It's about love, loving someone or loving yourself, or both. Allow some light-heartedness and pleasure. Pressure and rating and judging and testing don't fit; you're missing the point if you are setting it up to be about winning or failing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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