mhowe Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Move on with your life. He is married and lives in another country. Neither of those facts will change. Stop checking his social media and live YOUR life. Link to comment
monica85 Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 It's almost impossible Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Living your life is the only choice you have. Link to comment
hyden Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 It's almost impossible Almost impossible isnt impossible. It is difficult. Find other things to occupy your time so you dont dwell on him or stalk his FB. Cook, clean, work out, go to the movies, call friends, etc. But you have to want to move on. If you dont want to, you wont. Link to comment
monica85 Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 What if he lives his life happily after me? Link to comment
Birdie Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 You move forward and live your life happily. You happiness does not depend on him, the path your life takes does not depend on him. He doesn't matter. Link to comment
MiaBellaVita Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 No, you should not attempt to ruin his life. While you were "dating" he was in a relationship and about to get married. What did you expect to happen? He did not ruin your life. He broke up with you. He probably does not view it as ruining your life, and assumes you will get over it. And you will. It's just fresh now and you want to take our your anger on him. Don't. Telling his wife isn't going to make him come back to you. Let me put this in perspective for you... My husband of 12 years had an affair and then after months of torment and trying to work things out, up and left me, taking half of the income I was used to and leaving me on my own with 2 babies and a preschooler. He did not ruin my life and I have no desire to ruin his. You will get over this. If I can get over my obstacles and be better for it, so can you. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 What if he lives his life happily after me? The best revenge is a life well lived . Go be happy after him. He is not the end-all and be-all of creation. Link to comment
skern Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 You need to get some help and talk to someone. Ruining his life will not make your life better and it will only bring more misery on yourself. Get yourself a different plan of action and move on. Link to comment
Knot2loud Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 For whatever reason... He chose the other woman over you. Why would you want to try to ruin his life? You won't get him back if you do what you're thinking about doing. If you do and his wife splits up with him, he'll probably hate you and try to make amends with his wife. You're in a lose/lose situation. Link to comment
overthemoon86 Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 What if he lives his life happily after me? He probably will...and so should you! You should focus on your own happiness and inner peace. That is what is most important right now. You need to separate yourself from the situation with this man. Start healing. Link to comment
monica85 Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 But he still keeps saying that he loves me Link to comment
monica85 Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 He treats me like crap and when I tell him that I'm leaving he says that he loves me. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Leaving what???!!! You don't even live in the same country. Stop calling him. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 He is married. He is not available to be with you . Block him everywhere so he can not contact you and you can't look at his social media. Link to comment
monica85 Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 Every time he plays the victim game and tell me that if We would be in a happy relationship if I was a little patient. He tries to blame me for everything. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Why are you listening to his drivel? Link to comment
monica85 Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 Maybe cuz he's the only one I have Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Every time he plays the victim game and tell me that if We would be in a happy relationship if I was a little patient. He tries to blame me for everything. He married her AFTER he met you. That means he chose her...not you. He lives in a house, in a country...that is not your country. Link to comment
overthemoon86 Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Why are you still talking to him? You are just torturing yourself...he is married... Link to comment
monica85 Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 I'm gonna try my best to just end it completely Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 I'm gonna try my best to just end it completely Here's how to do it...delete his number from your phone and block his number so he can't reach you. You don't need to try...you just need to do it. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 But he has ruined my life. I felt like he lied to me every single day. He gave me anxiety and depression. And now he's so happy in his life. You reached out to him, after he married. You continued to engage with him and offered him help. You chose to engage with a married man. There are a lot of you's in there. How did this jerk ruin your life when you actively chose to speak to, and continue an affair? This guy lives in another country, which makes it even more ridiculous. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 It's really bothering me Why didn't it bother you when you were engaging with a married man? Link to comment
monica85 Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 Cuz I really thought he loved me Link to comment
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