Darksoul26 Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 I had three amazing dates with a guy from OLD we would have tons of fun and laugh and talk so much. Yet no physical contact has been made he hasn't even tried to hold my hand or give me any compliments or anything like that. Does this mean I have been friend zoned ? Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Has he asked to see you again? Link to comment
treesandbees Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Is he shy? Does it seem maybe he wants you to initiate intimacy first? Link to comment
Dottieflanogon Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 How old is he? Maybe he's taking it slow? I think there's a lot of pressure and awkwardness leading up to the end of date, you have a small window to make a move. Why don't you try a lil touching, light flirting during your date Link to comment
Darksoul26 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Share Posted November 9, 2015 Yes he has asked to hang out again Link to comment
notalady Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 That alone doesn't mean you've been "friend zoned" (a term I hate lol) and really, there is no such thing as friend-zoning when you met on a dating website. Either they are interested and keep asking you out or they don't. If he hasn't made a move in the next couple of dates I'd ask him what he's looking for with you (assuming you haven't already). Link to comment
Missed Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 If you think this guy seems great, then give him a few more chances. You never know.. But.. I dated a guy like that once, I tried to hug him once and he pulled away. We went out once again after that, nice walk and dinner and nothing even after that! So I started to back away, and he invited me to dinner once again I had a work dinner that night, he took it the wrong way (apparently I should have invited him along according to him). So I just didn't respond after that! Hmmmm! Link to comment
notalady Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Yes he has asked to hang out again That's the term he used, hang out? Link to comment
notalady Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 If you think this guy seems great, then give him a few more chances. You never know.. But.. I dated a guy like that once, I tried to hug him once and he pulled away. We went out once again after that, nice walk and dinner and nothing even after that! So I started to back away, and he invited me to dinner once again I had a work dinner that night, he took it the wrong way (apparently I should have invited him along according to him). So I just didn't respond after that! Hmmmm! Yikes... Who invites a new date to a work function? Something clearly not right with that guy. Link to comment
Missed Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 I never fully got that spark with him either. He was perfect on paper. But in person not so much. I guess I was holding onto the 'on paper' version of him not the 'in person' version. Anyway it's all character building for us all at the end of the day! Link to comment
Darksoul26 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Share Posted November 9, 2015 That's the term he used, hang out? Actually I asked him to hang out again but he hasn't replied to my text Link to comment
notalady Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Actually I asked him to hang out again but he hasn't replied to my text So you asked him out again, not the other way round? You just said in your last post that he asked you out again.. Link to comment
ManyDates Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Are you giving him the right signals to kiss you? ie. a close hug and looking at his lips/eyes/lips/eyes ? If not, he probably thinks you don't want it. Back in the summer I went on 2 dates with a chick that gave me ZERO opportunity to kiss her, even dropping her off at her door she just stood there with a non emotional face after hugging her and pecking her on the cheek....NEXT! Link to comment
James516 Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 I think the better description is that he has "friend-zoned" himself. He has given no compliments, no affection, no attempt to kiss.... seems like you should ask yourself if this is this the type you would want to date? Taking it slow would be a hug initiated by him, then a kiss on the cheek the next time, etc. He sounds like a buddy. If you don't want that, you're going to have to make some kind of move yourself. This is not quite the same situation - I once was spending time with a woman from work, we got along well, but I was unsure of dating a coworker. She was more bold and one night just turned to me and said "Are you going to kiss me or what?" That started things. I like them bold. That may not be your style but I think you will have to let him know soon that you're interested in being more than buddies or it will become that anyway. Link to comment
Sportster2005 Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Yes he has asked to hang out again Hang out or date? If it's hangout, you're in the friend zone. Link to comment
Realitynut Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 eh....these kids......they call it a 'hang out'....they don't say DATE!!!!! *Gasp* Link to comment
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