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  1. What? I didn't get married til I was 32. Still married a mean person. Married for 20 years. Now I'm 66. Try dating in your 60's....and you will realize that 30's was a breeze!
  2. OK.....right when things get interesting.....ND40 disappears. I always think it's when he's in a relationship and it's going good!!!! lol
  3. Good for you! ALL the boxes don't have to tick. You enjoy her company....she enjoys yours! Can't get any better than that!!!
  4. CRAP! calland make an actual DATE...that way she'll have to say yes or no. Sometimes I get busy...think I'll answer later...and then later never happens. Especially when it's a new thing.....
  5. This has really nothing to do with the OP....but i read the whole thread and was wondering why a 'doll' was worse than watching porn....fantasizing you are with the porn star and jacking off.....or with a doll and fantasizing who knows what. Either one is a fantasy in his head. I don't find a doll any worse than a real live person on screen. I'm thinking he's locking 'her' up so the kids don't accidently find her. You have lots of issues....but I don't find a life size doll to be the biggest. Have you ever known him to 'use' her yet??? Maybe she's just a 'crush' and he'll get tired of her. Also like was said, could use her in some role playing. Maybe he wants to be 'dominate'....and the doll is submissive. Who knows...I just don't find it that big of a deal.....
  6. awwww....I haven't had that for so long! Does feel good tho….
  7. After the fiancé dumped me for another woman....back in 2010....what brought me here, I was a HOT MESS too! And before. After a mental health nurse (friend) mention Borderline Personality Disorder, I read up on it. Had never heard of it. Spectrum illness. Emotions go from really up.....and crash at the drop of a hat. I went to a Dr. cuz I didn't want to say I had BPD, if I didn't. He told me he 'didn't have time for "somebody like me", and shoo'd me out of his office". I was crying. Said i'd been messed up since 7th grade. Don't know how he pulled that number out of his head. The whole time I talked to him, he sat with his feet up on the desk. It took me 4 months to get into him. A psychiatrist. I was going to try another doctor, but I was fighting depression at the same time. So.... So....not all Dr.s have the answer. And not all counselors are good at what they do. Just throwing that out there....Read up on it and see if anything sinks in. Russia had been thinking of changing the name Borderline Personality disorder, to deregulation of emotions. Emotions all over the place.
  8. I'm sorry about your mental health and ongoing issues with hubby. I can't help you with any of that....but has anyone talked to you about Restless Leg Syndrome. I remember my mom laying in bed bouncing her legs up and down. Then my twin brother had it....so it doesn't just affect old people. I have it when I do a lot of sitting. Unless you have it, you can't describe it. I always said it feels like your legs need exercise. I sometime just stomp them on the floor, move them up and down, rub. But I think it help to get up and WALK. It's more irritating than anything. But look it up. I think there is medication for it, but mine has never been so bad I needed to take a pill. But that might help with one issue. And walking...even if it's just around the house, will make you feel a tad better. (going off anti-depressants is never a good thing. I heard people just have a BAD REACTION to it.) Hold off on baby.
  9. My sis met her husband on eHarmony 10 years ago. Her time was just running out....he was just getting on. I tried during a free week or something. NOTHING. My sis is 6.5 years younger than me. Her hubs is my age. My twin bro met a woman on Match. He was almost 60, she was 33 with young children. When I got on eHarmony I didn't WANT a man 10 years older than me. You couldn't pick an age group. Plus, there was no one around me. I think eHarmony is about dead....
  10. Hi Cynders!!! I was looking at the forum, and noticing all the people i use to read, not on anymore. (I only comment) and i saw your name. I thought....surely NOT! But it was. Will look at your painting....but because I"M NOSEY....what's going on in your life? Romantically??? Anything???
  11. I was always told....the min. you stop looking, is the day someone will walk into your life! Hasn't happened to me...yet. But you are in such a good place, and once you move into your house, and fixing it up, you won't have time to dwell on your love life. Then after this pandemic is over, you are settled, you can head on out!!!!! Good Luck.....So happy for you!
  12. lol....exactly what Seraphim said. If i like someone....they can text the crap out of me. If im not that into them....why are they bothering me??? This 'woman' sounds as if she's 13!!!
  13. LOL...i didn't know that you weren't suppose to text again, if the person hadn't answered. I'm a long winded person, in writing, and verbage! lol. Sometimes I'll text a bunch....send....then remember something else I wanted to say. Or....when I had an actually bf, Anytime during the day, if I thought of something I wanted to tell him...I just told him. By text. I didn't expect a reply right away. That's why I like text, they can respond anytime they want. Even if I've sent 3 texts...not of course saying...hey, what's up....why aren't you responding!??? I have a feeling your new friend was excited about your virtual chat, and probably doesn't get a lot of opportunities to meet people. She's not busy online gaming...just sitting home with dear old dad. So....if her texting style drives you nuts now, it will really drive you nuts as time goes on. I would just tell her, I'm not on my phone all the time, and I prefer only short texts. And see what she does. She's asking all these questions, because that is what you are 'told' to do....ask questions to let them know you are interested. I would say, ya know, I really liked our chat, but I like things to evolve a little slower. Good luck......oh. I was on a pof site...(see??? another text) and I wrote a bunch to a guy who wrote to me first. He then responded...I think you talk to much for me! ugh.
  14. I feel like Wiseman said....if a guy just said, here's my number...call me. I wouldn't. Not after one date. I think a guy should be stepping up to the plate and pursuing ME this early in the game. I also, many years ago, had a gf who when she first met her future husband, she said he felt like an old friend she'd known forever. They were older. His wife died. Her divorced. Thru misunderstanding...he asked her out again...she said she couldn't. He took that as not interested. She WAS. Her Mother, who was in her 80's said CALL HIM. She did. Now married many years. The thing is, misunderstandings happen all the time. I have had 2 guys on the dating site say, here's my number. I have never even met them....I don't WANT to talk to them yet. Maybe for text. But they fall by the wayside anyway....so eh. Also, if I've had a good date, and the guy doesn't contact me for 3 days, I lose interest too! It does NOT build up interest for me! I WANT to know they are interested, but not be over the top! I've had those too. Contact her, and let us know how it goes. She probably had it all set up with the friend to pick me up at such and such a time. Maybe. If I'd had a terrible date, I certainly don't text the guy and say how wonderful it was....just sayin'
  15. I hope IAmFCA is OK......or maybe she is just happy! We need an update!
  16. House with pool....now you're a real catch!!!!!! lol
  17. I helped him with buying a house last year...and his girlfriend is living with him. And he's happy....so I can't ask for more. He was showing me stuff he was doing in the yard, so I was hoping less times with games. Now it's Dungeons and Dragons....oh well...
  18. Well....the people I mentioned are happily married...but not without their issues. AND the reason I said commitment phoebe…..was cuz he called himself that. He said he was a bit of a commitment phobe in the best of times. Sure, it would be nice to find someone who was perfect in every way....and loved to give bjs'.....but sometimes life just doesn't work out that way. If he's wanting to throw the proverbial baby out with the bathwater because of oral sex....so be it.
  19. Im a 65 year old woman....have always given bj's. Don't like oral on me....makes me uncomfortable. Have never climaxed during sex...only with vibrator. And that wasn't until my 30's....and trying hard to achieve one! lol I have talked to gf's that have told me they were married and never gave bj's. They found it disgusting....but have been happily married for MANY years! So....would you give up a woman who is amazing in every way......but doesn't like giving bj's….for a woman who might NOT be amazing, kind, attractive...but is really HOT in bed. Sometimes you just can't expect to have it all. My sis got married in her late 40's. She too says, her husband isn't the best sex she's ever had. Thinks he's a horrible kisser, but thought she could teach him. She couldn't. They've been married over 10 years, and divorce is not in the future. She said if she could put all 3 of her major relationships into one person....she'd have the perfect man. But who can do that? No one is perfect. My feelings are, pick your battles. I have 2 different gf's and we were talking...sounds like sex is about nil for them. Mostly because of ED in their husbands. But do they leave? Hell no. So I say, commitment phobe that you are.....are you just looking for excuses to leave? I mean...if she wasn't putting out at all...that would be a problem. But you ARE having sex. That's a lot more than many men on this site...and out in the world....are having!
  20. Don't feel like damaged goods! He's not the same man you married. I have a gf who was married for a very short time....got divorced, don't remember the reason. Met a man and married him after a short time! I was concerned. Been happily married for over 30 years and have a house on the river! We never even think of that first marriage. It's like it never happened. Move on...you're young, before he drags you down further!
  21. oh yes, I was addicted to ENA for a few years also....helped me during a terrible time in my life. Had been addicted to ebay for awhile...got me in debt. Now I come on here almost everyday...just to look at the journals....but it's not time consuming! Doesn't it give you a feeling of FREEDOM! My son has been addicted to gaming....practically his whole life. He's 31. He calls it his 'hobby'....so I stay out of it...other than the snarky comments, don't you ever go OUTSIDE??? Anyway....I saw you were on....remembered you from years ago....and wanted to say HI....sounds like life is good! Sauna...and girlfriend. Can't get much better than that!
  22. I'll say, before someone else does, please separate into paragraphs. Makes it easier to read. I read the whole thing, but it was difficult. Now, onto you guys. Of course it's only your side of the story, but yes, you sound as if you are walking on eggshells. I've read Men are from mars, and it's really into placating women's feeling. (which, I myself would like....but not all women! It makes you look like a pushover) Enough with the "I'm sorries" ….unless you really did say or do something WRONG...then they are just empty words. Sounds as if you can all have temper-tantrums, then sorry. I had/have problems with Borderline personality disorder. Lots of highs, then crashing when I feel I've been Hurt in someway. (ignored, something said, kids before me, etc. etc.) She seems mean spirited to me. Complaining you only had 5 min. with her the whole weekend, when you WERE with her the whole weekend....with the kids. Like a REAL couple. And then to complain when the 7 year old comes and asks when you are coming.....and she said it sounds as if they are running the show!!! NO! She's trying to hog into THEIR time....and have everything about her. It's ME, ME, ME....she sounds like a teenager instead of a 31 year old woman. Maybe that's why her ex husband ignored her...….
  23. I'm always jealous of mothers who have babies that are so passive! Get put down? Fine. Put in car seat? Fine. MINE>>...NOPE. HOLD me...FEED me. I was a walking pacifier! Long time ago....but I remember it like yesterday....and it wasn't fun. lol Congrats on baby.....when they start sleeping thru the night...is heaven!
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