Lucha Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 For those of you who have followed my story - starting with the breakup in november 2013, I posted a thread online in january or something because that ex had contacted me several times by phone which I ignored because I believed there was no use in talking since she was with someone else. Although I did feel as if things with her gf weren't going great - why would you contact your ex if it were great? It appears I was right, some friend of mine informed me of the fact she appears to no longer be in that RS. She informed me of it because she thought it would help me understand why she contacted me. Now I indeed understand I was about to be used as an emotional pillow. She hasnt contacted since because I didn't reply anymore. Just wanted to let you guys know! Greetings Verzonden vanaf mijn iPhone met Tapatalk Link to comment
Clinton Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Stop checking up on your ex. Inform your friends to stop updating you about her. You've heard this at enotalone all before but you are just holding yourself back. Let go for real and move on. Link to comment
jennylove Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Yes, NC means no updates from friends, no social media checkups, no nothing! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Good Lord! It's almost been 1.5 years. Move on! Link to comment
Lucha Posted March 9, 2015 Author Share Posted March 9, 2015 I didnt ask for it - and i have told my friends before i didnt want to hear from her - cant help it that they thought it would be beneficial for me to inform me of this news. Verzonden vanaf mijn iPhone met Tapatalk Link to comment
JA0371 Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 You guys who are saying 'move on' arent helping. It seems as if Lucha HAS moved on. She hasn't talked to her ex or engaged with her. She is simply updating. Not sure why that's such an issue. Thanks for the update Lucha. Glad you could see through our exes ploy. HOpe your next update is a much happier one... Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 But, you're posting about it. Should not be a concern . Link to comment
jennylove Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I agree with JAO, anytime someone posts "move on" or whatever alludes to such, it totally makes me cringe. If that person could move on, they would! I don't care how long they've been mourning over the loss, they have every right to post about it and not be made to feel worse than they already do. We don't know anything about the poster and ENA may be their only outlet. Telling someone to move on does not help, it can make them feel inadequate. Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Go Lucha! You did good, hold your head high and have a great week. Link to comment
Lucha Posted March 9, 2015 Author Share Posted March 9, 2015 Thank you jennylove and JAO, for the acknowledgement. Thank god I am no longer actively mourning the RS and I do not at all feel inadequate because I am working as a psychiatrist -to-be myself and I know all too well this is just how the majority of people will react to mourning or psychological issues: move on, get over it,... Which is why there are therapists to acknowledge the suffering of these people and to let them know it is okay to still not be over it or to have the need to talk about it. So I am not bothered by those reactions but thanks anyway, for those who are on here looking for support and get those replies and feel inadequate or not normal... ;-) Verzonden vanaf mijn iPhone met Tapatalk Link to comment
kbbcoop77 Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 We're all in the same boat waiting to get off Lucha! Good luck to you and wish you success in your profession Link to comment
Jewels7 Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 Yes I cringe when someone says just move on. I think if it were that easy sometimes we all wouldn't be on here. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 Glad you are feeling better about the whole situation. Link to comment
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