Fudgie Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 I am so, so happy for you. Now he will have these resources for life! I can't imagine the huge weight that has been lifted from your shoulders. 1 Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 15, 2022 Author Share Posted August 15, 2022 It definitely helps for sure . Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 24, 2022 Author Share Posted September 24, 2022 Today 8 years ago my son was diagnosed Autistic. Link to comment
mylolita Posted September 24, 2022 Share Posted September 24, 2022 4 hours ago, Seraphim said: Today 8 years ago my son was diagnosed Autistic. Morning Seraphim! Hope you are feeling better! I have noticed, some of the most intelligent and forward people in our society have been Autistic. A modern example is Elon Musk! I once over heard someone say “There is a little bit of autism in everyone” - is that completely untrue? Could you be so subtly autistic that you would almost “not register” ? I ask this question because I think people like Einstein for example, as far as I know, he was seen as quite normal but just highly intelligent and curiously creative. But I also know he didn’t speak till very late (a lot like my son!) and people and his parents did think something might be different about him. Do you think he could have also been autistic but just kind of, flew under the radar so to speak because he was still socially functioning? All the best! x Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 24, 2022 Author Share Posted September 24, 2022 No, there isn’t a little Autism in everyone. It is a completely separate neuro type. Their brain is actually physically different from the brain of neurotypical people. Some structures of the brain are either bigger or smaller. How it is wired is completely different and can be different depending upon the person. And this happens incredibly early in foetal development. What they figure even in the first trimester a baby is either Autistic or Allistic . The brain and how the brain is wired is different so how the nervous system operates with the rest of the body is different. In light of that because we are essentially our brain it also affects every facet of them as people and their bodies and experiences. It is like we can’t be a little bit pregnant we either are or we are not . What the issue is is some people may not be good at detecting Autistic people. And all Autistic people are different like all of us. Historical figures are difficult of course because you can’t diagnose them with accuracy. Elon, yes , I know about him being Autistic. He presents as Autistic in his movements and speech patterns and repetition of materials he wants you to understand. They can be INCREDIBLY insistent. This is more an aspect of you either are or you are not and happens in the very beginnings of development with the brain as a fetus. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted September 24, 2022 Share Posted September 24, 2022 A friend of mine has two children, both of whom have been diagnosed autistic. The children are not the same. His younger child has an easier time relating to people, makes friends easily and hasn't had any struggles in school or in having a social life. His older child (son) seems to have a much more difficult time. For example, I met up with the three of them at an event. His daughter was about four years old at the time and happily climbed into my lap, talking cheerfully and giving me hugs. His son, however, was not enjoying himself. He had thought the two daughters of some friends of his dad's were going to be there but they weren't. He kept repeating over and over "I wanted B and A to be here!" and slamming things and stomping his feet and basically wailing. His dad calmly kept answering "They're not here, T, I'm sorry". Then he wanted his dad to buy him a cotton candy and his dad said no. He proceeded to repeat "I want cotton candy!" over and over and his dad just kept calmly replying "No, I'm not going to get you a cotton candy". Apparently sugar caused issues for him, and since cotton candy is all sugar he didn't feel it would be good for him. I was really impressed with his dad. He never lost his patience or his temper. He stayed calm and replied in a loving way but stayed firm. The son also didn't seem to be able to make friends. For example, he had signed up to be one of the equipment handlers for his high school football team. When the season was over the team, coaches and parents went out for pizza. I saw a photo where the entire team was seated together at long benches and there was T, all by himself several feet away from the rest of the team. Not one team member came and sat with him. I still feel bad when I think about that, and it's been years! I thought, couldn't ONE kid have come and sat with him?? The kids are now adults. The son basically spends all his time with his dad. The daughter has a boyfriend and a job and lives with her mom and seems to be doing well. I do know the dad is a very devoted father so I'm happy for that. I've known these kids since their mom was pregnant with them so I'm a bit emotionally invested. The dad and I had a falling out (long story, not for this forum!) so I don't have any contact with them, but I hope his son is doing better and has a more fulfilling life. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 24, 2022 Author Share Posted September 24, 2022 Female Autistics tend to pretend to be more social due to more pressure to mask and “ be nice”. There is less social pressure on men to be that way. I know my son masks more heavily outside our home but not so inside. Masking is not good for Autistic people at all and they should never strive to do so. The adult autistic community many many many who are also other sexual orientations and gender expressions equate ABA and forcing people to act neurotypical to be congruent with conversation therapy for gay and other gendered people. ABA and conversion were started by the same people and it is all hideous abuse. NO ONE should be forced into acting as something they are not. My son does make a few good friends but never easily. He is very very difficult to get to know as he is not chatty or forthcoming. He also prefers no form of touch at all. Some Autistics particularly females tend to be very chatty and overshare, but not always. Others are very withdrawn like male counterparts. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 14, 2022 Author Share Posted October 14, 2022 Yay!! My accountant got back to me and she sent an email to the government. My son and husband just have to docusign it. That should get the ball rolling on our pay back . Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 19, 2022 Author Share Posted October 19, 2022 Yay!! Hubby’s taxes are being assessed! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 20, 2022 Author Share Posted October 20, 2022 Yes!!!!! Massive . We are owed about $40,000. 1 Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2022 Author Share Posted October 21, 2022 If this passes my son could get a federal disability monthly amount. It needs to pass 3 readings and have Royal Ascent and then it becomes law. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 24, 2022 Author Share Posted October 24, 2022 Expecting the first bulk payout on the 31st. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 25, 2022 Author Share Posted October 25, 2022 I noticed they had not reassessed my husband’s taxes for the year 2012. I contacted my accountant and she went in and looked because she thought she did it. It won’t let her adjust so she is calling the CRA in the morning. Sorry but I am not tossing another 3 large for my son into the trash. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 29, 2022 Author Share Posted October 29, 2022 We got the majority of our money today!! Yay!!!! 1 Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 7, 2022 Author Share Posted November 7, 2022 Just to highlight my son’s Autistic experience. At Mass this weekend there was a priest that was replacing ours because ours was on holiday. This threw my son into total disarray. The preaching style was different and the choice of when to do a parish specific prayer was different so my son was just in total process mess. To allistic people this generally makes no difference however to an Autistic person this is a catastrophe. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 3, 2022 Author Share Posted December 3, 2022 You can see the disconnect even at 2 months old. My sweet baby boy. 2 Link to comment
mylolita Posted December 4, 2022 Share Posted December 4, 2022 10 hours ago, Seraphim said: You can see the disconnect even at 2 months old. My sweet baby boy. Oh my goodness I can see a family resemblance! Cutie!!! Look at his little matching hat and pants! Oh my goodness! Edible! x Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 4, 2022 Author Share Posted December 4, 2022 3 hours ago, mylolita said: Oh my goodness I can see a family resemblance! Cutie!!! Look at his little matching hat and pants! Oh my goodness! Edible! x He was super adorable! Christmas 1997. 1 Link to comment
mylolita Posted December 4, 2022 Share Posted December 4, 2022 3 hours ago, Seraphim said: He was super adorable! Christmas 1997. Absolutely Seraphim!! What a little love! He looks like a little munchkin caught in the flash of a camera too me, I can’t see what you are seeing, but you know about autism and you know your son inside out! Do you think you could tell it someone is autistic even by interactions online? I wonder! My Mums autistic cousins son has been messaging me a lot lately with the run up to Christmas! Always the best conversations! I don’t mind them at all! Refreshing! x Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 4, 2022 Author Share Posted December 4, 2022 4 hours ago, mylolita said: Absolutely Seraphim!! What a little love! He looks like a little munchkin caught in the flash of a camera too me, I can’t see what you are seeing, but you know about autism and you know your son inside out! Do you think you could tell it someone is autistic even by interactions online? I wonder! My Mums autistic cousins son has been messaging me a lot lately with the run up to Christmas! Always the best conversations! I don’t mind them at all! Refreshing! x I can tell a lot of the time. Link to comment
mylolita Posted December 4, 2022 Share Posted December 4, 2022 2 hours ago, Seraphim said: I can tell a lot of the time. Do you think I’m “normal?” LOL actually lunatic egotist probably is a better diagnosis ha ha ha! Seraphim my afternoon therapist! x Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 4, 2022 Author Share Posted December 4, 2022 2 minutes ago, mylolita said: Do you think I’m “normal?” LOL actually lunatic egotist probably is a better diagnosis ha ha ha! Seraphim my afternoon therapist! x Hm a bit eclectic , a mix of contradictions, sometimes up and sometimes down. Like most people . 😉 1 Link to comment
mylolita Posted December 4, 2022 Share Posted December 4, 2022 1 hour ago, Seraphim said: Hm a bit eclectic , a mix of contradictions, sometimes up and sometimes down. Like most people . 😉 Thank you Seraphim! Do I pass? I hope? Haha! Enjoy Christmas with you and yours! All the best, x Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 4, 2022 Author Share Posted December 4, 2022 3 hours ago, mylolita said: Thank you Seraphim! Do I pass? I hope? Haha! Enjoy Christmas with you and yours! All the best, x You’re fine love . Merry Christmas to you and yours! 1 Link to comment
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