Fantanos Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Hello Everyone, This has been going through my head a lot lately.. If anyone read my thread yesterday they know the story of my past girlfriend and our sex issues. So I am good guy, I don't use girls and don't do one night stands.. I save sex for relationships and if I can hold out when I am in love with someone.. which doesn't always make it. I dress nice, I am good looking, financially stable, funny, like having a good time blah blah... all the good stuff, at least I think and I am told. But I am looking for a good girl, a sexy girl but not trashy, a girl with my Christian beliefs, down to earth, good career, wants marriage, will be faithful and wants kids some day. So my question is are there good girls out there like this that can be a freak in bed too? I have a strong sexual mind, I am kinky and like trying new things. From my past relationships and flings I always went for the bad girls because they showed signs of liking this stuff... but the bad girls only last so long, they cheat usually and are hard to trust. The good girl is the girl I want but the good girl doesn't have my sexual interest.. she is right in all areas but the sex. In my past I have only had one girl that I considered a good girl that was a surprise in bed. So I guess my question is are there good girls out there that are bad in bed?? Am I asking for too much? I am not a super freak in bed, not like bondage and whips, just a good sexual experience in general and often. My last girlfriend has really got me on edge about this. We had other reasons besides just sex from splitting but we thoughts of trying to work it out... the lack of sex and willingness to please is eating at me. Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Of course, there are tons of them. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Yep. 10charcters Link to comment
22n32 Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 I don't know about tons of them.. but they are outhere.. Id say for every 10 good girls.. 1-2 might have that.. I'm with u.. I feel the same way.. and I've been stuck with bad girls because of this.. But it is rare to have both IMO.. I've asked myself many times what more important.. a good girl, values, moral, etc .. or just good sex.. good girl will win in the long run for me.. Link to comment
MrWallFlower Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 What is your definition of a "good" girl because a Christian girl probably wouldn't be into fornication. Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 The best part about being with girls like you describe is that they will trust you 100%, which in my experience is never the case with promiscuous one-night standers, who have walls up around their emotions and have somewhat of a ceiling because of the emotional intimacy problem. When you have a relationship where you trust each other completely, she'll be willing to try anything you like. You might have to do a little teaching, but that brings you even closer. Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Sex is a practiced art, with good communication and openness then even the holiest of women can "do the nasty". Link to comment
BritterSweet Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 I'm awaiting the opportunity to be this ...there are limits, though... Link to comment
In the Dark Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 I have pondered over this sort of. There is this general assumption is based on the way a person presents themselves and behaves in everyday life equates to how they are going to be in bed. The best thing is to never assume anything until you do get to know someone from a sexual aspect. Say just because some woman dresses up in black, with a collar, chains and lots of eyeliner doesn't mean she is into bondage. She might totally dislike being tied up but enjoys restraining a guy, whipping them and putting things where guys generally prefer not things top be put. Link to comment
chr8st8na Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 There are girls like that. You just never know until you get to know them under the sheets. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Yep. My bf thought I was a prude when he first met me (I look innocent), but he realized that I was anything but. Link to comment
mustard1234 Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Yes. They do exist. Link to comment
OrangeMoon Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Of course there are!..I am a good girl and love sex, can talk openly about desires, have never cheated, very loyal, spiritual (not religious), but very playful with the right guy.. And I have friends (white, black, asian) who are like me...but we don't shout it of the rooftops..we give subtle signs..Its about trust really..because when you are dating a 'good girl' with a sexual appetite, she most likely will not flaunt that immediately..because she doesnt want to attract you because of that or run due to that.. I cant tell you how many guys have called me uptight or preudish in the beginning stages...so funny that...I mean Really funny..But I was only like that when I distrusted their motives. When I like someone..and trust them..I do show that side of me..but just because I have a feeling they can see the balance between the 'the good and the bad' of my personality.. Link to comment
taybay Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 wow. your post describes me perfectly Yes there are those girls out there, or there must be because im one of them! I have christian beliefs and all the this and that of being a good girl. That is the general impression. But I loveeeeeeeeeeeee sex. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 when people see me they think i am a huge prude, uptight and what not, i am a good girl in every sense of the word, but at the same time, i love sex, can't get enough, love pleasing my BF in every way, love experimenting, so yes, those girls do excist.....i read a lot about women who are not into sex and i always wonder why, sex is amazing and such a great way to connect to your partner.....glad i do love it! Link to comment
Rangafro Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 It's a rather unjustified stereotype that if you like non-standard sex you must not have ethics or you are sexually indiscriminate. Some things are completely impractical or irresponsible to do without someone you genuinely trust and respect, the sort of thing that comes from a strong long term relationship. What exactly is a "good girl" anyway? It sounds like something a father would say about his daughter. Actually, I think I know where that idea comes from but this forum is entirely not the place to discuss it. Link to comment
Fantanos Posted January 27, 2012 Author Share Posted January 27, 2012 wow. your post describes me perfectly Yes there are those girls out there, or there must be because im one of them! I have christian beliefs and all the this and that of being a good girl. That is the general impression. But I loveeeeeeeeeeeee sex. Then I think we should meet up LOL. Link to comment
Fantanos Posted January 27, 2012 Author Share Posted January 27, 2012 Well I am glad to see there is others out there thinking the same and good girls that can go bad lol. Right now I have been chatting with this new girl for about 3 weeks, we text a lot and hang out together on the weekends with friends (she is a friend of my friends girlfriend) so it is nothing serious, just getting to know each other, a few hugs, one kiss and a sleep over with no sex or intimacy other than cuddling. So a few times when texting some sex related fun things have come up and we joke around about it a little but she always changes the subject... which is probably best. From what I can tell and hear she is a very good girl, shy and doesn't sleep around.. so what I am looking for. But I get worried that she is too good to be a freak in bed LOL. Stupid worries I guess and since I am out of relationship recently I don't want to find out for awhile... I want to go slow no matter what my urges are. My ex and I just had a rough sex life and I get so worried of having that again that I am now over thinking it... I never worried about this stuff until now. But I agree with a lot of you as well, sex is based on the relationship too and how you act and love each other. Sex in a relationship shouldn't be just sex.... it should be passionate and meaningful, with wants to please your partner. Link to comment
Stay_home Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Those are usually the best ones. Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Yes I'd say there are. I wouldn't say tons of them but they are out there. There are also girls that say they are but when it comes down to it they are actually prudes, lol. Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Yes I'd say there are. I wouldn't say tons of them but they are out there. There are also girls that say they are but when it comes down to it they are actually prudes, lol. The opposite is true too. I've been with a former stripper and she was the most boring I've ever had. Link to comment
greywolf Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Of course there are. There are probably a lot more out there than we know because 'good girls' are taught that they shouldn't be doing 'bad' things. Even you calling it "bad" makes me wonder if you have some sexual issues that need to be resolved. Link to comment
taybay Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Then I think we should meet up LOL. Haha im a bit too young for you, but other wise, wouldve been agreed! Link to comment
Fantanos Posted January 28, 2012 Author Share Posted January 28, 2012 Of course there are. There are probably a lot more out there than we know because 'good girls' are taught that they shouldn't be doing 'bad' things. Even you calling it "bad" makes me wonder if you have some sexual issues that need to be resolved. What sex issues do I need resolved? "Bad" is just a term chosen by me and a majority of the people understood what I meant. Link to comment
taybay Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 Calling sex "bad" doesnt mean anyone has "sexual issues." Sex is generally described as naughty, bad, etc and is a term used to describe it sometimes. I was taught that I shouldn't do "bad things," but its up to the person to make their own opinion on it. Link to comment
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