Nirvana1986 Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 Hey there! I would like your opinion on a situation. My ex and I have been broken up for almost six months. We have had NC > LC > NC and now we went back to LC again, trying to keep it friendly. Our break up wasn’t necessarily very messy apart from the fact that she got a new partner very quick after we broke up. But there was no cheating, lying, nor calling each other names or any of that stuff. This is mainly why I am trying to stay friendly with her. Anyway, like I said, our communication is very limited… once a week, the most. Last week she sent me a text asking me if I knew of someone that would want to adopt a cat she had just rescued. I replied jokingly that I would adopt if it wasn’t for my two big monsters already living at the house. She sent me a picture of her laying on the bed with the kitty so I could see the kitty, but how do I wish she had never sent me her picture. She looked beautiful. I quickly deleted the pictured after seeing it, of course didn’t say anything to her, but now I am back to dreaming of her. I have not dreamed of her for the past 2 months or so. Anyway, we still texted back and forth for a little bit and then she said “Oh, don’t forget my birthday party next Saturday at my house. I really really hope you can make it. It’s been too long”. I told her I wasn’t sure but I was going to let her know by mid next week (this week). She lives about 3 hours away, but she knows that’s not an issue with me. When we were together I was driving to her almost every weekend. I already know I am not going. I am not ready. I can’t go. I am not going to go to see her with her partner (as far as I know they are still together but I don’t know much details because I don’t ask and she doesn’t tell me). But also, it’s the second time she has invited me to town… last time was really easy to turn down because I had family in town so I couldn’t go anyway. I don’t really want to make up a BS excuse and have to lie to her, but at the same time, I know she has no idea I still have feelings for her. Anyway, I was thinking of maybe sending this text tomorrow and I would like to see your opinion on it… I know I am probably over thinking this, but your advice will be much appreciated! “Hey A, While I do appreciate you inviting me to your birthday party, I don’t think it’s a good idea for me. I am not quite ready for that just yet. I do want to wish you a very, very, Happy Birthday, and I hope you have a great day surrounded by your friends and loved ones. L. Link to comment
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